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Does Toasting Still Work These Days?

I think the traditional toasting of chics these days no longer works like before cos I usually listen to female friends narrating how they kick the butts of the guys who come arround to woo them. This got me thinking if theres a new method on board to capture those sexy things. Abeg you peeps should brief us on the latest ways to plug into a girls heart if actually theres any.

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if uve got the right lines then of course

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mehn this problem is every where ohhh, most especially with black chicks weda naija or south african or congolese self they are all thesame.

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if you can stack 5 stories that give you social value together within 5 mins,then you are gold.Naija guys should also learn group theory and how to yab there target nicely.The higher the class the higher the yabbing.works well.

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Please help out,

Can any one give some examples of how to toast a chick you have not met before??

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Now I know why you see all those guys (especially 419ers) that can't even speak a complete english statement, walk up to a classy lady and start blabbing. My carribean peeps used to ask me why naija guys seem to assume they are fronting when they say no to a ride in their "range rovers" or any other car. Now I know, u all seem to think ur money has spoken the english properly for you erh?

Toasting doesn't work without the proper tools (not necessarily money). It's all about clean looks, clean cut, clean english, and clean swagg. Money doesn't cover up all these things

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guys u all shld bone, class or not with enough toasting you will see them asking after you when you are not there.

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Toasting my foot!

It can only work when you have money, the ladies slogan now is " FOR MONEY FOR STAY, FOR POVERTY FOR GO".

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Men, guyz, boyz, They r al overgrown babies, lolz

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I think what Faher wrote in the first reply, sadly, pretty much sums it all up. As for swagger, that has to include lies and what I call "sweet mouth." Else, you have to continue the trial and error method before you land yourself a lady.

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Check this out

A GUY on a DATE in an X6 BMW with a Naija babe and the following Ensued. GUY: I hid something from you, GIRL: what is that my love?, GUY: I'm already married, GIRLHiss* You scared me, I thought you wanted to say the BMW is not yours

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Yeah yeah. Whatever!

Lol

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Its old fashioned to me.

Flattery is not gonna take you anywhere. So just strike up a nice conversation without the usual toasting lines and if you are okay, then we are good to go.

I mean become friends.

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honest, k remind me *winks*

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Nope.

It connotes different meanings.

I meant we can become friends.

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@190, can't remember ~

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@topic, toasting still works but it depends on how the guy handles it ~

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^^

No it do not work

U mean if i toast you now u go gree

or have u forgotten i toasted mama-gee for 6months she nor gree~

@charmpaski

BM Xseries 010 model is too much sef,

a 14million naira BMW-X6 would do the damage 2 all ladies out there~

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Guys wait until u see an slowpoke carrying miss Ni9a, wat do u think trips her, is it because of d fact dat he mumbles over words for like 20 minutes b4 finally making sense out of nonsense or is it bco he drives a 2010 BM X series with so much money to throw around? my broder, “no money no romance”, dats d SWAGA.

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THIS POST CROWNS IT UP,

THREAD LOCKED~

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@post

Yes it still works but you will have your shiznicks from the 19th century into the 21st

simple as abc

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na bread? Lol!

"wooing is now a thing of the past" says someone

Dear Nigerian Guys

Well these days, boys are now very very lazy! they want everything to come to them effortlessly.

they want the girl to be very attractive, educated, a little rich would be an added bonus.

SHAME ON YOU, BOYS!

You want all but have nothing to offer, and you wonder why females are selective.

You spend more time nagging and complaining.

if she not pretty enough or a working class or educated, you write her off.

We work hard to maintain our status and you want to come in and reap from where you did not sow.

Nowadays, you don't woo her, you just pretend to be her friend, get close to her, then maybe a little stolen kiss here, there and voila! she's your babe.

she works hard, only for you to spend her money (sometimes on other girls), if she gives, you complain, if she doesn't, you still complain.

Complain! Complain!! Complain!!!

If she complains you say she's a lesbian or something

you want her to behave more like a 'woman' soft and cuddly but you expert her to work for you, clean after you, even cuddle you.

while you sit at large doing what you know how to do best, nothing!

Shame on you all.

from all women of substance.

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WHERE ARE ALL THE NAIRALAND LADIES / CHICKS, ? LET'S HERE YOUR POINT ON ALL THIS

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ARE WE STILL ON THIS ISSUE?

OYA' THIS IS MY LAST STATEMENT,

Does of you who have fly rides, you cannot deny, you have not noticed the difference, in the time required to woo! a lady,

if you have forgotten so easily, pack your car for 2 weeks and go hunting, good luck

Does of you, who dont ride fly cars, try buy, borrow or rent for 2 weeks, i promise you would be at WINNERS, for 1st service to give the greatest testimony of your life, if you re a muslim, ASALATU every night, lol

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hello brownteeth

yea, great post.

toasting works greatly now as it did years back,

but the problem is the how people do it now ,

for you to really get the girl you want , you need an attitude.the proper spirit,that is

confidence, guts, humor, you could check out http://tiponattractingwomenlikemagnet.blogspot.com/ for more info.

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@topic of course it still works

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@All,

LOL,, it's been really an entertaining thread.

like i always tell my friends,all the lessons of life have been taught to us all since primary school.

"4 legs Good,2 legs Bad"

Go back to your George Orwells's animal farm and see the wisdom.

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@Harakiri, The fact is both men and women have their LIMITS, even you might get disgusted with yourself if things are not looking up, it is a human emotion and that does not automatically make the woman a gold digger, there are a variety of reason why she may even be frustrated, It could be that the guy is not making an effort to reach the potential she believes he has, And for pete's sake if she can stay with him for 10years, doesnt that go to show that she is definitely not after his doe??

A woman dear to my heart got married and for 10 years both of them were dead broke and could not even afford to pay the fees of their kids, yes she got frustrated at times because she had to take her kids out of school and put them in way cheaper schools but that dint break her and her husband, they roughed it out and now they are both so comfortable that they were able to send one of their kids off to the states to pursue a degree, If there are women like here still existing, then not every woman is all about looking for loaded guys

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Frank talk,,,,, it doesnt .you just need to have money and maybe a car.most important lyou need money.

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The only toasting in Naija now is a toasting of Money for pocket, baff-ups and cars like dis>>> even Gene viv self go fall, my people if you no get money just borne struggle

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@lanrei. . .I'll explain the 'limit' with an example. Women who get involved with poor guys do so hoping things will change someday. Imagine if they are married for ten years and things are still the same or even worse. When it dawns on the woman that the light at the end of the tunnel wont appear anytime soon,she will grow weary,tired and even disgusted of the man. This is real life and not hollywood. At that stage,she's close to breaking point and approaching the LIMIT of what she can endure. In btw, me and my woman are good and living the good life now. Thanks.

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@Ebonyeyes

longtyme, wia v u been since all dis while? (hardly see ur post)

u'r welcome!

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M*O*B (money over Bi*tch*s),

Who needs toastn dese days?? Outdated!!! Wen we got internet sites where u can pick ur type of girl, All u need do is floss some crazy pictures of cars or lau lau things, U got urself fixed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know what i'v done wif dating sites n i really weep 4 Nigeria,

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^^^ I respect yours too. Keep being yourself

Take care

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@father thats ur conclusion, all the women i know who are MY friends are not gold diggers, but responsible women, so there is no way we can agree on that one, But i highly respect ur opinion, I really do,

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@harakiri then i guess i should just conclude that every guy is a gold digger since all the men i dated previously sucked me dry, strange aint it, but am a go-getter which always made me financially independent and every guy i was with made me spend so much on them cos i am a strong and independent woman, and i know a lot of ladies have the same story to tell at some point,

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I guess you can say every man you've met was a gold digger, but you won't find many ladies saying the same.

This character of women (preferring the rich or comfortable) is one of the few things in life that is certain.

I don't even know why there's a debate on it.

It's the equivalent of saying: Almost all (>99%) people like to eat. That's a sure fact

If you've read related books and carried out surveys on your own, you'll understand what I'm saying

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^^^ More Like Matt 6:33

But seek ye first the kingdom of Money, and its associates (e.g Car, House etc); and all these women shall be added unto you.

Guys, I'm not trying to blaspheme or anything like that. Just having fun, God forgive me

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4get toasting. u gotta get ur paper son. i mean ur bread. then every other thing shall be added unto you.

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Toasting still works but a girl gets tired of the same tired re-hashed and unimaginative toasting lines. Imagine a girl walking down the street and 10 different guys use the "Your face looks familiar" or "Are you Temi from the beach party on saturday" line? its bound to get tiring lol.

Also I think guys have low self esteems these days and give up before even trying on attractive girls, saying things like; "She cant be single she is very attractive" or "She is way out of my league so I will just not even go there". These are usually the men who resort to yahooism or ritualism to get their monies up.

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@Elpieda. . . Trust me, i know all about the relationship you are in coz mine is the same. Let me open up a bit. . . I was in a furniture-less room and parlor BQ when i started dating my woman. No tv, no home theatre, no dstv, no car. . .hell, i had to collect amstel malta on credit from Northerner on her first day of visiting (Now thats you call a first impression that sticks. . .). She stuck with me till my business started florishing and i moved into a flat. She even borrowed money several times to help me out when my whole world came crashing down. Last year was the most horrible in my 30 years of existense. I was so broke that i should be selling stocks on the Nigerian stock exchange as a 'broker'. It got so bad and she got weary and tired of me. We quarrelled, made up, quarrelled some more and made up again. I'm glad thats all in my past and i'm not ashamed to talk about it provided it drives home a point. And the point is 'EVERY WOMAN HAS A LIMIT'. . .including yourself. In between, you have used up my credit with all this phone typing so send me credit. . .lol. Take care.

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@Elpieda

I respect your stance. but trust me, we're not making hasty generalizations.

Almost every guy has the same story about women, so what else do you want us to believe?

Btw, <1% could be anything from 0 - 1%

Many of us hope to meet your type but have never had the luck

And trust me, it's not because we flashed our cash first.

Some guys dress well, act well, look handsome and have good prospects,

but have been robbed of girlfriends by richer guys.

So what do you expect us to do? lie about it?

Stop looking only through your glasses, you're probably the only owner of that brand

Please put your foot in our NIKEs and see how it feels.

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@father, Less than 1% is still something if you apply that percentage to the number of women in Nigeria, Yes I totally agree that majoriy of women login to loaded guys and I must admit, am sad its the case, I have lived in Nigeria for a very very long time so am not oblivious to what is going on in the country right now, But I am not going to accept defeat by going with the idea that every woman is like that, Because that is just a hasty conclusion just like i will never ever buy the idea that all men are cheats or there are no virgins anymore and all the crap that people talk about,

Just because its commonplace doesnt give anyone of us a reason to generalize and thats the point am trying to make, so Men still have the opportunity to go seek out the women who wont "suck them dry" rather than accept the fact that all women are "gold diggers"

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@Elpieda

It's either you don't live in Nigeria,

or you are in Nigeria but very oblivious of the things going on around you.

At least, you can see from all the responses so far, that you're the only one with a different view.

If what you say is true, then you deserve praise.

But at least you can see you're part of the less than 1% of women around.

The majority situation is what we're trying to discuss, not some rare case like yours

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@harakiri, No I dont get your point and no you are not making any sense at all, now i see why u have this mentality, Its because u are stuck with a girl who treats u that way, well what a shame, but u still cant use that to judge every woman.

And being with a guy with hope of improvement is not wrong. It shows u can stick with that guy thru thick and thin, so that even when the so called riches come and go, u can still stick with him, U dont know me so u cant judge what i will or will not do. I dont need for my man to be RICH with all the so called cars u just mentioned, if we are both comfortable(depending on ur definiton of comfort) then am happy,

I believe in sharing, so even if he becomes the richest man in the world, i still believe we both should share resources and pay for things in the most equitable way possible, thats how things are with the man am with, so i have a totally different experience from u,

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@Harakiri

Keep the flag flying. Tell them as it is.

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@ Elpieda. . . Women who settle for poor guys (including yourself) do so hoping things will improve some day and you can both live the lavida loca lifestyle you've always wanted. If improvement doesnt occur,believe me your attitude towards him will begin to decline. Imagine bumping into some old classmates and they are riding GLK's and LR2's while are hopping from brt to keke napep. They are flashing sony ericcson satio,ipone 4 and black berry bold and you find it difficult to bring out your N2,000 china kpalasa phone. That day will be sooo terrible that you will yourself giving your man hell at home for nothing. I have been with one girl for almost four years and she's the best marriage material in the market BUT i have noticed that she treats me like royalty when i have excess cash to throw around but when i run down, its back to normal e.g same old,same old relationship. I hope you get my point. . . Typing with phone isnt easy, lol

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hahahahaha , see as woman cheap reach, LMAO, just for car, , Swagger dey work wella, but make you sabi and you get the energy, hahahahahah

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@harakiri Well if both of them had brains I can almost bet you that the rich one would lack in CHARACTER and INTEGRITY and would probably be an ARROGANT fool who lacks respect for others, and am definitely not the type who is blinded by money not to notice that and so i will still not pick the rich guy, I know u will argue with that and say not all of them lack in character then I will conclude that not all women "login" to loaded guys and look down on "poor" guys.

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