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Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job?

Gals,

Would you leave your boyfriend of long standing simply because you have a job and he doesn't.

And guys, what would you do, if a girl you love so much leaves you, simply because you fail to get a job.

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I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. I'm fed up with him not trying to work. I got him a job at Tyson and he only worked there for a month. I've been paying all the bills, and buying all the groceries and personal items. He sits at home on his lazy butt and plays xbox. He isn't even attempting to look for work. Everyone thinks it would be wrong for me to leave him, but I don't think so.

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@poster

dats ur side of the story.

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storyline

do as it pleases u; if he doesnt have today, he'll have tmr

u wanna leave him, go; he'll find a jobless gurl like him who will be helpful enuff to help pass through this phase

all na time; pray u dont lose ur own tho

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Good luck to you.

One thing I know is that men are usually humble and loving when they have nothing. You are their everything then. Make sure you are not like the raft that takes him to success and then abandoned as soon as he reaches solid ground.

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NOPE!!!! Mi Fiance has no job, car and still not done with school. I gat a very good job, rich enough, gat a degree,etc, N I don't care, even if I have to spend 80% of the money on our wedding, I believe with me and God on his side, he would make it, I believe he is hardworking, it is just the unfortunate situation in Nigeria that caused the delay in his life, By the time he gets out of that Country soon, I will help him in in whatever way I can by God's grace; he would finish up his education, get a job, and we would live happily together 4ever. I just pray he gets here soon;cos I freaking miss him.

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No, for the girl let her go.She might be the reason u don't have a job.Some pple need to leave ur life for u to move forward.

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Some guys leave the girls that were with them from Adam when they make a lil money,

My mom shouldered all the responsibilities that came with raising 4 children including paying for our school fees, cooking and everything, my dad was financially incapacitated by reasons only know to God but he helped in the house work in many ways but it still wasn't easy, Sometimes my mom gets irritated and sometimes we (children) get irritated by dad cos of his NO-MONEY status,

I WOULDN'T ADVISE ANY GIRL TO MARRY A MAN THAT DON'T HAVE A STABLE JOB,

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No food for lazy man,if the guy is lazy baby check out.But if he is up and doing encourage him and pray for him.Look out for opportunities for him instead of checking out.

And if a babe leaves me b,cos no kudi.My reaction would be very swift. And that is go the extra mile to make the extra dough.

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I'm a guy and I will say It all depends on the guy and the lady. I wldn't be biased saying the lady wld be wicked to do such. I've seen lazy guys {extremely lazy fellas} aspiring to be nothing meaningful in life so if a lady {after so much trials to make such a guy reason} leaves, such a lady should be given a fair hearing BUT if the lady made no attempt to help in anyway i would say SHE WAS ALREADY ON HER WAY OUT just using that as an excuse

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The most important thing here is mutal unerstanding for each other, they have to know where

they are going from day one, there will always come challenges in life and its always easy to take

the exist,instead of find a solution to the problem.

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dats true,but who doesnt like beta tin ,but gurls u dont kno wat is going to happen tomorrow,so guys 4get d chick and be strong

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for writting sake, it is not good but if we want to face reality, we have to consider exactly the conditions of not getting a job and the time frame.

girls are mearnt to be supporters and not to let them bear the burden alone.

men shld not go for sympathy love where the woman will love u out of sympathy.

men must continue trying. the man must remain the man at all times.

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But how would u classify a girl that stood by u when u were jobless (and u were trying), and things starts to get rosy(job and all), which she knows, but you were reserved about it cause u have plans for ur earnings for the better. Then she sees someone supposely with more potential and *name*, dress to kill, she left her guy(who is doing really good but reserved) of 6 yrs (love filled relationship) for someone she meet twice and then rubbing it in your face that she found someone better than u when u never, i mean never treated this girl in that manner, infact, she had u wrapped around her fingers, soon to be engaged. And all u were doing was trying to work hard for both of u, spoiling this girl cause of the appreciation of her sticking with u when u had nothing. Imagine LIFE,

My question is how can a girl who has true love, compatibility and all, stick it through bad times and when her guy is doing good she leaves for a guy she knows nothing about? Ladies express your self

**Mistake many women make is, they think cause a guy dress like a million bucks, he has money(potential), but I know many guys who dress to kill in and out but little or nothing for pocket. On the other hand, I know guys (which i'm one)who dress but not to kill but has above average to ridiculous pockets but don't feel the need to show off. And guys are playing their cards towards this corny mistake by many women.

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na wa o. some lady are so weird that they dont give a poo

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that was a good question, but you know what, from my experience, if i dont have a job or just lost my job and my girlfriend just for that reason, i wont be upset, instead i will be happy that my pathhas crossed.

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women have a nose for success and can smell money from a mile.

approach a woman and she sizes u up and asks in their honey coated voice,

What do you do or where do u work?

the'yre all the same

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Depending on the matters arising, I don't blame the poor girl. Love don't pay the bills.

There have been cases whereby the girl pays the bills owns the cars and all that stuff and comes back home only to meet a b***h in her pyjamas on her bed, watching her TV and eating her "FOOD" or even worse still, driving her car, of course, with "UNCLE JOBLESS's" approval.

I don't blame you girl, if you dont see a future in it, collect the baton and swoosh the relay. breaking up is better than divorce.

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@ my peace

Give me your unconditional love

wat hppened, a serious bobo came along lol

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personally i left a relationship of 6yrs, when i found out that the guy doesnt want to move forward, i started the relationship when i was in my early 20s. why i was busy developing myself academically and the rest, he was busy waiting on the MANNA that will fall from heaven.

After my education, i got job and he was even worst that what he was 6yrs back. We actually promised to marry, but looking at the situtation on ground, i definately know that the financial burden of the house will rest squarely on me. having tot of these, i found out that my salary can not adequately carry it without me complaning.

It was not easy, but i had to call off the relationship, even my frnds and his could not understand what happened, becos i was actually covering up for him all these years.

Lets face it, its hard to respect a guy who cannot provide for you, which was evident in my relationship with him, i was always not happy. When am broke means am broke, i cant even lean on him for assistance, rather he will collect from me.

Pls guys should understand, its not easy, love and money go hand in hand. Guys should always be the man, not only in bed! even if u dont have job now, always make efforts to get new one, and start doing sometime to fetch u little money until u get a better one, not just sleeping and waking,and upon that collecting from her.

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For better for stay

For bad for go

To them, money is honey

They are available to the Highest bidder

and end up being greedier.

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yes of course! who will want to suffer in poverty1 not me anyway. if i want to marry a guy he must have a job for sure! not that he must be very rich but at least have a good job going on! me i no marry person may no go school o! cuz me i dey uni yea so if u no go school forget about me am not they for u that is for sure !

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good,cause if she dont leave his brokeass,she would spend eternity caring for some grown baby.

If he is seriously looking for a job then thats something different- she better leave for someone that would better take care of her than some parasite. Just kidding nasty experience just ask any guy whos been there

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It's nothing to ponder much on if a girl you love does that for you (it's a big deal).

There has been something existing from the time God made us. You know ladies are cursed that "he will be your head, and to him will your heart draw to". Women are created in such a way like that. They love jamboree so much. If you are just lucky to get a serious and decent lady, she may not ask you of anything like money or material thing, but if you are then a little bit richer than how you are, she will love you the more. Such a thing will help you open your eyes and your heart to great opportunities ahead of you.

It has happened to me sometimes in 2005.

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Besides ma mom works and ma dad doesn't.

No wahala!

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naaaaaahhh! Not ma thing.

I ain't never financially dependent on

any guy so it's not like I'm with him

for his money. If he don't got a job,

I'll support him for sometime and help him find a

job. It's all love.

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Thats why i said the man has to be had working in his own way.(Not house wife but House man) if not it will never work out. Not for long.

Think about it you come back from work and your Husband is still sleeping or sitting in front of the TV and has done nothing.

It is better for your friend to dump the man,

Think about it she marries him has children. He will sleep the whole day and even forget to pick the kids from school. The school will call the child welfare office ,They will ask the woman to take care of the kids and she may end up having to give up her job.

THis happened to a friend of mine. Am very sure she must have started like your friend.

But i also know a family the mum is a DR she works the whole day and sometimes nights at the Hospital. The husband cooks cleans takes cre of the kids and even attendes the PTA meetings.

It all dependes ,if you keep your eyey open you see the signs. This boyfriend of your friend should even get up b4 her to make her breakfast or iron her dress or what ever.

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@mummy,

               I used to think that way till I met this friend of mine that went and got herself a jobless boy friend. This girl used to work like h*LL b/4 but now all she does is call off almost everyother day. Because when it is time for her to go to work the boyfriend either starts with sex or asks her to stay home with him and she stupidly does that and when I call her to see if she was ok then she would tell me her boy wants her home with him. I mean if he can't work why would he not let her work either or are they gon' eat sex. I don't think I need that energy by my side at all.

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A man withoutb a job. Only if i make real good money then he can mind the house.

I have nothing aganist housemen but then he has to do a good job at home.

Take the kids to school pick them up cook for them and for me too.

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@didd4, its depends sha.

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I have never dated or had a boyfriend that is rich but can I leave my boyfriend because he has no job? YES. Unless he is a student then I wouldn't care but if not I would only tolerate him for at most two years. This is because  guys, when you tolerate them alot, they relax and again I am a very hardworking person and I don't want anything that would make me go lazy. I don't want that energy by me at all. I would let him know so he won't be surprised. So if he likes he finds a job otherwise after two years I will drop him like it's hot.

My own Opinion no body should bite me.

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@diddy4, i would have agree with u but nope in another way around, lol, personally, i don't think i'll try it anymore.

shey, u read my story? i was with a guy without a job then we were in peace and everything was perfectly good. immediately he got one what happen diddy4?

out of experience

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this is a very common thing and its the easiest. howabout when the babe leaves because the bobo is not earning hundred thousand? that is what is reigning now.

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No job doesn't mean no relationship. It only shows that the guy is not ready to settle down anytime soon

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if he has not intention of getting another job, then, i'm gonna say good bye to his sorry Bottom!

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true talk my man. im with you on that.

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im good hun.hope u aiight.

yeah dats basically what i mean. not all of them though cuzz i dont want to generalize but most of them, especially those from a well known background wont settle for less and u wont blame them cuzz dats basically the way it has been all their life.

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How you doing Diddy? Hmmm, every girl has a price. . . what'd'ya mean exactly? You mean posh girls know they can pull ppsh guys so don't wanna settle for less?

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i would if he suddenly became resentful about it.only God knows what he will do in marriage.but like i said IF

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all in support say aye!!!

true talk!!!

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it means shine ya eye, no free tin for lagos!

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a girl leaves me? cuzz i aint got no job? thats messed up big time. what she trynn@ tell me is she wants me for my financial stuff and not cuzz she really loves me. well, if dats the case, she can go and i will keep ma head up. i aint mad atcha. imm@ get me a job and when i become the million dollar man, i hope she doesnt call cuzz her Bottom will roast in my fireplace.

i know not all girls are like dat cuzz i have seen and met really nice girls dat didnt care about i got but about who i am. i love my african queens.(the good ones).

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I won't leave my boyfriend just cos he doesn't have a job. He would get a job sooner or later, afterall since you've been at it for so long and claim to love him, the best u can do his help him gather some news papers and help him find a job.

if your girl leaves you after u lose ur job, she don't love you. She never has, and i doubt if she ever will.

But If the boy just sits down and start having this dream about a job coming to knock at his door, i dont think i'll blame any girl that leaves his lazy Bottom.

if your man is not putting any effort into getting another job, well. . . u know wat that means, he's lazy and he's planning on spending the little money u make with you! What better way than you run away from a lazy man?

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Ladapo i tut u wld have known d answer. A gal who trully loves her guy wld stay by him nomatter wat (xcept maybe her popsie is 2 domineering). But a gal who is with a guy cuz of money, wld quickly drop him at the first sign of financial trouble.

As for me i wld stick 2 d guy, as long as he sticks with me simple.

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i won't leave him, infact, I will show him that I can still stand by him with or without a job especially if he gat potential and goals and not just sitting home and not making any effort. That he doesn't have a job now does not mean he won't have later, Him being jobless is not the downfall of a man and I also believe that not only guys should be giving money per se in a relationship, It should be a two way thing

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Well i was ditched by a jobless guy who started making money and thought he deserved more from the decendants of eve.I met him jobless and loved him jobless, so guys its not just the girls doing the dumping but then poo happens and life must go on

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I have seen it happen, heard it happen and so it is no more a new thing infact it is on the verge of being celebrated. It is a free world. You have the freedom to do anything as long as it is not against the law but disappointments sometimes turn out to be blessings in disguise.

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You people are always abusing girls that want better things.How many of you will actually ignore posh girls and go and date omo alata?Few.So why do girls always get the blame for having good tastes?Or is there something wrong with being high maintainance?

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Na normal thing for girls in our society.Once dey know u've gotta high paying job ur cellphone starts ringing more than usual!

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Na normal thing for girls in our society.Once dey know u've gotta high paying job ur cellphone starts ringing more than usual!

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Well, not quite long she dumped me than I got a very good job.

And I believe i can stand tall among my counterparts.

Not that that i didn't make any efforts in securing job.

But I just know what I am looking for.

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