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For Ladies Only: Can You Do This?

This lady is not yet married to this guy but she her started living in the guy's parent house. she now lives and acts as a wife to the guy even when nothing has been done as relating to marriage rites.

Please, ladies in the house can you do this? I need your sincere contributions and advice.

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Know someone who did this.she cooked,cleaned no work wey she no do guess what the boy mama chased her out that she is lazy a girl that pounded yam for the whole family every sunday oh lol

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I personally can't do it. Just not for me.

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Lol, I can. I don't exactly want to marry anyway, so that one is not a problem for me.

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Kai, my broda dat 1 i tel u na by porce marriage. Walahi i must mary me 2day, kajikwo?

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It's not such a good idea but that's not to conclude it doesn't happen. Many factors can play out in this scheme. Some girls who are doing this are blinded, for instance, by thinking they've gone far too deep into the relationship to experience any breakup--this is a wrong assumption but it's always what some girls do.

Another feature is that instances have been witnessed where girls did this successfully and they got married eventually. Some parents can't help thinking that this is a modest way for a girl to prove her worth to the man to determine, and in furtherance, prove that she's going to be a worthy wife. With the kind of mentality some girls possess, this happens predominantly in a lot of places, Nigeria especially.

Truth is, co-habitation isn't a good idea, never have been. Some relationships crash at this point because only then the prospective mother-in-law starts to see faults and shortcomings of the girl in question; negative comments are made and a lot of misunderstanding ensue which truncates the relationship eventually.

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My keyboard is fine jare.

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I wouldn't want to, but I can see why it happens to women. With so many stages in a relationship it is easy to think "we've come so far, nothing can go wrong now" or "I don't want to start asking questions like I don't know him now."

It's this idea of; "If I complain, I run the chance of jeopardising everything I've worked so hard to maintain." alternatively, she doesn't realise what she's doing, sometimes when you go from 0 - 100 it's difficult to see how fast you've moved because you think you'll wait and see how things continue not knowing you've travelled straight to the end of the scale already.

I could easily move into a flat with my boyfriend and it would feel natural, but what wise people have told me (and religious beliefs) would be the only thing holding me back, and since it is not completely ingrained in my moral compass, it would have to be a conscious effort not to slip into that state.

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Poster. . .

Tell me the Century we are in

and I'll give you my response.

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***comment reserved***

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Sadly its done all the time. I never will. I think its useless, why would I be trapped with a man living in his house, worse his parents house, him tieing me down calling me wifey and not put a ring on it. Heck no!

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Meanwhile he is planning his wedding to the other girl on the side. Poor girl, may God be with her.

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A lot of ladies do it nowadays. It's so lame to me. Why move your ar$e to the home of a man you are not yet married to and to make matters worse, his parents' house? Where will the bliss of marriage be after the wedding since it has been all outlived during the courtship. I mean, weekends are okay but permanently moving to the guys house is so slow. Ladies who do it to me are insecure. Period!

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@nana Hello! How're u doing? @topic many ladies do this,but i think is not right!

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She ain't living with the guy in the parent' s permanently. . . . . . . .so wats the fuss!!!!

Prolly . . . . the parents are checking the babe out.

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That's share stupidity on the ladies part, she's so cheap, if my sister tries that well thank God they are married, I would have killed her .

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Such a lady is only fooling herself.

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I could not tolerate my adult sons/daughters bringing a 'partner' to live in my house, call me old fashioned.

If they did want to have a prospective partner live with us for some reason, which would have to be good reason, ,I would want to know their parents and agree the arrangement, though they would have to be in separate rooms.

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Never been a supporter of cohabitation

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lol parents' house?

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Never! dats so cheap. i guess the tot on the guy's mind is "why buy the cow if the milk is free".

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