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Dosent The Love Of A Woman Sometimes Choke U To Death?

Yes, I know we men can do anything to get the love of a woman we desire. But sometimes they tend to want to over feed you with love that you want to choke to death.

those that can flash you will want to flash you to death

those that can call you will kill you battery with constant calls

those that can visit you will want to be your roommate; pretending to leave their undies and other important stuffs

All in the name of love

I am sorry ladies but, guys, how do u think I can handle them when they start choking me with love?

I gat this chick that I really care for, but I would like it if she could just gives me breathing space, I have tried all ways to make her know that I am cool with her no matter the distance or how few times we meet, but she ends up interpreting this the other way round i.e That i dont love her,

Oh! how i wish she could know how much I care for her and how she is killing off my love with too much of hers

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too much of everything is bad as we all know,

Frank u are too right, most men feel the same way u feel, u aint the only one

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if you want to make a relationship last both parties have to meet half way O . Or at least let it be someone win a battle here and lose a battle elsewhere.

@ poster if you truly love her then find a balance . if she does not listen either live with or kiss her goodbye.

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Wow different people with different opinion, u have all spoken well there is time for everything and too much of everything is BAD,

Don,t get me WRONG

Still SICILY JONES

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and does the lack of love/care or inability of a woman to express it to you too ofter bother you?

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Sillyboy and iceblue carry go

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nothing works now except gmail

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Seems u didnt get me. I mean if u have that jeep the probability of you losing your sim will reduce.

Common, get online and let's talk

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@ Iceblue

Hey yah. . . . berra tell that ur oga to give u a brand new jeep!

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just be careful o! so u dont end up in a lose-lose situation

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Well said.

I just think guys that think thier women or girlfriends show too much care, must check themselves. Cos if they don't you think they are seeing some

other guy or something. These things can be checked if the guy is trusting and all. If you have a guy that has got tendencies to cheat, men you have to

keep tabs else you are likely to loose him to another woman or you take a hike.

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aiight broda i feel u sha but i must confess say women ehn once dem love u na die b dat coz dem go feel say if them leave us one bit we go change like cameleon but it can be choking, my babe dey call me like 20times aday even no dey miss every weekend for my krip self but wetin we go do?

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Hi, Naja Haje, remeber me? the guy who thought your user name sounds like a masqurades. we became friends and i almost fall inlove before I was banned for being too agressive. well am back. guess I am now a better person.

back to the topic

the problem with this world is over indulgence in anything we do, as in excess deprivation or over indulgence.

the question i want to ask is, why is it that women like doing any they do in excesss

if they want to become theives they usually go to the extreme

if they are intelligent they are too much

if they want to steal money from the government, there own wil be different,

if they are after drug marchents, they step on every bodies toe

if they indulge in alcohol, no one can control them

if they want to be good, they are too good,

if they want to be bad, wow!

if they are fed up in a relationship, there is no going back

if they want to do shakara, they over do it

if the LOVE you, they will want to even kill u with love

no want to God allows very few of them to be at the top of affairs in life situations

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One person and she is a crowd?

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@ NJ HJ.

Excatly my point. The two have to be on the "same page". . else, one will be "chewing guming" the other. It is left for each other to discern if his or her partner are on the same page.

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@ Poster,

Seems you've gat time for unnecessary rubbish too. . . . u r gettin to sound "wussy" to me

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thank you very much sisterwoman, I think u gat my point.

@Missyb and Tgirl, i think you girls just choose not to understand me. I believe the best woman for any man is the woman who can constanly make her man crave for her. I belive you girls should know this.

I really do love this girl, i know i do, yet as a man I want her to continue making me crave for her without letting me tell her to.

I know she loves me for sure, but thats not the reason why she should call me 20times a day and still acuse me of not calling her 20 times a day because she is the one doing more calling.

Today she called me at work while I was with my boss, putting me in the tight position of choosing between picking her call and neglecting the impressiong I might leave on my boss about me for picking the call, knowing that if i dont pick her call she will accuse me of not picking her call, yet if i tell her to take it easy on how she calls me she gets unhappy that now that she loves me so much i dont love her again, and i care so much for her that i dont want her to feel this way.

cant you see that she is making feel relaxed in this relationship? this is the worst thing that can happen in a relationship - COMFORT ZONE . I want her to feel i dont love her so much like i really do, and i want to feel she doesnt love me like she really does also, that way, we both will continue working hard to win each others love as we want (not knowing that its really there)

Hey girls out there this is just it, the continuous struggle, isnt it what this life is all about?

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I get what they are saying.  God knows I have been there.  It seems to happen to me with the guys that never believe they can be with someone so pretty, r just getting out of a relationship or are "love junkies" or have self-esteem issues or insecurities.

It can choke you to death.  When you see their name pop up on the phone you think dam it let me miss you and call you.  Please stop calling me so much.  If you notice that you do all the calling.  Stop It!!!!! there is a problem.  let him/her call you.  If I you get upset because i went to take a poo and did not tell you STOP IT!!!! you are smothering me to death.

I was picking out my clothes, getting to work and handling my daily items on my own before you, let me keep to do it unless i ask for you help.  If you find yourself inviting yourself over STOP IT!!!!  If i want you to come over i will ask you.

Over smothering has ended enough relationships and really taught me to back off of guys and be careful not to do it to them.  I can love but not smother you.

Why would i want my phone to keep beeping and ringing while i am at work.  How exactly does that reflect positively on me at the office?  How is waking me up in the middle of the night good for me if I have to go to work the next day?

I feel yall for real.  I like to know you are thinking of me but poo too much of any thing is gluttony and that is sinful.

*modified* dont mind me this morning spelling and grammer and missing words I have not had my coffee yet

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Missy b,

I guess what we are seeing here is lack of sincerity. The poster claims he loves the girl, hmm, I really find that hard to swallow now,

I'm sure he doesn't really, trully, and sincerely love the girl.

my conclusion will be that he doesn't know what he wants,

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Make me understand berra for the only reason I'm still postin' on this thread

is 'cause you're the first man that I've seen complaining of  EXCESS LOVE

but I cannot complain of gettin' choked as a result of excess love.

If I'm right,the posta isn't complainin 'bout a dummy girlfriend.His censure is on excees love

which is strange to me.We tend to get tired when our men are as weak as ripe plantain.

C'mon. . . which man hates to receive a call frm his wife in the office jst to hear'You're the best baby'

or 'please come home early,I can't wait to see you'?Like Tgirl and I said. . . Identify the problem.

It's either she's nosy or a dummy or y'all are insatiable.Excess love?please,if you tell me that again. . .

I'm afraid I'mma faint.

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u reall gat the point there sillyboy, i think you have said it all, i really like it when people show this much wit.

Missyb, Life is not about thinking that you are tough or that u know it all, it has its on surprises for u, that will seem to want to shake your faith or strong belives. Obviously, u didnt understand what i mean by WOMEN FEELK THE SAME WAY TOO, cos your explanation is really off the point from what i meant. just read the last sentence of sillyboy's post, you will understand better.

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@ Desiree1.

What I mean by a girl "chewing guming" is a girl that is too clingy and over dotting.

@ the ladies.

Please don't get me or other guys that we are on the same page wrong. It's good to be lovd and appreciated. Every man would love to be loved and appreciated.

But when woman goes over the roof to pamper and dott over her man, this most of the time pisses the guy of (well, I think a real man). And there is the liklihood that the guy becomes spoilt and take the woman for granted. Its just like parents over pampering their kids and at the end , the kids later turn out to be problems.

also note that this also apply to guys that dott or over pamper their girls too. Girls like guys that arebrazen and "manly". It's just a normal natural human relationship rule.

Hope y'all gettit.

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exactly how it is

men r babies chika,treat them like one,know wat they need,give it to them,the key to every channel of their heart will b under ur care

it takes one intelligent person to understand dat

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chikito1

you do well, I am not surprised that your man is the one doing the chewing gumming, I think you have got what it takes.

To other girls out there, i am not really compaining, I just wanted to find out if i am the only guy who feel this way, but as it stands the feeling is like that in most men. Right now i know there is nothing wrong with me.

as for my girl, i will try and play some stunts with her, something that will make her change for good., hope it works. thanks guys

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Missy B, I think you are being uneccearily agressive. Sometimes women feel this way too, the fact that we are airing our view from the mens point of view does not make us any worse than females. Infact it makes us better people because we are just trying to be truthful and open.

@sisterwoman

honestly, I dont think this has got to do with wheather on has self esteem or not. I just think it is just absolute misunderstanding. women who overlove their guys either think they are doing the right thing or have lost control of themselves and therefore dont even know what they are doing. as they say, love can be intoxicating.

and to all ya girls thinking that we men are selfish and wicked, I want to tell you all that men are just like babies(grown up babies therefore more complicated) you just give them what they want and u are in control of them.it takes an intelligent, strong, and sexy woman to do this and not and overpampering girlfriend.

MissyB, Men and Dog?, let me tell u your problem, you are just trying to avoid getting hurt because u cant hanlde it. well, guess what? we men get hurt also, but we stil dust ourselves, get up and move on and in a couple of weeks we have found ourselves another love. we dont degrade ourselves and give our love(even though broken) to innanimate objects or our animals.

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I discovered that ladies that do like this are those you struggle to reason with. any reasonable babe will understand and appreciate your need for space. trust me, its all about their low self esteem, being less busy and over emotional.

this also goes for those guys that choke their lover. they cry fire when there is none.

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My sister, the thing dey compulsory o !

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Meeeennn,  it can be so annoying atimes. I love her so much but she gives no gap at all.

Kai the love strong pass JULIUS BERGER CEMENT ! So tay i nor dey fit to dey travel !

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I think it really boils down to everything is not for everyone.

Each person is different and requires a different kind of love. what works for this man will not work for the next. I believe that for each women there is a match and vis versa.

If the love is not the type that is for you then let it go before it drags on too long and feelings are hurt and people start stalking you and trying to kill you cuz they feel like you used them.

Just let her know that this is not working for you.

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I think guys are generally selfish and egoistic. They want to be in control of everything to the extent of determining how a woman will love them.

Na the woman i blame sef. If u think she is doting then be willing to give her away cos someone else will sure appreciate her.

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The reality is the women you are choosing are women that dont have lives of thier own. They have nothing else to do then to wrap thier lives around yours.

They need a hobby, friends, a job or something other than just you to think about.

I have never been the clingy type of woman and could never understand or deal with the clingy type of man.

I have my own life and need a man in my life that has his own life. but that has always been me.

You should also evaluate the womans self-esteem. How i feel about me is never tied to a man. If a woman needs constant validation from you then there are self-esteem problems and she will always cling to you in a way that is not healthly for you.

These are things that should be discussed during the "honeymoon" phase, where it is easy to walk away when there is not a match. At the first sign of this cliny behavior it should be discussed and you should walk if you cant deal with it.

What you need/desire/want is an independant woman who knows/understands and can deliver the right amount of attention and love w/o choking you to death.

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chewing gum girl -LOL.

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@poster

get use to it.

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@ topic i think what you need to work on letting your lady know that you care about her as much as she cares for you. I say this because most times, the ratio of love is usally one sided anyway i.e you love her more than she loves you or in your case she seems to care more than you do. If you show her that you care as much as she does meaning calling her putting more effort into seeing her and actting less selfish(no saying that you are) . When the time comes that you need a little me time she would know that you care about her and this is not your lame attempt to dump her.

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This topic is real. Love can't be qualified nor regulated.

Atimes we the guys really hustle hard to get a babe but when d babe starts responding by giving us what we desire; it seems that the entire stuff is overboard.

I got a girl recently, the chase lasted 4 over one and half years; just in a flash the entire relationship declined (on myside) - 20 twenty calls per day, calls during meetings at the office, calls at odds hours(please don't misunderstand me here - it is good 2 do midnight calls but when a guy/babe works in a very busy enviroment, midnight calls can only be accepted during the weekends), text messages prophesing love that lasts for more than chains of aeons, etc, etc. i called to advice her to minimise the calls, but yet it all went astro.

I wish I could get someone that can run at the same equilibrum with me.

@MISSY B

please dont give us the wrong impression - you and a dog. What is the gain? please make yourself available and stop dragging yourself down to the world beneath ours

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Why not?I'm not so good at throwin' gold into mud because I knw its worth.

Pick up a starvin' dog and make it prosperous. . . It will never bite you

and that's the principal difference between a dog and a man.

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I think I am with u there sillyboy, I like my women hard, brainy and sexy. I think these are the main things that makes a man deeply like a woman and not when the girls tries to over pamper him with love.

We want to see that people admire our woman because she is beautiful and we want to let the world know that this beautiful sexy girl is ours and ours alone.

Over loving and over pamparing and chewing guming him is secondary, and I believe it should come only when the guy is complaining that he is not getting much of it. The control he has over a hard, sexy inteligent woman is what makes his love linger and not over feeding him with love.

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you men cannot be satisfied, she shows you she loves you and you either take advantage of it or complain, if she acts like she doesnt care, you say she is cheating or does not love you, geez make up your minds and stop whining like little bi*ches.

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@sillyboy

wat chewing gum? n wat is wrong with a lady asking her man if he has had dinner n all that? wanna hear from a male's perspective.

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@ Topic.

Ladies that "chewing gum" me makes me feel so annoyed and angry. I love to be appreciated but not pampered, most especially by my woman.

Most ladies that I could have probably ended up with always mess up by keeping tabs on me. "Where are u?" "Have u had dinner" and various nanny questions like that.

I love my woman sexy, brainy and hard!

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I think you have just said something very important. Maybe my problem is that i feel 'over cared for'. Maybe deep down I feel I dont deserve all the Love she is giving me and I am feeling choked because I Know that I am not really the perfect, nice, loving guy she actualy feels I am.

This is crazy, I just wish I can be superman, or Jesus, ar anything out of the ordinary, that way I will have more control of my emotions.

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Just listen to the guys here yappin, there's no pleasin you guys is there? wait till you hook up with the ice maiden.

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