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Female Bankers And Marriage. What Is Your Take On It?

I work with a bank and its really hectic i must tell you! The thing is i dont know if my bank Job and marriage would work. what do you think?

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Talking about long hours, what are you bankers really doing that requires long hours?

99% of the rubbish that you guys insist on doing could be done perfectly well by computers.

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Hmmm, why is it ok for the man to work long hours but wrong for a woman to work long hours?

Why is it ok for a married man to work long hours when he knows his wife wants to spend time with him?

Why is it ok for a man to demand that his wife spend time with him but not vice versa?

Sexual discrimination is becoming a thing of the past; a way of life that only suits illiterates.

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I dont understand why a woman would get married and want to work for such long hours. How long do you then get to spend with your husband?

My personal opinion is that I cant have a wife that will get home late such that we will not have enough time to be with each other. Besides, after working for so long, she'll naturally be tired and just about ready to lay down and sleep. What use is that in a FAMILY?

Thankfully, my wife does not have any desire to work very long hours.

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@almondjoy

you're a crazy one, aint ya! lol

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@Crazykid

Its obvious you have absolutely no idea wat entails in working in a bank. My fiance works in one and my guy i know better. While there are days they close early (which the earliest is 6:30-7pm), there are many days that its just plain crazy. I most times have to go pick her up from work daily.

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Marriage can work well even if you work in a bank, it all depends on the understanding you have with your man. I many times wish she could get a better job but we work very well with what she has. My problem most times isn't even with the time but the risk related with the job. The time i couldn't stand was wen she just joined and had to do cash pick-up, from CBN and stuff.

Well, i guess its only that bad for those in 'operations', the others like risk management, investment etc only have few moments.

But my own opinion, marriage can work very well for female bankers, i mean why not?

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Not all bankers close that late,it all depends about your sector and the task at hand for the day.I work in an IT firm now but intend working in a bank soonest.It's all about you.

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i know 1,2, 3, 40,, 100 young, hot, and happily married female bankers! @ poster: how do they cope? it's called trade-off!

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Oh boy banks only close to customers at 4. By 6pm they are just leaving the office in V/I on a staff bus, only to get to say GFestac by 8.30 or 9. And I'm talking about the ordinary bankers. The 'special' bankers (including investment bankers) dont leave till 9pm after series of meetings.

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women i wouldn't marry: Doctors, Nurses and Bankers.

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@crazykid

i meant the opposite of what your saying, Nigerian banks sucks in the aspect of how staff are made to work long hours without considering the fact they might have families or not.

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@poster,

2 b honest, banking job in 9ja is quite hectic, really not good 4 a married woman considering the Nigerian banking setting.

And its not about insecurity but imagine u waking up arround 5am to work only 2 return 10pm, even ur kids wont know u, cos apart from weekends, they dont see mummy in the day time, sometimes not even at night.

This at times leads to hiring house helps and u know how many homes have broken up just because of this.

Well, its all up to u and the man in question, many women out there have survived the terrain even in their married homes,so, make ur choice - ur man or ur job

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@ crazykid its obvious you've never lived with or been friends with a bank worker in Nigeria.

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Believe me it isn’t a joke.

Banks in Nigeria don’t operate for as long as 5: pm. So if she gets home 5:30pm, she can’t still make dinner for her husband and to other hosehold duties.

For couples to survive in Marriage they have to plan it properly.

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I agree with ThoniaSlim. Nigerian banks close very early, so you should have enough time to come home and do your daily chores. There is nothing really hectic in working in a bank.

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i see no big deal in working in a bank, but in Nigeria i would definitely not work in a bank, no way.

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It can work if and only if you know where to draw the line.

I would not say you are right there most especially if we are considering banking job work hours in the nigerian context. The fact that banking industry is very aggresive and rugged in it's approach in retail and investment sector, makes bankers give more hours and some "other stuffs" than they should. I can't really go into this, because I don't like to write long. The ladies are more at the disadvantage because of some obvious reasons.

If the female banker in investment and retail section really want to draw the line and work morally and achieve results, marriage is very possible. It's only that she will have to put in more efforts professionally instead of relying on her sex to achieve result. Also, the hubby can help her too.

Personally, I'd like to get married to a professional lady, a banker to be more precise. I've come to realise that most of the ladies that get to excel in the financial sector of the economy, tends to be good in management and that points to the fact that they will be good in managing their homes too. My few years in the financial sector is my reason for believing so and I stand to be corrected.

It's a matter of understanding between the spouses and proper planning of their homes. I believe this shouldn't scare both the guys and the ladies.

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I wouldn't have thought bank working hours would affect a marriage, unless your man was bone idle, or worked in dribs and drabs. . .

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