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He's 18, I'm 14. Does He Like Me?

I need help.

OK I'm 14 years old and i like this guy who is 18.  It seems like he likes me! Cus we'd chill in the pool of where he works as a lifeguard.  We'd play handball and all different kinds of things! I have his email address and he has mine.  We'd play handball and whoever loses had to strip! he always wants me to decide what the loser in handball has to do.  He told me he'd do anything. Sometimes he ignores me, i don't know why. then i got one of my friends name Jason who knows this guy i like.  Jason asked the guy i like if he likes me and the guy i like was confused.  then Jason asked the guy i like if he would kiss me and he said no because he'd get in trouble.  i was pretty stunned by that.  Because b4 the guy i like told me he'd do anything. SO I'M LOST... maybe its because he doesn't want anyone else to know. why wouldn't he kiss me when he would play strip games with me? but after i stripped half way he said dun tell anyone.! so idk

i want to know

Why does he ignore me?

does he like me?

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OP. I hope u still come to this thread. U are now old enough. U shld be 20 now. If d guy is still available, he would be 24. U can go bleep d heck outa him if u want. I just hope u are not a single mother now of his baby frm 6 yrs ago.

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What! you should be thinking about your books.

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here is the point, the guy does not want to gi to jail because you are a minor, go read your book

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I wish you get to read my Post,Girl the best thing that can ever happened to you know is to make your Waec, U know am Talking out of Xperience, Face your studies and leave all the disattractions.

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Thank God this thread is out dated! --- but if this was ma sis --- I would slap her every single morning --- and belive me d slap would never go out dated!

DAMN!

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The chick has obviously made her decision now and even seen the result. What happened to the threat from seun that old threads will be deleted

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go and read ur books girl

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err, guys try to check out the date she posted it first. the poor girl should be 14 now or sumfin. In plain english: Your advice is outdated

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Dat right, Nd also be very careful,

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baby girl u are still young concentrated on your studies now and wait until u are atleast 18 before u start thinking of any relationship ok best of luck

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The girl under this experience is really a Minor just to agree with one of the response on this issue. However, because of the Nigeria factor that might be looked into I will like to ask further question from this girl. Are you from the Northern part of this Country? Are you still a virgin? Are your parents too bussy to attend to you? Your parents and family background must also be looked into (May be your parents are not sensitive eneough about your growth rate and your feelings). In as much as I will not want to castigate you I will like to inform you about the likely consequesce of engaging your self in stuff like this:

- It may result to poor Educational performance.

- It may lead to you loosing your pride (Virginity) in case you are still one.

- If you continue to mount presure on the 18 year old boy who in my own thinking knows you are a small baby to have sex or you decide to start having sex at this age it may result to VVF.

- You may ruine your life as a result of al this.

My young child, take off this thought of sex out of your mind, you can never appreciate marrital love until you are ripe for marriage.

To keep you out of such tought, I will also suggest you try these:

1. Change your friends for now.

2. Talk to your Pastor and Spiritual Councellor.

3. Attend more of Church or Mosque activities.

4. Associte more with mate with good focus for future.

5. I think when you come online avoid adult sites and forum, to you it may mislead you. e.g this particular forum for romance may not edify your soul you are toooooooooooooo young.

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at 14---I was back in high skool and was really scared of guys

U should really just stick to ur books for now, trust me hun, boys will always be there!

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At 14,l would advise you to stick to your studies because l think you are too young to juggle books and boys at the same time

take your time,and the right guy will come at the right time

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he likes uuuu,lol,no go face ur studies,dont give out urself to be defiled! be smart,the rule is 'Don't do it at all'.

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jeez ur only 14 im sure u've got better stuff to do babes, face ur studies trust me there will be loads of guys when u a bit grown up, u'll look back nd laugh at this situation focus on ur studies for now hun, xx

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Firstly, we gat full load of pretenders in here,

Also wondering, people just speak without actual understanding of the topic, u young girl in picture here actually chose d stripe stuff, d girl also is claiming to like or no like, So why are pple crucifying d young man if he did be most of these advice givers here, am sure u would ve taken advantage of d young girl.

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@ poster, he doesnt like. come let me show you what true love is.

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Don't you know people re so close minded!!shio

Even those ones that claimed they didn't have bf at their teen yrs are now ashewo.

I can't stand pretenders and liars which is what's going on in this thread.

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D girl ask u people to advice her, and not to criticize her. DAMN!!!

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sky, totally agree with you

and what is a 18 yr old doing with a 14 yr old anyway

Gross. What a loser.

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Abi oh that was the same thing I said.

Don't u know Nlanders are known to be innocents and born again.

And didn't realize when 14yrs became a minor in NAija.

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Listen,u guyz shudnt jst giv advices u not sure of.it is priti baseless.tell me,hav u met the poor boy?do u knw if he truly likes the gil.beat dat he askes her to strip.even if he wanted sex,doesnt make him love the gil less in actual sense.i knw a whole lot of yu tot of sex dat age.and yu'd lyk to do it wit sum1 yu love.wudnt yu?all y'all succeeded in doin was look at it frm one view.made it lyk u was so sure d guy was unreal.y'all amaze me mehn!!!and pls quit tellin ha to read her bookz.dat pisses me off a great deal.she knws.and if one person sayz it,y must a thousand repeat.wen i was fourteen,i was in ss1 and i had a whole lot of sense nd very matured at dat age.believe me!!!maturity is nt about yur age bt a thing of the mind.i knw a lot of ma bigger mates who werent half as matured as i was.even if she is makin a mistake,othas at that age mite be readin dis.wat do u think they'd feel wen y'all totally presumed datin at 14 rili wrong?please please y'all shud be wise.d fact u didnt,doesnt totally rule out the possibility of othaz doin it.abeg!!!!!

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Nairaland is full of hypocrites, pretenders and liars

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BABY GIRL

just be a nice girl and face ur future, there is no gain in it.

cos when u something tomorow guys we come knocking unexpectedly.

and u will be tiredof them.

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ur telling me guys at 18 are not sex crazed!

They think sex at this time is the greatest thing since sliced bread. Just look at the Sexuality forum.

I am however speaking from a British point of view, there could b cultural difference.

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90% of d boys her age wldn't ask her 2 strip, doubt if it'd even enter their heads. . 95% of 'em wldn't be so sex crazed either!

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i think your misunderstanding me. Yes i do think the girl is young, young to be in a serious relationship. Girls that age like to believe their old enough to do what they like, but they should beware of the consequences, its infatuation they r feeling not love.

I think if the girl was dating a 14 aged guy i wouldnt have a problem, truth. But because she is only 14, a minor, in uk the legal age to have sex is 16, she isnt ready for such things an 18 year old male (most r sex crazy) would want from her.

She has already proved that shes young n naive by stripping with this guy, then he doesnt even notice her afterwards, strange huh.

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D guy's 18, he's crossed d line. . Momma can send him on his way now 2 face d world, she ? She's barely hatched. .

If they was both 14, then d response wld be pretty much d same, albeit less vitriolic. .

If they was both 18, OYO 4 them!

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BTW, who's lettin all these 14/15yr olds onboard ? Remember d "Akon Controversy" ?

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A fourteen year old girl?? Is it me or didn't yall here her say 14years. 14 is just after 13 O! The boy is 18years. ([sub]I guess I have said too much already. A word is enough for those who have ears.)

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DAMN!!

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Gawd. . Wld i luv 2 lay my hands on dat child-molestin prick & wring d breathe o'utta his miserable life. . Liverless coward who can't go pick on a dame his age. . Dah!

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4 F** TEEN . . . Are u nuts ?

Ur age, i didn't knw what made a girl diff 4rm me. . Evrybody was just f** same. . How did ur silly brain ever conjure d word "love".

Get ur nose ou'tta 'em silly m&b's & in2 ur skool txtbooks.

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Yes u are saying it because r 15. When your older and more mature, u will look bak and cringe at all the things u did when was 14. How u wish that u had fun then being stuck in a relationship that lasts a month max.

when i say girls talk about abortion and pill, its them talking about how they forgot to take the pill that day and their mum is taking them to take the morning after pill. Its a disgrace. I'm sorry but u are a child at this age, a child cannot have another child.

This thread is about a 14 year old and 18. Why would an 18 male go out with a 14, think about that.

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@Poster,

Your are at an age when you are just discovering your sexuality, this can be a tricky period especially when you will have feelings you are not used too and you will not be able to handle. But whatever decision you make now, please keep it in mind that it will affect you for the rest of your life, hence you should make right choices.

Those feelings you have for the guy is natural but striping seems to go a bit to far, Even if you have a relationship with him, both of you can be engaged in less stimulating acts. Such as taking a walk or even going out to watch a movie.

As much as your hormones are screaming now, you should try to put them under control, it is natural to feel this way but as i said earlier you have to make good chioces now so you will not have regrets in the future.

Good luck and i hope you make the right decision

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Ignored them jare, NLand are full of pretenders

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i dont think children (as that is wat they are) of ages 14 should be dating.

They are not mature enough and dont understand the consequences of what could happen.

Its sad when you hear 14 year old girls talking about the pill and abortion.

They think they are old enough to have sex, yet they are not old enough carry resposibilities like to have a child.

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hypocrites, and i said dat 4 a reason.

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u better face ur studies there is time 4 every everytin, guys will always be there wait till u are 18

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14yrs old kia!!!!

What class are u?. At 14 u are talking about loving a guy. What do you understand concerning relationship.

You better face your studies or you see your self having 9 in you waec exam.

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My advice to you is that you face your studies, at this stage you're still very young and tender for this kind of game. The guy is only playing games with you, so be careful.

My advice to you once again is be careful!!!!!!!!!!!!.

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hey girl, like almost everybody said, wat u really nid to do is to face ur studies n not worry urself abt whether he likes u or not cos if anytin happens u r going to be the one 2 loose, so girly 4get abt d guy, concentrate on ur studies n if d guy really likes u he'll wait 4 u or if u guys are really destined 2 be 2gether he'll com back to you.

GOODLUCK. WISH U ALL THE BEST IN LIFE.

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i guess he does, he just thinks u're still a kid

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hmmm 14 , 18 i dont really think he likes you

maybe he wants someone he could take advantage of

word,

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Every body should be careful by his/her advise,because i believe that if is your younger sister you will not encourage her to go on . As for you baby girl you have to ask you self this questions, 1 What is love? what kind of love do want in your life? did you want a love that has no future? Listen baby girl, you need two things in your life now, first is god and 2ad is your future which is to face your studies so that you will be somebody tomorrow o k. best of luck to you.

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Quote:

Minors have been poking old men...

Take it from one who knows!

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Your book is of paramount importance than any lover boy at your age. FOCUS. Must you have a boyfriend? We are approaching the end of days

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sweetheart believe me all he just want to do with you is have sex and keep having it wit you because he knows you cant say no once you taste it the first time. when he meets a older finer girl he'll just dump you. so you just take it easy and be very carefull.

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