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Guys, Do U Think A Girl Needs To Make Shakara B4 Saying Yes?

Howdy all,

I met this guy bout 2 weeks ago. Therez this chemistry dat we both cant deny. He seems like a very nice person. He thinks we should work on a rship. this may sound silly but don't u think a girl needs 2 play hard 2 get for sometime? just so she doesnt seem desperate.

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Its unfortunate 'cos I usually just assume any hesitation from a girl is a sign of dis-interest. To me, playing hard to get is a sleazy way of saying I am hard but still cheap if you know your way or you can play your cards well despite your intentions towards me (whatever they may be).

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Wotz wif u guyz and bringin up old threadz? Damn, dis shyt nidz 2 b lockd upz. . . .

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Yep i support gurls to do shakara bcoz my sister do thesame

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Playing hard to get will disfavour you if:

1. the guy lacks persistence

2.the guy has better options around

3.his closest click advises him to burst you that you are not worth the chase.

There was a guy that toasted a girl,so she didnt jel. He deleted the girl's number, only for her to call a radio station's dating programme to lodge her complaint.

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So long as you don't over it do then it's cool

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You even see guys running bets on who would bone the chic quicker! and there the girl sits thinking she is doing the playing.Pathetic

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@ Eldee,

Exactly ma sentiments!!!

The same intelligence possessed by a church mouse. . . .Poor, watery and uncouth.

Guys can be deadly. . . . .Trust me!!!

Without any prior arrangement. . . .You meet your friend dilly-dallying with your supposed chic and u keep a straight face. . . .

He sees u, he reads your body language and he leaves immediately to let u have your time n space with her.

After the whole rendezvous. . . . . . .You meet him at the pub, compare notes and work together as a unit to make her pay.

Meanwhile, the nymphet is right there believing stupidly that she is a playette. . . . . What a laugh!!!

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@j-girl

Noo you guys are the confused ones see what you girls dont understand is sometimes we even act interested especially when we see she is playing hard to get and then the moment yall let your guards down and give us that funk dat sweet dat nasty and gushy stuff we are out the door.Some guys will calculatively wait while some will just walk out what matters to me is chemistry if you like a dude dont hide it

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I really wonder why a gal shld put you on a long thing jst cos v luv am or like her as the case may be. That often drives out da good intentions and makes me just want to prove a point.

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Of course yes we guys respect the challenge but ladies dont overdo it because it will come back and bite ya thats for sure

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Ladies, please do play hard to get but don't play too much or too hard.

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My hubby has to believe me over them. If not ehn! . . . . . . he'll tell the story.

When a girl likes a guy and he's making her feel all the right jitters, that's exactly when she needs to play hard to get.

She'll be able to control herself and be able to gain the kind of respect she deserves.

If she does not play hard to get, it will be very hard to get a guy who loves her as much as he would if he got her easily.

Guys love the chase and they appreciate the fact that they had to chase to get the girl.

Nothing good comes easy. . . . . . that's what they say.

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Work hard for a MONTH??

God knows i won't be there by the time she comes back to her ground state.

Keep who on a leash for one month??

Although i must agree there's a thin line between the schitzo.

If a woman has your number and has declined two of your invitations without mentioning the possibility of a future date, she's not playing hard to get; she's playing hard to never get.

If she were interested, she would call you at some point or at least apologize for being so busy and give you a future possibility, like mentioning that next week is much better for her and that the two of you can go out then. If she's busy all the time and makes no attempt to keep the window of possibility open, it's clear she doesn't want to waste either of your time. Move on, game over.

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Guys saying how bad it is to play hard to get.

On a personal level, I don't play hard to get but that gets me in so much trouble because the guys don't cater to me as much as they are supposed to.

So girl, make him work hard for at least a month.

Guys only appreciate what they work for, not what they get so easily.

You need to play hard to get to get them to cherish you forever and ever.

Don't mind Hannibal's advice. He's only talking this way because he's on the losing side of the fence.

Play your games, it keeps them on their toes even in the relationship.

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She came calling 2 weeks later asking "how come you ain't called me since"? Dear, I moved on.

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@topic

sometimes, but don't go overboard

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Playing hard to GET might come back to bite ur Bottom REAL HARD.

Why waste time when u already know chemistry exists between you 2s. . . .

Ya playing hard to get might get him bored which may drive him to other chics.

Get real. . . . Take whatz yours!!!

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This should be a matter of maturity.

Even if a girl wants to play hard on me I still expect her to give me

some green light else I will stop chasing her. Its easier for us guys

to lose interest when the chasing is becoming too much. We'll soon begin to

realize she's not all that afterall

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play hard to get only if u ve to, bt no over do am o.

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its good but its up to an extent

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yes i think so u dont ve 2 cum 2 cheap i guess

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4play this is for u , you should respect the choice of a woman.

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@Aa'LiyaH

Shakara, playing hard to get, posing,

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nolongthin so what are u feeling like. the DON. na so,

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Tru word 4 play , u took the words right out of my mind,

I had this chick that i had been on her case for about 8 months now, i really liked her and there was a stage i felt she could be the 1, suddenly i just got tired of her games but just still chasing her cos i had spent so much of my time and as an experienced hunter i knew wiv women , u never say never, to cut the long thing short i finally nacked her this week and it wasn't spectacular, maybe if she had succumbed earlier i would have still been crazy about her, but as at now i've discharged,

No Long Thing

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@COCO29

Maybe you and I can hook up and I will show what I want in a woman.

My point is that the games women play can be so farcical that you end up losing interest in them.I understand women don't want to look cheap and want to test their suitors true intentions but they tend to overdo it.

Life is too short and most men ain't got time to wait

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like i said, u have a very low opinion of women, i really dont blame you. there r so many guyz like u, but its left for us women to change your opinions but unfortunately i dont fink dats ever goin2happen, since alot of gurlz are lookin at pple like christina aguilera and britney spears as role models, (i shake my head)

wat'er, thats the gurlz problems.i'm sure a gurl would be desperate enuff to have u, i know i'm not!

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@COCO29

Chics have no biz delaying the inevitable.If they like me they should me want i want.

So long as their are girls who give it up early,I am not going to wait for those who are hell bent on playing pointless games

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i'm sorry i'm tryin to understand so dont be offended if i mis-quote u,

r u tryin to say,if she doesnt have sex with you on your 2nd date, u stop callin her?

if thats what you mean, u must have VERY low opinion of women! thats sad.

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My rule is if you can't hit it on the 2nd night don't call her again.

If she can't give it up then,no point in wasting your time .

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@baby4u, TRUE talk, u sound like your talking from experience.

girls never delay the inevitable, if you've seen march of the penguins then u know how patient the male specie can be, the longer you wait the less interested the guy becomes, it then gets to a stage that it becomes an ego thing ,he justs wants to bed you cos u've cost him so much of his time.

Go with the flow,if at the beginning his main aim is to nack and discharge,365 days of long thing will not deter him,

No Long thing!

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if ur'e in nigeria u can play hard to get, men kinda dont understand the meaning of NO in nigeria, they'll know ur'e playing hard to get and still keep chasing, some even do it for years (abi i dey lie). i'd advice u (cause ur profile doesnt say where ur at), if ur in america/london DONT DO THAT (play hard to get i mean), fine girls plenty, guys dont waste their time on a fine girl, cause they are plenty more fishes in the sea. just make sure that you dont get cheap when u guys start dating, atleast u know then his ur's.

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Its a naija babe's thing, but i'll say, it doesnt make u any more expensive or cheaper to say yes when u see good prospects, making shakara will only spoil everything. If u dont see a possiblity in dating the guy, simply say "NO" instead of leading him on in the name of shakara.

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One Word, RIGHT

she has every right to play hard to get so the choice is his (the chaser/toaster)

to make whether to play along or to get fed up.

and in some cases it doesn't mean Playng hard to get, but she just can't go out with him.

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I always wondered why when a hard-won conquest is made, you always feel like bailing once the chick drops the first time. I guess its never enjoyable when u have to work too hard. By that time the girl is like those toys that little boys fight tooth-and-nail for just because they are kept out of reach. give him the toy and he looks at it for 5 seconds, keeps quiet and throws it away.

lesson: if you want to rooster-tease, do it to the bitter end, and NEVER allow him to bed you. beware of molest, sha. afterall these are NIGERIAN men we are talking about,

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Playing hard to get is normal. But don't stress the guy too much though. He might walk away. He could also persist just to hear you say yes, get laid and then walk away. If the guy is cool and you really like him, you might as well let him know.

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if u don't love him then u can play hard to get

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I am so lovin this thread.

Please keep the posts comin

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I'd expect a responsible girl to play a little hard to get but if she plays really hard to get and I know she's interested in me I'll give her up.

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no need for that be ur self and go for what u want thats if u really want the love. guys are getting scarce now so go for and hold what u have for now.

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if he is an average bwoii,i think you need to shakara a bit but if he is damn fine is better you accept quick cos if you shakara and he doesn't ask you again what will you do, remember there are lotsa girls out there

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i don't really know the reason why ladies prefer that way but to be frank it make men loose interest

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Wotz wif u guyz and bringin up old threadz? Damn, dis shyt nidz 2 b lockd upz. . . .

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That shakara gangan na him be the thing don look uche face drible and make sure you score.

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2me,shakara is xpected 2 be de starting point afteral nothing good comes easily.

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