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Double Dating - Right or Wrong?

Double dating - I mean having more than one girlfriend or boyfriend - is it wrong or right?

This issue of double dating is prominent among guys compare to the girls, but generally, I think it should not be. There's no crime in being faithful to your partners, even if you don't have the intention of getting married.

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so far as there is no sex involved and there is openess, ie everyone knows what is going on, theres no problem with it!

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Its wrong for the right reasons

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Well! Ladies and Gentlemen,after reading what many of you wrote, I really wonder (to those who said it is right to double-date), if your partner double-date and you caught him/her doing it will you be happy?

We are humans,agreed but at the same time,lets be satisfy with what we have.But in a situation whereby you know you can't do with one partner, let her first that she is not the only one you are dating,if she still want to go on with you,fine.

They say "What is good for the geese is also good for the gander". So, food for thought.

My conclusion is that Double Dating is Bad.

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its wrong to "juggle" PERIOD

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i am a victim of double datin. my boyfriend has two of us. i was angry findin out i called it quits but its difficult cos i miss him so much. i think it wld be silly of me to know such and still hang on. guys taht do dat dat are selfish eatin their cake and havin it. it so hard to find sincere guys now.

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who told she cared?

if she does, she wont even trouble-date in the first place

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My opinion thus comes in 2 folds:

First: You can't eat your cake and have it (unless you're a pro, in that case, sooner or later, ).

Secondly: The issue of double dating, especially in our society today,has come as default.

Look at it this way: There was a girl i met and cherished, but as the friendship mutually grew into something more 'strong',i found out that she had a boyfriend

Was i happy?NO. But more importantly, why did she give me the green light?granted,i didn't want to be a second fiddle,but she pleaded with me to stay.when asked that she has to chose between me and him,she dodged the question many times.i left,

Nobody wants to be at the negative receiving end of double dating, but the positive end is too alluring to ignore. But as with most things in life, it takes at least two to tangle. This girl's boyfriend is so far away,doing God knows what.what is she expected to do?call off the relationship because she can't wait for him 1ce every 2 months or so?

For crying out loud, its a relationship. A RELATIONSHIP. Its not marriage (Even if it could end up in one, but until then).A friend of mine waited for a girl's boyfriend to 'misbehave', and the girl was his.Is that fair?How would i know?But one thing's certain, for that to happen means she must have fallen out of love.An opportunity presented itself and the rest is history. Perhaps this is, in a twisted sense, a benefit of double dating?

Most of the post agree (in whole or in part) that double dating is wrong when a relationship has a direction/commitment (marriage).

So what can one infer from all this? Its so simple.

People are not sincere. Simple.

Think about it. There are many horrible things concerning relationships that can be avioded if one is sincere with his/her self. And the effects of double dating is one of them.

But of course, we don't live in Disney land. As for me, i don't have the strength, and will use whatever remaining i have to find someone i won't have to worry over my back if she's "finding her needs elsewhere"

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Its not proper to double date, it has to be one at a time

That will help the 2 involved to really consentrate and get the best out of the relationship

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To me,my personalty likes being faithful,so double dating is very wrong and why do you have to double date?

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Can you imagine to have double-dating at below:

One week, you date Jane/John Doe.

Next week, you date Mary/Matthew Doe.

then the next week, you date Jane/John Doe.

Then Valentine Day comes up, who will you treat with? Jane/John Doe? or Mary/Matthew Doe?

That is bad double-dating!!!!

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double dating second name is hatred,except the male or female involved do it for materialism.beside,is no love.

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Lets be true to our Concience, Dating is bad morally especially when SEX is inclusive but if you must date then Maximise. For me there is no crime in double dating just be true to Yourself so long as you know where you are headed and most of all Keep your DUREX handy.

Most of us say Double dating is wrong yet date more than 2.

Most of us date just one guy but sleep with many more cos, "he's a nice guy, he's so cute,, did you see those kegs, damn she was in my room and there was nothing i could do, etc. Where do we classify these category.

Anyway i used to Tripple date but,

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People let's think of it this way, if your sister is double dating and miss her time for marriage because she feels she is having fun, who is to be blamed? Let advice our generation to stop this act. There's always a man for very woman. Once committed please stay that way. You make your partner what he/she is.

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My view:

It is wrong.

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the truth still remains that doubledating is wrong. the only problem here is that, even if u're not double dating,wot abt yr boyfriend?how do u know he's not doing it? my dear let's not fool ourselves,follow yr heart cos that seems to be the only peson that will not deceive u.

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@post the issue of double-dating used to be prominent among guys bt today, hmm it is more rampant among the female folks speaking from experience. well in my own view, i strongly believe that double-dating is very wrong because ur mind is not settled, u result to always telling lies to bail out from sum poo u no.

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4 ME,I THINK DOUBLE DATING IS RIGHT because D END OF IT ALL IS' COUNFUSION'.WAT I MEAN IS DAT U WLD B CONFUSD ON WAT DESICION 2 MAKE because AT D END OF EVERY THING U WLD NOT KNOW WHO U WLD WANT 2 B WITH, ND AT D END OF D DAY U WLD DISCOVER DAT U ARE LOSING EVERY THING

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Quote from: funmibaby

abeg, ladies open your options and think well well. don't commit to someone just because they're there

Those are words of wisdom!

ABSOLUTELY!!!

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It is very very wrong, But me i no mind do am sometimes oooooooooooo, But my girlfriend must never ever try am

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u can tell a player from,

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u think say gurls no who bi player or not they just do thier own thing

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if u're dating a playa den it's no big deal but if u're wit dis really loyal guy den it's not so cuul

not fair on his part at all

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Double Dating is bad especially for the girls.If a guy finds out that his babe is dating another guy,he'll quit the r/ship and the other guy will also quit the r/ship,cos the girl wont tell any of them she's double dating and so she'll end losing the two guys,no guy will be ready to forgive u and even if he does,he'll just use and dump u,that's all.

But the guys will tell u that if u dont want them to get another babe and if u cant share him with another babe then u are not ready to date,they also tell u that they are free to do anything.

I dont know if any of u understands what i'm saying.

So,Double Dating is Very Very Very Bad.I cant Double Date.

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right there, and when they see their guy looking at other girls, they start crying blue murder.

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I knew this girl who has three guyz she was going out with, she plays her game well that I wondered what she would do if any of them found out. Did you know what she said? she said, "kaycee, 4get whatever you are seeing, if any of them finds out, he can stay or leave, afterall, I didn't lose".

I was like, DAMN! who knows if my girl is doing this same thing.

Then, I went to visit my girl and some how rail-roaded her into this issue. I asked my girl, "are you in this relationship as a game or a you serious with me?", and she replied, "kaycee, it's a game o! take it serious ke, I have other things to take serious" So why can't I double-date if I want to. If you don't, someone's heart will be turned to a RECYCLE BIN.

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what if u v a concubine? someone to help ur main out

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It's wrong. Especially if you are making them think you like them. And they don't know abt each other. That's just cheating aint it?

What kinda double date are we even talking abt? Going on a date with your boyfriend, and your friend comes with her boyfriend? Like group dating?

Or like dating two different people at the same time?

The first one is okay. But the second one.. nuuh uh.

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If it is understood with all parties that one is not seeking a commitment, but just wants to casually date then there is nothing wrong with it because honesty was communicated up front so all parties know that he/she is not their boyfriend/girlfriend (you're merely a friend).

However, if one is dating [b]exclusively[/b]then there should not be any outside relations<<<<<<<<<<that's when it's foul, foul, foul!

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Prove your point sweetie.. make we read

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doubledating isss sooooooo not right!!!!!

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Really ?? prove me wrong..

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@wev, why would you say there is notting wrong with it.. if i were to be your boyfriend and you caught me with another gurl.. would u be happy... and maybe i was kissing her that moment..

Lets face the fact.. in this modern world now.. expecially nigeria is kinda common among the gurls.. prove me wrong..

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there is nothing wrong with double dating in principle but the problems come if and when you fall for one of the people you are seeing, the other one when dumped could cause terrible damage. its a dangerous game.

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I believe Bro. GREATPETER on this NAIRALAND should be able to tell us why they do this.

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The fact is that it is wrong.

Yes agreed but You see, in this days of [b]sss[/b]for both sexes...single and still searching, how will u find, if you do not seek. How will you seek and find if you don't experiment as the Chemists do. So here lies a justification to double date... if the circumstances warrant it please in my opinion do... am talking of circumstances like lack of trust, direction, focus and commitment in a relationship. these calls for a reassesment of the relationship and this calls for another date...shine your eyes. No lay flowers for one basket. but if u are married.... pls your chapter in dates is closed. fulstop.

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Doble dating is a cruicial issue its has to do with alot of sacrifice and commitment! I mean people who double date try and get a grip please its not just right! beside wat wud u tell ur children about ur past? or wud encourage the same thing to ur younger ones?

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Well,to me,let me just say i can double date depending on the kind of situation i found myself. If i know that what i'm having wih my b/f is a child's play,why can't i double date?But if its really a serious relationship that might one day lead to marriage,i can never double date cos i would want him to trust me.But it aint easy to double date cos u'll want to satisfy them both which is somehow hard.U might even make the mistake of calling another person's name in his presence just as it happened to my brother.It aint easy so i pray i do it no more.

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Double dating might be right and it might be wrong depending on the situation that surrounds it.

I used to double date and I didnt see any big deal in it but I later met someone who changed that in me.And to say the fact double dating is not that easy because you have to divide your time and there's no way you can satisfy two people at the same time and equally.

At times it also depends on your g/f or b/f.If I have a boyfriend and I realise he doesnt cherish me I'll get another person because relationship is not a do or die affair.If you cherish your heart then you'll not want someone to break it so if I see a red light in my relationship then I'll quit and I might not tell the guy immediatley that I'm no more interested because at times it not easy to say it but action will definately speak louder than voice.

So its good in a way and its not good but once you find a soulmate that you are "compatible" with and you "love" each other I don't see any reason why you have to double date.

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Ordinarily its not very easy to double date but some pple do it, i once tried it but i almost got caught in the act, especially when its a more COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. But again if its just a dating stuff, i will say it is allowed.

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GAY OR GUY? wat re u talking about & which re u referring to

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mine it is right some how for a gay or a gurl to have more than one friend, if it comes to boyfriend and girlfriend level, why i'm saying this is when a gay is depending on one person, main u're rousting co's u won't always be satisfied, at times to eat ur own is a problem, why co's shakara has entered due to the love u bestowned on her, come to think it, in this modern world it's not easy to see a gay havin one lafan ooo.

but, I will encourage us to try and be contented with what we have, we are the future of tomorrow lets try and settle down and let go what is under skirt, AID no dey show for faceoooo

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I will like to create another school of thot which says " double dating is no issue". Commitment only goes with marriage. The only thing is the need to be as truthful and fair as possible to both parties (if you can), if not you will be guilty of  a crime, not of double dating but of "419ing"

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this is called FLING............ & it sure happens alot..but some girls dont have the liver, they just get hurt

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Some people are of the opinion that double dating is not wrong. To those people i poise this question: is it wrong to flirt around with a guy, even though he has a girlfriend. Bearing in mind that it is nothing serious and he does it with other chics and its just for your own amusement. When u are tired, you end things and move on.

Is that acceptable?

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so i know double dating is totally wrong but i was in a Fix for crying out loud

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