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Guys My Friend Is In Love With Three Guys What Should She Do?

I have known her since primary school days she has 3 guys 1 is workin in a notable mobile network and is paid well he is promisin her a good life in marriage he's 28 & she appreciates him alot. the 2nd is still in school in his 3rd year for a 4 year courseand is also promisin marriage he is very comfortable cos he's in biz and is only 22 she appreciates him too. the 3rd is her mate in school though some years older than she is he's 20 and the babe is 18 and wants to marry @ 19 who does she go for.

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UZZYAN,Your friend is not mature enough to go into marriage right now.She should remember that this is a lifetime commitment and therefore she is approaching it from a sellfish point of view.She is not even mentioning the character of those people she is interested in.She needs time and above all,she needs to pray.Divorces stem from what is looking,money can come and go but if u truly love someone no matter what you will stay and she should also work on herself.Goodluck!

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Tell that your friend to make up her mind on one choice; tell her to stop being greedy; because if it comes to the knowledge of those three men that she keeps other guys, they might see her as a flirt, and withdraw the marriage intentions they have for her.

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just remembered this post, so can i have more light thrown on this again?!!!

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What should she do?

My advice is, forget all 3 guys, and take some time out.

Then socialise more, and find a guy who has NO connection with the original 3. She can't be in love with these 3 guys, as far as I'm concerned, you can only be in love with 1 person! Any more, I'd class it as greed / lust.

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Hii Landers

Let us say the truth, Uzzyan is the person involved in this polygamous trend but she does not want to come out open.

Uzzyan stop fooling us , if u are not ready to tell us exactly how you feel owning up to your personality, sorry we might not be able to gibve you what you want.

Is very obvious,even if she is your best and only friend , she can not tell you everything.Invariably you are the one, just come out so that we can reply you properly.

peree boy

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Ok ooooo i will report

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I don't think she is wife material type. She is just gold-digger don't know what true love is.

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Na wa for that kind polyandry

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Can't d poster see that it's not love!

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She should add a fourth. The more the merrier

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Abi na you?Confess.Anyways,she is not in love she's only playing games with the fellas

heads.Sorry to say this,she's probably gold-digging or simply a playa(abi wetin I go call am

self)

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Trust me she can't be in love with 3 guys at thesame time,she needs to give herself some time and she needs to rethink.And besides,is it a must for her to get married @ 19?

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@ loverboi

Its true she is still in school but omo she gat to marry before she turn simbi 4 house

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buttom line is dat it doesn't matter wat we say, itz up 2 her cuz itz her life

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is this one polygamy or trigamy,

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Dudu thanks i think too that the mobile guy is the one who is readin and more understand also i learnt he is more christian like than the others

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This is a "love rectangle" or "love square".

It's a big problem and it's more complicated than stated but it's obvious that the only person that's ready now is the mobile network worker. She could apply herself to loving him. One thing I have learnt with men is that they are mostly better when they are older. Believe it or not she is 18 but if we want to look at her maturity level she's 25. This pronouncement rules out the other guys.The older guy makes better sense to me. It's the logical choice. But life is not about logic. Some times logic works other times it doesn't work. This is just me opinion.

I'll say she should follow her heart but sometimes our hearts follow our heads and our greed and longings. This is not good choice.

She should sit down and define what she wants. And then use the PMI techniques to do her analysis (Look up PMI technique on the web). This could help.

Above all she should really pray about it because we are talking about marriage here. It's only God that knows what's best for us.

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Thanks bright that is one good one

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Well,in dis case,she should go closer 2 her God de answer is right there waitiing 4 her.

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Hey i just called her right now and she really said she will stick to thelma's advice

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She's got to take a time off all 3 of them and do a deep thinking.

There's no hurry 4 her @ 19! Otherwise she'll marry in haste and repent in leisure.

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Marriage is for matured minds not child's play. she can't be truely in love with three people at the same time.it's either she loves them for different reasons; she might love 1 for his money, another for his looks and the other for only God knows what. anyway the point is if she cannot make up her mind now then she ain't ready to walk down the aisle yet.

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That's just what she needs, Move away and literarily FORGET about the 3 of them for abt a yr to do serious thinking and reflections. There's maybe one of them (or none) that she REALLY likes most.

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Thanks guys i really appreciate it. She truly is behavin like a kid.the main issue is that she is sacred of tellin any of them anythin because of there reactions or statements.

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Please note: She can't be in love with three people at the same time. It's just not possible!

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Well, i believe the lady just wants to seek comment and opinion, she don pick one b4 she dey seek opinion. you know ladies and insecurity, they always like to seek comment b4 they start a relationship or b4 they get married. Why do you think ladies would seek the consent of their freind to help them access guys before they finally come and say YES to you. Sori oo, they are never secured, they love sweet comment. Marry the three o jare, take the lead and be the first to marry three at differeent venue!

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D point is dat she loves one of them more.But she is sacred he might not b able2care for her financially.Dats why she still sticks to dat may be v mobile or mtn guy.She is not focused.Pls tell her2marry for love and not for money.We hav a lot of people who are married to professional carpenters and r just too happy in thier marriages.She is still holdin on to d three because she is a kid in a confused state.If really she wants to get marid next yr,den make she decide now.It pays to be happily married.

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One myth about marriage is that most people expect it to be a Prince Charming and Sleeping Beauty match -- which isn't the case.

Your friend is playing three men. Maybe what she has is infatuation. I suggest she drop all of them, and reflect on her preferences -- she can then decide which one she loves best.

Jumping into marriage at 19? She sounds as if it's a do-or-die affair to get married at 20. If she feels like marrying, good. If she wants to marry because she wants to meet her deadline of 20 years old, I pity her. Tell her to do some serious thinking.

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She is so down cast and wants to quit playin on them but she cant help it she loves them all with all her heart and doesn't want to let go. She is currently very much attached to the one in biz cos he's livin close to her and all that. while one is livin near her school the other is livin were she was livin be4 i told her that she was turnin out to be a playa but she said she is in a confused state and that she needs help and fast at most she wants to get married 20 and the 1st 2 guys are promisin her that.

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