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Graduate Weds Non Graduate: Is It Possible?

Can you as a graduate (masters degree holder) marry someone who never passed through the four walls of a univeristy.

Ladies be truthful, and guys what would you do if your sister brought that kind on man home

I need sincere answers. For me, hell no, but I dont know why.

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As far as marriage is concern, graduate or non graduate is not really necessary, it could be an additional reason, but not compulsory. My concern is that the person you want to marry, is he or she the will of God for your life. The issue of education will even compound your problem, because both of you are graduates. so, no more respect for one another. Marry the wrong person, who is a graduate and you will regret it for the rest of your life. Do the right thing, let God choose for you. All those qualities you are looking for may not be necessary after you have married. There is no perfection anywhere.Nobody is perfect, except God. God bless you. God2MAN

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well, my gal's an A level holder and her english 's crazy doh she'was born n raised in cameroon( the francophone part), but i can put her through school and she'll definitely match up, kuba akaba? think love's d basic thing there.

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Let's not think too far; President Jonah, a PhD holder, is married to Patience, who is obviously a stark illiterate. He may have his reasons for marrying her, but I for one, will never marry someone who can't engage me in basic intelligent conversation using simple English language. It is not necessary to be a graduate to be able to engage in intelligent conversation, but innate intelligence matters, after all most ladies in Europe are not graduates anyway.

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My nieghbor's wife is a graduate and works in a bank, the husband on the other hand is nt and he is a sit-at-home-dad. They have 4kids and I guess they are fine

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@ OP

whatever happened to LOVE? see, nigerian girls can be the biggest hypocrites ever, when it is sumtin that seem inconvenient to u, y'all come up with very convenient excuses but when the shoe is on the guy's foot, u shout ur battle cry "LOVE"

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I think majority of nigeria ladies still lack behind as i can see some posters prefering education more than love, remember you can't compare Love & Education

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frank 3.16

r u saying that even educated guys dont have or exhibit inferiority complex as well? despite their Bsc,Mba, Phd

Guy see the most important is ur mind set and focus ability, cos most guyz in this situation find themselves there for some reason that was outside their control as at then.

Using myself as an example:being the first child, I had to drop out of school (UI) to work n support my mum so we can send my younger ones to school cos my mum's financial muscles were not strong enough.

now let me ask u a qtion, Is there always room for improvment in every aspect of life? think abt it n let the answer remain with you.

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Whoever findeth a wife, findeth favour in the Lord- not a graduate or trophy wife. As for me, I can marry a non grad. I was not born a graduate.

easier said than done.

in as much as education should not be the basis of any relationship, its effect cannot be over looked. i must sincere to let you know that out of every ten cases of such relationship, seven is bound to fail. to me its a risk not worth taking.

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Nigerians Believe in paper qualification too much.

well as it has been said there would always be class struggle according to Karl Marx "the history of any existing society is the history of class struggle" I can marry any set either graduate or non grad. so far there is love inbetween.

Life goes on.

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Word bro.

I think this topic is actually meant for me. i am not a graduate but i ve a graduate as a GF, a lawyer for that matter.

I think what really matters is if the Guy has got a clear vision in life.

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All said and done it can be catastrophic. I for one will not marry a man that is not a graduate. My Aunt a lawyer married a man that is not a graduate. My mum told her not to.My mums argument was that the guy my develop an inferiority complex with time and moreover their thinking will be on different levels. My aunt went ahead and got married and it almost cost her her life. It got to a stage where if she goes to see a male client he will accuse her of having an affair. It all came to a head when he poured petrol on her and tried to set her ablaze. You might argue and say its him as an individual but I tell u it was a gradual process that started off with his feeling inferior

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Yea . . . if you love him.Dont let your ego ruin you of an oppurtunity and happiness.

And also enrol him in college or something after you get to know him. . .

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It's ok for a womam to be with a man with no degree. But chai Love or no love, religious or not. You are in for nagging and sometime over controlling man. Cos 99.9% of the time he is battling inferiority complex and he will do all it takes to grow his ego.

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i cant o, as i guy i wont marry a girl below university level. but i know it is quite easier for ladies to settle below their standard, because the are programed to bear a lot of rubish from men. thats why sometimes it seems like they have no choice

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It depends.

Some of the smartest, successful and interesting people I've met never even set foot in college. I used to trip like shage for this one Naija guy that didn't make it to college because his family was really poor. That boy always made it to top of our class and if I'd stayed in Naija I would have pursued a relationship with him no question even though he would have been at home while I was in university! He's just now going to school for his bachelors in Chemistry in St Croix to become a doctor when he graduates. Like someone mentioned, Bill Gates dropped out of college and some of the world's most influential people don't have a higher degree. Intelligence is not necessarily based on education. Naija peeps just like bookwork.

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Leaders showing example. OBJ

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This is  most  interesting topic i ve  ever read on this forum. i cherish sincere opinions and contributions made so far.

Most female graduate  have this mentality of 'NEVER' to non graduate but it was done on me that destiny does  not based on certificates.

And marriage should not be structure on academics but love & compartibilty.

please note that it is a priviledge to be educated, some drop out of school not

because their not intelligent but due to one problem or the other.

if a guy has a vision, regardless his age he can still be a graduate  after marriage with help of his partner, its a matter of time.

Afterall, Obasanjo is just trying to be a graduate.

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No problem but if the man is the non-graduate, pls ensure he believes in himself because if he doesn't, the graduate lady should get ready for constant nagging and everyday reminder of I am the MAN!

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"No big deal, because love is not knowledge but feelings."

Do majority of you ladies know all this?

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No big deal, because love is not knowledge but feelings.

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Very Very possible my sister, b4 i enter university i have beeen doing proffessional courses in IT, i use to date the best girls in universities year 4,5 students , i don't think it really matter, wat matter most is COMPORTMENT!!!, CIAO

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It is the women folks that have this battle of marrying a graduate not the men. men are comfortable with what they have as a wife.

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So what because you have a Masters doesn't mean that you know everything in the world. Loving someone has nothing to do with education, however, if you are stuck with the ideology that he doesn't have a degree then you have a long way to go and that is my input.

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Guys does it really matter. I wnt you to tell me as a lady wen u wash

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Can you work for a non-graduate like Bill Gates or Richard Branson?Would it be too down grading?

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i cant dat will be down grading yourself,getting married to a non graduate?no i cant

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make una tell dem, Nigerians prefer to grow backward in d name of class that has no satisfaction, whatever you find in a marriage is your decision.

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it is a high possibility it could happen because more often than non where we find love is where our heart goes graduate or not (a non graduate is not an illiterate)

cheers!!!

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Funloving,

You hit the nail on the head with your reply,its very Nigerian to talk about Grads vs Non Grads issue,In Europe it makes no difference if you actually been to University as long as you have a good job.My former landlord who runs is own building company owns over 20 houses in Ireland worth over £4 million and his just 33 yrs old.He has engineers,accounts,lawyers working for him.

At the beginning of the New Year when the RICH LIST is published,the most intriguing fact was out of the 100 richest Irish people worth over 30 billion Euros and more than 14 thousand employees,67 of these people left secondary school early to learn a trade and start there own business,you don't need an MBA to make it in life.

I will never judge a woman by some piece of paper that indicates she has first class or whatever,it doesn't mean that she loves me,or be faithful,responsible,kind,be my friend or make a good mother.

Bill Gates left College,Richard Bronson never went to College but you guys would be queuing to answer YES SIR to them! I wonder WHY

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It's ok to marry a non graduate but u have to check the mentality of the guy in question.

Peace.

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@Topic: Not in this present day and age

~~Esp if the lady is the graduate~~~

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That makes sense. When a man feels inferior, he will mess up the marriage at the end. But I think, if I am very rich, there will be no reason for me to feel inferior to a lady just because she has a piece of paper that I don't have.

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Sure, i ave seen so many cases where the husband is a graduate and the wife didn't. So, i don't think it's a new thing.

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@adconline

well said o. but ,

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@adconline

well said!!!

I totally agree with you there

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I think relationship is always been in favour of women- when it comes to making choices. Its the man who does the searching and wooing  for a wife. I tell you  what , a suitable suitor would not trade a good woman for anything regardless of her educational, economic and  social status. In most cases women are looking out for men who are , economically , socially and emotionally stable. Its easier for men to marry a non grad than women. In the  universities,  men don't find it difficult to go out  with someone who is in a lower level/class,  but its very difficult for women  to date a guy who is not in the same level/class with them.

likes of okocha, kanu and CO, came home to marry unknown Nigerians. Could the same thing be said of likes of Regina Asika, Agbani Darego, Oluchi Onweagba and co.

May be its a cultural thing that runs deep in the system that a man is supposed to  be well established before searching for his missing rib.   

Whoever findeth a wife, findeth favour in the Lord- not a graduate or trophy wife.   As for me, I  can marry a non grad. I was not born a graduate.

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I don’t know. Even some of those people that went to university can not construct a simple sentence(s)

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