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Have You Gotten A Girl Pregnant Before? Share Your Experience!

Dear all,

Maybe I should change my subject to read "Have you had a baby and didn't marry its mother? Share your experience!"

Tell me what u went through (or are still going through!). Sure it'll be priceless. Maybe i'll pick up a few tips.

For me, its been hell!

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more like, the rest of them guys either used protection, didn't even know the girl got pregnant or they aborted their babies.

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Morenike did put it mildly. C'mon, wat do u have to say about a guy that had the sense to 'do it' but now to stay. Thats the hieght of irresposibility.

But before we crucify him, he's askin for our help, not condemnation.

Dont Desert your son! He's a part of you know. Try and settle the differences you have with the mother, and lets be fair to her, she has every right to be grumpy. Put yourself in her shoes and you'll understand.

So my advise, Stick in there man, and next time, use a condom!!!!

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tinkin of goin for IVF , will make u pregnant

dont bother come directly to me @

1397 Tiamiyu Savage

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Mr Randy Dick, sorry to disappoint you. The difference between us is that i take responsibilities for my actions. Infact, i try to guide against such actions before they occur. I liken your situation to that of guy around 26 or thereabout that has kids from two different women that he has no plans to marry. guys like u make Morenike et al call us all sorts of funny names- imagine dead beats?

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yES, ON XBOX gRAND THEFT AUTO, IT WAS FUN!!

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dis shd b jamb question (5)

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hell nooooooooooooooooo,i only got a goat pregnant, now that you know go and look for one

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What!!! You guys.

Are you saying I'm the only one on nairaland that has ever got a girl pregnant and didn't end up marrying her?

Where are all you guys?

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My understanding of deadbeat is a guy who refuses to take responsibility for his kid[s].

So why all the hostility towards Gamers from some females even before he explained that he was involved in the kid's life and paying bills too?

Last I checked, it takes two to make a baby and its not a crime to knock a woman up and refuse to marry her. This is the 21st century - no law says you must marry a woman just because she is pregnant for you.

The mere fact I like a woman enough to sleep with her does not automatically mean that I must love her enough for marriage. Marriage is for life - she may be good enough for sex but not good to marry.

After all, some women will date and sleep with one guy to pay their bills but marry some one else that they like better. Cuts both ways.

So stop all this man-hatin and apply some common sense!

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@gamers

Thank you for your clarification but i abi @adeboo above.

Work harder to support your child in order to please child's mother satisfactory and continue communicating with her to let her know how far your status on supporting your child. That's all!

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@Gamer, just keep doing what u doing.

its gonna be hard but it will become easy.

Make sure u just address ur baby mother that u are doing ur best, its hard to do anything when u supporting ur child but what can u do?

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omg!! why do you keep saying this bobo name? abeg o, dnt make him come after me o

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Hellz NO!!

@ Poster

Dude I cant say I feel your pain cos I alwayz have protection on hand. You'l never catch a true playa slippin.

But I have a pal who has a Kid out of wedlock and DAMN!!! The boi is really in deep sh*t. It really is hell.

The guy is a part of his childs life but that poo is really tearing him apart both financially, emotionally and otherwise.

And it's worse if poo like this happens outside 9ja. Esp. here in europe and the states, these girls are brutal, if you slack on that child support, your Bottom is going to jail.

All I can advice you is to always place that kid as numero uno on your priority list. And never ever give the kid the impression that he/she is a burden or a mistake.

Ask for the mum, I really dont know what to say bout them. Women will alwayz be major bitches especially when you knock them up and then leave them hanging.

Dude hang in their, and learn from this, ALWAYZ have a rubber around cos you never know when you are gonna need it.

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@uspry1

The truth is that the deed has been done. I did not use contraceptives and now I have a fine baby boy to show for this.

I don't intend to be a deadbeat. Infact I've promised to be as active a father as I'll b permitted. But I must say that its tough. Cash isn't coming as it used to. Baby-mother is as grumpy and being the drama queen she is known for! Its increasingly becoming difficult to be sane.

I've been doing my best, believe me. The hospital trips and bills. Baby things (not much but I'll continue to try to foot all!). Car for baby mother (we split this in halves). Monthly feeding and diaper allowance. Its taking its toll on me as its difficult to save. But I continue to strive and of course, more overtime at work!

But as expected, baby mother does not appreciate this. Her complaints are getting very unreasonable. Infact, she has asked that I dont come to see my son anymore. Her reasons that she wants to be stable and move on with her life. This is fair enough, I assume. But something is telling me that she is doing this to make me die of guilt. Guilt of thinking that I've brought a child into this world and not taking care of it.

So Busta, thats what I mean by hell!

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Thats true girl.

AT least if he didnt care, he wont be posting here.

And tell me about the dead beat dads - i know about them too well.

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If thats the case, do what u can cause there are baby mothers that have lots of drama.

Do the best u can for the child, pay maintenance, see the child on the day that u have arranged together etc and if the mother still behaves like a drama queen, then at least u know u have done ur bit.

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Does this have anything to do with ur id Gamers

I certainly don't expect less

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Please save yourself the headache. Most here are dead-beats!

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don't have any but what do u mean by "its been hell"??

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