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Guys: How Would You Feel If A Girl Toasts You?

Hey guys what do you feel if a gurl toast yah.. what yah think.. do you mean they are cheap or something ..?? on a good day.. woun't allow a gurl toast me either. but what yah fill ?

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@otuonye, pls explain to me what ya mean by "responding to her respectfully" cos am currently facing such a situation and wouldn't want to hurt the girl's feelings.

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mmmm,my view:

1. if its just once,then its the girl not me, it means she's just after something she wants(whatever men,if shes my type and am searching then am game)

2. if it occurs twice a week or month,then its me and not them, it means theres something ive achieved that attracts them and if its some valueables like money,chain(blings), sorry ohhhh!!!!!

3. i would feel good(aint gon cry) and respect the girls courage and style, it doesnt mean she's cheap(depending on how the appoach came)

4. the kinda girl that approach(es) me matters, if its the wayward and bad looking,dirty or unkept kinda girl then ill go for mountain of fire (church) deliverance and prayers,lol, instanta ill change my wardrobe and hangouts

but honestly i dont mind them cool girls if they approach

however it comes men,i respect my women

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it's like the same old saying, go for what you want/like.

l have actually asked a guy out couple of times and l see nothing wrong in it just like the ladies, we also have guys who are shy and sometimes the circumstance in which the guy might be at that point in time might not do right.

so a little piece of paper slipped under his glass will do no harm will it ladies?

besides if you really like what u see in him , why not!! dont let that bold muscular ,pretty tall thing with a sense of touch, nice adbs and a husky voice slip away.

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Well it has happened to me couple of times, I give her the nod if I like her and if I don't I give her a hug and tell her she will me someone better than me. it's that simple IMO. oh boy, but i do have a stage 5 clinger one time, difficult to shrug off

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i totally agree with @thoniaslim

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Nothing wrong with it.

I'd feel fine - in fact, correction, I do feel fine!

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for a lady to taost me well there is no big deal about that i will feel ok as if i am the one that toast her reemeber it is not a law that it most be a man that most go for a lady. But the normal thing is that if you are touch by the spirit of love then say it out to the one you love. if you are waiting for man to always toast you then sometimes you will miss the one that belongs to you. so ladies you better wake now or you miss an instand angle of your life.

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how do ladies feel when guys walk up to them? atleast i can recall three occasions when such happened,its no big deal , she is only trying to express her feelings, i didnt see it as anything just as i wont see it a big deal walking up to a girl am attracted to, the only problem was that on all these occasions i wasnt attracted to any of the girls, if they were people i ordinary would have gone after, why not? please ladies who do this should take this point to heart: if you walk up to a guy and you express your feelings, after that occasion try giving him some distance to sense his reaction, if he is okay keeping you at arms lenght in my opinion, it simply means he doesnt want to get into anything with you, but if you stalk and are all over him, he could quickly have his share of your booty and every other thing becomes history, funny enough when opportunties were there to do something funny with some of the girls that were bold enough to express themselves i never did because it would seem like am taking undue advantage over her and that would get me committed.

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I will respect the girl,and at least be a good friend

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in nigeria its not rite 4 a girl to make the first move,dats d the believe of every body,but in abroad its notin special,but i believe if a girl ask a guy out,d guy will take advantage of the girl,because he wil believe that d girl brought heself to him.dat she stoop so low,so i think its not rite 4 a girl to make the 1st move,instead she shld seek 4 notice and make sure d guy likes her,then d guy wil ask her out.

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i dont think a gurl will "toast". a gurl might put up some performances for u to notice her and then u follow up.

No gurl can stop me and start telling me she wants me badly. Ill take to my heels. .

its crazy

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i will call press conference with BBC,CNN,VOA reporters in attendance,yeye question hisses and walks away

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any girl can toast me all the way and i will not see it as anything. whats bad if a girl should toast me? infact, if any girl is interested in me please, toast me and i am just as game as u are.

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Yea! @Kenflavor and @Z4M4eva

You guys have done justice, For me i kind of, do not like girls asking me out reasons are my past experience, I admire girls and respect their ego even more when i see a girl taking such a bold step and me of all people, But unfortunately for me i fell twice and the girls took advantage of how i treated them.

In one of my exp. I never knew she only wanted a fling it seams her man was not around and so when she came after me i adored her, but later she jilted me, it was really mad to know how a girl could play me, I always never want to make them feel that i am taking advantage of their asking me out first, and thats where i always get it wrong.

The other is worse, i mean it was abt money, but when she could not find what she thaught i was, she simply quit. But i still give kudos to babe that go for what they want regardless of what people will say.

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increases your ego and confidence (makes u feel like u are "all that") even when u are not,

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I will feel the way, i have always felt. There's no big deal about who does the toasting, the issue with most of us here in this part of the world is just our mentality.

My GIRLFRIEND toasted me and i didn't run mad, i am still who i am.

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@HOT ANGEL

Boys are sick, nuff said.

You will feel embarassed?? Like wtf, what about the girl that walked up to u?? Common now, y'all should be happy she walked up to u!

PLESE TAKE THAT BACK! WE AINT SICK.

WHY? LIKE YOU ARE HAPPY WHEN A BOY WALKS UP TO YOU

WHO ASKED FOR YOUR OPINION SEF. ?

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Na tell am say, the thing wa she dey find dey under-construction,

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if a girl 'toasts' me,no biggie init

look at it in this way,she wants the both of you to be together and figured you didnt want to make the move cos of some reasons,so she made the move

so,is anything bad there?

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If a lady does;she needs you for a fling.From experience.Infact most of the ones I had were regrettable because nothing good came out of them.It's just use and dumb.The latest one I had was even my boss daughter and his younger sister

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guy, this is the new millenium. Even in those days girls use to ask guys out, just that it was not as rampant as it is today.

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i take it as real fun being toasted by a girl

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i will feel very very silly.

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Ohh my Goodness!! This $#!T actually happened to me. This was fine and me and friends used fantasize about her until i got the shocker!! The girl actually dig me like crazy ! She was too shy to confront me so she sent her sister to do the dirty work. Her sister unexpetedly asked me for a ride to school and getting there, the fine sister was waiting for a ride back. I was a nervous wreck, she asked me for my hobbies and all kinds of questions. Before she dropped from the car she gave me a hot kiss on the cheek and her phone number ! My boys couldn't believe it until she came to visit me with a micro-mini skirts. I tapped that @$$ well, well ! The sad thing is that the moment she went after me, all my hots for her just went warm and eventually cold. I like to do the hot pursuits !

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ASKING a guy out according to our culture is absolutely wrong .highly unculture attitude.we can not sy because the world is changing we change with it but things as drastically altered in our days.we can not dipute the fact that some guys cannbot ask girl out including mysdelf,but civiliozation must not erode awayn our ancestors way of living.nevertheless iwill never take a girl as a cheap one if she ask me out because she prove to be bold and confident

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I think the question to me would be how did you feel when a girl asked you out.

Well, it's happenned twice and the second time was actually very, very direct. I was still in school then and a chick in my department told me why I didn't like have a faculty chick. She said she knew I had one really got chick in Geography department but there's nothing quite like having someone you'd want to go to class for, someone you'd wake up early in the morning and become a serious student just cos they were involved.

Well, in my usual nonchallance, I said "if you find that chick, I no run O"

so she told me she knew someone that was dying to hook up with me. I just told her no worwor contestants O!

Only for me to see her the next day and when I asked where my babe was and she just answered that the problem with me is that I search the whole of Sokoto for what is in my Shokoto, and I look too far instead of looking right in front of me.

Guy my head nearly burst O! Miss finest, miss can't go out with any UNIBEN boy, how the hell do you think I felt? I felt like 2face feeling like he's Obasanjo. I loved her more than anyone ever would, and I treated her the best I could but y'all know all good things come to an end.

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i would be very pleased, but what if she is just playing a joke.

all the joy will turn into tragedy if she is not my type.

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Have experienced that a number of times. Such women tend to earn more of my respect cos they break the usual relationship barriers doing so. Good, if I like her too and had her on my radar, Ill spill my side of the story quickly and make it look like she never said nothing.

But if I dont got no feelings for her. . . well Ill still admire her self-confidence and would want to stay acquainted (tho thats almost impossible)

Generally I like the assertiveness and confidence it demonstrates in a girl when shes bold enough to express her feelings (subtly though), and from little experience I think such women find it easier to exhibit leadership qualities.

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I do not think that I will look down on any babe that toasts me. As a matter of fact, I have been in such a situation before. 3 ladies have [at different occasions] done that. However, the only problem was the ladies were not my type, but I did not lookd down on any of them. I still responded to the respectfully.

In fact, I like such women because it gives me the feeling that they are of the bold breed. I like the BOLD and BEAUTIFUL women.

Jojo

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It definitely won't be a good feeling

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Boys are sick.. nuff said.

U will feel embarassed?? Like wtf.. what abt the girl that walked up to u?? Common now.. y'all should be happy she walked up to u!

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wow Intresting Well a girl as walked up to me.. but don't feel good about it.. Just because i produce someone's album.. Using the Piano and the Computer, Since then,she no gree me rest. Everyday nah Test message and behold she came to me and start preaching.

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I've been wooed most times by girls, and it never made me lose my head.

It is just that our culture frowns at such moves but there is nothing wrong with a girl

going for what she wants.

It's ok girls, you are free to do that but don't over-do it.

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well, I really would not know what to do now... When I was in sec school, a girl sent me a love note and I agreed to meet with her some place but it turned out bad and I found her urgly and uninteresting and I have had the notion since then that girls that ask guys out are usually........ but that's my own notion which may or may not be correct. I think it take's serious guts and balls 4 a lady to ask a guy out in these parts of the world as she is sure to expireince some form of dissin and undermining... in other word, nah yawa b dat one ohh... ... Right now, I believe it will be a good fellin 4 me if any girl can toast me ohh. I will really like that. I will form first then agree later so that they will have a tase of their own poison.... No yawa at all.

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the truth of the matter is that, there is nothing wrong in the whole thing.its all about the confidence she puts on and she has to be stylish in her approach so that she is not perceived as a loose and cheap gurl.

personally, i wont mind to be approached and  be toasted. i will even wanna understand her angle and try to support her cos i could be very emotional myself .

It isnt even a new thing in the western world as they see it as a normal thing. anybody having any crush on anybody can approach the person .what this means is that, the crushee can approach the crushed simple !

gbam !Hava nice day .

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Right, Kenflavour!I agree with you,I have asked guys out before, it's just all about confidence,I personally do not see anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out, it's probably the way nigerians still see things(please do not get me wrong, I am a nigerian), it's just it's like we still think in the old fashioned way, like we are still living in the 70's, a guy does not always have to ask a girl out first, the girl can do the asking if she is confident enough,what if the guy is too shy to ask? and they both fancy each other?what would happen then?If the guy is too shy to do the asking, there's nothing wrong in the girl asking him out,actually some guys like girls that are confident.I'm 100% sure that not all couples going out together now, or that are married , that the guy did the asking, the girl has a right to as well,I don't see why a girl should be seen as a LovePeddler just because she asked a guy out, nothing ridiculous about it, just the girl showing some confidence, and asking the guy she fancies out.

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It's because all our actions are always Africans. I see nothing wrong in a lady toasting a guy she admires. Meanwhile, where is it written either in Quaran or Bible that it should be only man that should woo a lady. When a lady comes up to me and says she loves/like me, I will be very grateful to her. (1) For the fact that she is real (not a pretender) and confident about herself and (2) For choosing me out of thousands of men she must have met before me.

I will definitely give her a chance to be my friend and along the line, if she possess the qualities I want from a lady, thereafter she becomes my wifey (that is if I am not engaged before her arrival). On other hand, she still remains a friend and I will be encouraging her whenever the need arises.

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If a girl toasts me, I can't see it happen, cuz I will look like a fool for a girl to toast me.

Rediculous!

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