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He Gave Me A Key To His Apartment - What Does This Mean?

What does it mean when a guy gives you a key to his apartment? Do you still have to worry about him cheating, or are you pretty secure at this point?

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Trust is essential to any relationships, including dating. There is no reason to give an apartment key to someone you do not trust. It just does not make sense. So, either your guy trusts you, or you have pressed him hard and nagged him into it because of your mistrust about cheating and other things. It a turning point where you need to stop and reconsider your relations. Are you willing to move forward towards marriage? Do you both trust each other enough? Can you deal away with any mistrust and does it have any real basis? Those are all good questions to ask yourself before you go too fast forward.

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I believe the guy trusts you totally and wants to take the relationship to the next step (marriage probably).

Believe me girl, as a super spy, aiint giving no girl no keys to me house unless I fully trust her and I am thinking about settling with her. Me house is me lair where I retreat to for some peace and quietness from all the drama that is out there.

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Giving you a key to his appartment in my opinion means you should watch how things progress from here on, don't read meaning into anything yet. I'm not saying you shudn't give ursef to him but u shud just enof of urself bhind 2 nurse exit wounds if need b. in the end only u knows wots best for u.

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Simply put - You are now his better half and part of him. Congrats , Call us when jollof rice don land for that special day!

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Happy r u wen u r cald 2 his supper lol

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The Question here is that how long have you guys been together in other words dating and how old are you guys, do you know any of his relatives or does he know yours, be vigilant even the bible also tells us to watch and pray so my sister please be vigilant.

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I am a guy and to be honest with you poster, it means that the man is serious and wants to take the relationship to another level. Dont mind em single,lonely homebreakers wey dey here o. Good luck!

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1. Lies and more lies used to Justify the animalistic, archaic behavior of your gender. - Re: Responsible Bachelors Are Hard To Come By In Uk

2. Its high time ladies realized that they can be somebody with out a man rather than settle for scums of the earth. - Same as above

3. Love is an illusion marketed by the entertainment and advertising industry. It simply doesnt exist - Re: Love Is A Decision Do You Belive That?

4. They have some how convinced women that cheating is their civic responsibility in society. Undecided - Re: She Cheated: He Cheated: But He Wont Take Her Back. . .

And the list goes on and on and on. . .

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Then you r his Bleep buddy

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IT may mean lots of thing. May be he want you to have access to his house any time.

Visit www.perfectsdate.blogspot.com to broading your knowledge on dating

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he might give u keys today does not mean he will marry u ,i will advice u take the relationship as a normal relationship until he makes his in-tensions known that he wants to marry u,or until u two get married.if i gives u key today does not mean tomorrow he cant collect back his keys and give it to another woman.afterall u are not his wife

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If he didnt trust her, would he be with her in the first place?

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is your roommate a man?

the poster is referring to her BOYFRIEND not roommate giving her the keys to his flat

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My roommate has the key to my room too. Abeg, you ladies need to stop thinking ahead of yourselves.

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welcome, count yusef luky say u get 1key(to d house abi naroom)

sum dont get any.that means u worth sumtin and he feels he can trust u(hw long did this takee to b given house key)

but the koko, HE CAN PLAY AWAY MATCHES.WHILE YOU lounging at home watching african magic

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It means you are his unpaid cook/cleaner/sex slave, when he is tired he will change the locks.

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He gave u the key so u can always sweep and keep the place CLEAN!!

Is this so hard for u to understand?

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Ask him what the Key is for instead of looking for answers in symbolism's.

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nice one just use your head,and really focussed,

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@Topic

If he hasn't slept with you, then it means he wants to sleep with you.

If he has slept with you, then it means he doesn't want anyone else to sleep with you, at least, until he gets tired of you or marrys you.

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@ Topic,

It doesn't mean much, at least no yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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@Poster,

the guy wants you in his house forever.

he is one hell of an open minded fellow

he appreciates your cooking and the way you clean the house all the time

he wants you in when he leaves and in when he comes back

he does not have anything to hide.

My guy did the same too. we are TYING the knot this year. just like one poster said, do you have the key to his heart? that is the most important. keep your cool, do alll you can to make your relationship work. learn to be submissive even in courtship. engage in house chores. bake once in a while. cook him his favourite when he least expects it. be good. be bold. be yourself. for it to work, its not about the key, ITS ALL ABOUT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Opening which life.

The poster said Key to Apartment

You are talking of life.

Like i said before

Pure Screensaver.

The guy just trusts that you wont run away with his stuff.

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Its usually a big step for men, it means he is opening his heart and his life to you. It depends on the guy sha, maybe he is looking for a cleaner/ cook and haousemaid, but i would say he is opening his life to you.

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@ ZHEROES and funkybaby, thanks so much for your opinions as well as your advice.

Him giving me the key was totally unexpected. I never asked, nor have I hinted that I wanted it.

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I can't understand why the majority of people feel there's an ulterior motive, to this guy giving his key to his girlfriend.

Someone said, "he could change the locks". That makes no sense! That statement actually shows a lack of logical reasoning. Why would he give her a key, willingly may I add, then proceed to change the lock?

I trust my girlfriend to come and go as she pleases, she doesn't even have to ring first either. She has both my mobile AND landline numbers too.

A live in maid? Where's that coming from? A guy can have a cleaner / domestic helper, without giving him / her a key. You guys should try thinking outside the box, and be less cynical.

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WORD! can it be better than this, i doubt

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@ZHEROES

You are right again. She might not necessarily cook but sometimes, she can drop cards or little gifts at his place reassuring him of her love and faithfulness.

@Bennygee

Am not going to start an arguement with you on this issue but let me tell you this - Not men think or act like you do(messing up girls' hearts and emotions). They are still a few good men out there. Zheroes, funke's Boo and maybe this porter's Boo happens to be among the few.

For your info, he gives me unlimited access to his bank card(with the PIN) to shop as i like anytime we are in UK together.

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@ poster,

to reiterate my points,based on my experience, it simply means he is ready to take you serious and he loves you, just heed the good advices given on this thread and am convinced you wont regret it. although on rare occasions which am yet to experience, a guy may want to do otherwise basically due to

1. IMMATURITY- Still a teenager or probably still an undergraduate and is a dependant.

2. A LACK OF A GOOD SENSE OF RESPONSIBILITY- he is still scared of commitments

besides such attitudes, you basically do not have a problem because am convinced you never asked him for it. continue to be your self and it will be well with you.like was said inform him before coming, it helps , if you come without telling him he would likely begin thinking you are suspecting him and that isn't healthy for the relationship. if you're in his apartment with him and a call comes in NEVER bother to know who it is, some would say isn't that risky? if it was he wont give his spare keys to you in the first place

let me give you a tip, it worked for me i do not know about him, although it depends on the nature of your job or if you are an undergraduate, my girlfriend would surprise me by coming home to prepare what i liked the most,may be fruit salad, baking of cake or whatever, then she would leave before am back, all she does was send me an sms that she prepared something for me, even if i get home very late i still take the stress of driving down to pick her up because sometimes her scent lingers in the room or on the pillows, the truth is :you have a baked cake with you now, what is left is the icing,  how you about it matters a lot, I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.

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I bet he'll collect his key back if you're not able to meet his sexual desire. Return his key to him before he shows you the exit door.

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maybe he's expecting an important delivery,

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as far as im concerned it only means one thing,

ur his current bedmate.

kpom kwem!!!

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@ zheroes

ur simply talking trash.

i can tell u from experience that ive seen guys give their

apartment keys to their girlfriends and still bring other women into that house.

the act is just meant to make the girl beleive that she is free to come and go

meanwhile their is a cache to it.

she develops the so called trust leaving the guy free to play his game.

a man does not need to hand over his house keys to a woman to show seriousness.

and besides he wouldnt give it to thirty women as u said.

he does it to his prey to give them a sense of comfort at that point in time.

if he wants to marry you,

he will do the necessary.

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allow him to delude himself.

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LMAO.

Of course the conclusion might be wrong but that is the impression she is giving. Have u ever thought of the fact that she might just be tagging along with you while waiting for her Prince Charming. Thats another possiblity

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sounds like you're the one forcing the relationship. Its clear in your case that the girl doesnt really see you as someone she wants to be "that" close to.

Nahlijah's case is different . . . sounds like the guy trusts her enough. For me to give a woman the keys to my house . . . she should be expecting a ring next.

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I think funkybabe and Zheroes have really said it all. And the pieces of advice from funky kind of make me think she has been in that situation before cos she is absolutely rite. Dont abuse the right of keys handed over to u (lol)

Bottom line is dat no matter what anybody says, it takes a whole lot for a man hand over the entrance of his abode to a chic. It means he is ready to take the relationship one level higher. He has made a statement ;it is left for u to make him not to regret that statement.

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@bennygee

From my experience, you are the one talking trash.

Is it only in the house the man can cheat on her? Abeg, talk sensibly.

How old are you sef? Cos this poster's issue does not require the opinion of those in chewing gum relationships and are still busy sampling girls or men around.

I still insist that in a serious, committed relationship where the man is over 30 and he then gives his girl the keys to his apartment only means he has found a wife in the lady and the next thing on his mind is marriage.

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@ Funkybaby - Good advice.

I had already made up my mine to always announce my arrival.

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@big father

He changes his locks-fine. Then he gives her the new keys.

@poster

Just things cool and easy and remain the girl he trusts and loves.

Do not act like you are impressed that you have his spare keys. Sometimes, when going to his place, intentionally forget the keys at your house and insist that he waits for you (assuming he is on his way out and wants you to let yourself in with your spare keys.)

Also respect his privacy. Try to seriously avoid going to his place unannounced.

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@ ZHEROES. Thank so much for your comments. This is a mature man in his 30's.

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ZHEROES you are right again.

@poster

I have been through this situation and if your guy is in the same circumstances as zheroes has mentioned(over 30, independent), you might have a marriage proposal coming soon.

No RIGHT thinking man would give his keys to several ladies. Players dont act that way. He will spend more time settling fights than screwing which his is original intention.

An average guy can bed as many cheap ladies as possible without even showing the way to his crib to them how much more giving them spare keys.

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i will like to add that its a great plus for you if the guy is in his late twenties or early thirties, what i mean here is he shouldnt be a student , from my experience if he isnt responsible to himself it means nothing but good time for sex, if he works amd isnt depending on anyone for sustenance, my sister just put your heads down , your prayers are almost answered.

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word !

it means nuffin !

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True talk.

At least u know that he has some level of trust in u - and u can only be a house girl if u want to.

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Ignore what someone said that he will turn you into his sex machine.

How many ladies actually lost their virginity to the man who gave them the spare keys to his apartment? Huh?

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