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Good Looks - Do They Matter In A Date?

I've been wondering about this for long. I've never been good with girls so I've never had a date. My younger brother however, is a natural ladies' man and always has lots of girls flocking around him. I know he's more good-looking than I am but methinks there's more to getting dates than "good looks." Any ideas?

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I think Zebudaya is right, there is no such thing as a rich ugly boy,

Well personally, i'm someone that admires beauty so i think it might just matter on a date but it shouldn't be the only criteria for choosing a life partner.

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Wel, zahy, it seems to me u've got a complex. Firstly u have to deal wit urself, how u regard urself, then u've got to LOVE urself jst the way u r! U cant change the way u are or hope to be like ur brother. Comparing urself with others is not healthy at al. I'l b bk.

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Wel, zahy, it seems to me u've got a complex. Firstly u have to deal wit urself, how u regard urself, then u've got to LOVE urself jst the way u r! U cant change the way u are or hope to be like ur brother. Comparing urself with others is not healthy at al. I'l b bk.

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So women don't exist who'll take me for who I am -- not what I am, or what I can contrive?

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well it matter,but not too much make up

becos some man dont like woman with too much makeup on

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Absolutely. If they dont like the way you look, you have to REALLY impress them in other ways for them to stay interested in pursuing you/ a second date or whatever.

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easy boy, am goodlooking no doubt about dat ;d ;d ;d

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goodlooks will lead u to other things which will surpass the looks, but the first thing here is goodlooks

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U r welcome!!Keep up the aspiration cos this aint your best yet.

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@sasous,yeah the major 1st attraction is in most cases is good looks.But it could also be some of the other things i mentioned before.So by and large whether or not you are good looking,there is definitely something in you or that you have which would attract a guy/girl.When you say Zahymaka is handsome, and unfortunately you are like him.Are you saying you are handsome too but you don't admit you are.What exactly do you mean? @Zahymaka the way you keep professing and proclaiming not being handsome,i feel you are as bad as you make it out to be.Anyway i suppose you know yourself better.But intelligence beats good looks anyday and i think you've got the former even if you think you aint got the latter.

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they some times do i can't think of myself  going out with a dirty,rugged looking man on a date.

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Really!!!Did you just mention SHOPPING?Name the place!!![lol,jus kidding].Thanx though.

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@ RENIKS

AM ATTRACTED TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING , CAN I TAKE U SHOPPING?

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Anyway you need faith,it's said that faith is an evidence of things hoped for, a substance of things not seen.So go with faith,confidence ane self-esteem,cos without the last two,your faith would melt like ice.You know what they say about faith without works.

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Very funny!Have you started the hunt already?[lol]Anyway,while you are at it you need a trailer load of confidence and self-esteem.Don't go hunting in faith o.

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Good reniks -- I'd better start hunting then. Er. . . can I take you out to dinner [just kidding].

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Good looks are not of utmost importance in most.There are many other factors that could attract your date.Could be the attitude,personality,dressing,eloquence,intellect,financial status and more.There has to be something distinct,unique and peculiar about the date.You could meet girls who would find your introvertedness cute.Its not about what you look like but who you really are.

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We're not pin-pointing people abeg.

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we r talking about good looks here, aint we?

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sasuos please can you take the hotstepper topic elsewhere -- at least to the one we were on? No offense intended.

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i think good looks attract, like de way hotstepper is driving me crazy after just one look at her.

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I've been told this a number of times since I entered nairaland. Maybe I should believe it.

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I applaud you for keeping yourself until marriage so continue to be true to yourself. I commend anyone, no matter what age, for being disciplined in this area.

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Some people think it's crazy. I'm glad there're some people who think like me - thanks b_e_b_e.

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Chief Zebudaya thanks for the advice but there's something I want to correct:

She was involved with me -- not with him then.

I'm male and had those thoughts -- I wanted her too but I'm a disciplined guy. I'm one of those "crazy" guys putting "it" off until marriage. That's why I said:

Thanks for the advice again - very helpful.

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Everyone goes through these emotions, but you have to live and let go. Either the person will say yes or no. If they say yes, then you can pursue the possibilities of something more and if they say no- - -then just move on and know that they missed out on something good (you). If you don't try, you could be cheating yourself out of meeting someone wonderful. Good Luck!

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@Zakymaka

http://azuka.zatechcorp.com/about-me/

Quoting you from your blog: I really dont think your problem is the looks-department, i think its more of self esteem.

Anyway, are you ready to change your mind about how you feel about yourself!!! When you do, the girls will begin flocking all over you.

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of course not, why would I?got nothing to loose or nothing to gain

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Zahymaka, I think your cute.

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Then again you are young only 17 i thought you were a 29 year old programmer who needed my pimping advice.

you are going to grow out of your introvertedness - is that a word. Once agros begins to wire you. and you notice that the patient dawg gets no koheba. and That the only things that come to those who wait, are things that have been used and left by others.

I have a feeling i am going to be censored

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dawg people that write code don't really have lives.

about your walking up to the group and saying something, it may be what you say or how you say it. CONFIDENCE You have to watch *guys* who are good with crowds/women, and learn how they talk, dress and interact with other people.

I used to be like you , now I'm the MAN.

"you don't smile much do you?" you don't have to smile like a hyena. At least your not smiling got her to talk to you, you are the Hunter, your lack of smiling is your bait. You should say "got you Dam" and move on to the next stage. Get her under your sheets!, and take out all the frustration thats building up in you as a result of the programming.

Hope I have been of help. Take it easy and goodluck

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What matters most in a date is LOVE, but before love comes in , there should be an attraction, and attraction mostly comes from good look, althogh it could come from fame and financial status also. So attraction plays a role here. But mind you, beauty is seen in the eyes of the beholder; Some ladies may be dying for you some where. Are you an introvert? This could make it a little dificult for the opposit sex to interract with you.

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Madam Rhoda I've seen some very um,  not-so-good-looking boys get dates. I don't think looks matter.

As for being nice, I guess I'm much too quiet [I hardly ever talk] and most girls think I'm crazy [because I spend all my time writing code] so those are some reasons.

So do you have any ideas on converting me? I mean from a very quiet guy who grew up around books and has no social skills to one who does?

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if it's just a date, then yes, looks matters, but if it's a relationship then not really

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