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He Threatened To 'Smash My Face'. Did He Really Mean It?

He Threatened 2 Hit Me Did He Mean It?

I'm involved with this boy for nearly 2months hes 19 (im 15) from africa, nigeria i think, but has lived here for a long time. he was very withdrawn about himself like his real name, he jus told me his tag, his job, his past, where hes from when he asks me i tell him im silly but i don't understand why he has hinted that he has a criminal past and we had a argument over the phone the other day and he threatened to "smash my face".

Do u think he meant it seriously or just saying it because he was angry, he says he still likes me but less because i lied my age said i was 16, and sometimes he says over the phone why do you call someone who doesnt like you. i asked him what are u trying to say an he said nothing! but he still likes me. obviously your going to say your crazy why do u like him but i don't know what 2 do because i really like him.

im really sorry 4 lyin 2 him he knos that but what if he is playin with my feelins 4 revenge? He recently moved and wont tell me where he is but will speak on the phone but wont reply my texts?! I like him so much i don't know what 2 do. please give me some advice.

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Babe , Prevention is better than cure.

I will suggest you talk to your legs.

domestic violence is the last thing you want in relationships,

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since he said it then he meant it

& besides not trying to be old fashioned or nutin but you should break up with him  and  wait a few years before you start dating again.

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dear

i fu have a pretty face. i would advice u to try not to get it smashed in by another human being. plastic surgery aint cheap

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na wa oh. . . some people sef dey advise.

Why would anybody advice a 15 yr old girl to have sexual r/ship at all, not to talk of having it with an ex criminal who threatens to smash her face within 2 months of their r/ship. Now talking about her under or over studying him is just unthinkable.

For petesakes, she's only 15, would u give the same advice to your sis or your daughter ? What goes around comes around o.

to the poster, you'd be better off focussing on goin to the uni or any higher educational institute and try to keep your mind off sex for a long time atleast till you're about 20 and in a serious and decent relationship. Don't join the pram pushing club at this your promising age. It pays to wait. You'll be more happy and comfortable in future if you wait.

borrowing you my 50kobo

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ehm dear girl, in my 21 years of life i dont think smashing ur face in is code for blowing it with kisses, or maybe i have been away from naija for too long. i would advice u to run like the wind, because if he does smash ur face in, u might not be able to see properly. but girl u must have done somehting crazy for him to make such a comment, either that or he has an extra Y chromosome, and is just destined ot be more aggressive. good luck

and remember, mascara is really hard to apply when u cant see a darn thing.

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why would any one want to go out with someone who's already threatening to SMASH your face. that word ain't slap o.

the fact of the matter is you don't need the guy. simple. so forget about him besides u're just 15.

gal u've gotten time on your side. there are better dudes out there somewhere.

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yes he is your brother and most of my friend he is just human

and he need you and i to pass this life a matured man. . . so give him a helping hand. if you man enough!

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yes ooo, dts wat typewritter is trying to say you. just like d bible na

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I am starting to think you are kinda related to dis slap+jail guy ooo

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here you guys go again language means action abi?

then we all say if you come near me I'll kill you

in fact I'll skin you alive

the how many times have we killed?

and how many people you know that walk around without skins

language is just away of expression some times it exaggerate so don't take all treat to be real

we need this gays pic to know if he looks like Mike Tyson , haba u all just condemn why?

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The point is NOT whether he would really do it or not. You dont need to be around people who can even think of using such language. That suggests they are violent people to begin with. I'm sorry, the average decent person wouldn't use such language. Just my opinion.

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I dont know this guy's temper but u should tell someone closer,our advice cannot be as strong as someone u r close too.Dat dude should not harm u one bit.

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Anyone who treates to "smash your face" does NOT deserve to be called your boyfriend. Enough said

Drop him like it's hot.

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Is that an advice typewriter? I don't think so, not at this her age should she think of doing al dat! Its not like a do or die affair.

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i told my piece and i think it's a master piece

if u run now u 'll have to run all Ur life

so stay and face Ur fears the guy will fall as soon as you make him a man

crime has grade

drug dealer in not always a killer

so don't mix the two

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Baby Girl, what are you waiting for? Are you sticking around till he smashes your face for you to tell that he means it? Get yoruself some self esteem. Why hang around someone who treats you like that?

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Everyone's said it, break up whatever's btwn u. At 15 u shdn't b bothered with things like ds.

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Any one you cannot take home to met your people is not worth going out with.

Nigerian Men are not easy to deal with for( non Nigerians) even for a grown woman And you are just 15.

Am not saying they are good or bad but That strong head na wa

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also yer jus wanna say thanks 4 everyones advice

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I leave school in 2 months so im quite mature, @ mamaput, my mum aint aware of any of this, i dont tell her so its not her fault.

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i say go for what you want girl i think this guy really fancies you but he just doesnt want to get involved with any girl because he's a bit insecured about his past, looks to me as if he's scared if he lets a girl get too close to him,he might get too attached to her and she'll finally betray him.

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Girl, if he said he will smash your face, he definitely will.

He's only just told you to get your mind prepared.

My advise: RUN

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They say if you want to eat a Toad, then eat a big one.

If you have to go out with a criminal then go out with a big one and not a petty drug dealer or 419.

Some times the police tap lines, if they have this boy on their list, then be sure that the day they want to pick him they will pass your house .

My daughter was dating a boy once after just two weeks they were in the club and she was dancing with a friend, This fool came to tell her he will break a bottle on her head that he belongs to her.

She broke up with him the next day after telling me.

The bastard is lucky that i do not have his adress i would have gone over to ask him to explain when and were he helped me raise that child.

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I would never allow my kids to go out with that kind of person.

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yes understudy the guy

age is just a number, now that u all have concluded that the G.u.y is monster without hearing his side of the story

oh the jail fail to correct him (it depend on one state of mind, gave them pressure they fold while u give some double pressuer the straighten out and become firm. Akon came out a star so is mandala so it a mind thing. if u see Ur jail term as an injustice rather than a destine you will react vengeful to the society other wise u become civil.

@ 15 girl to a 22years guy alot of differences should arise but still David cotrolled and defeated Goliath so if you ask God for direction impossible becomes the expected possibility

she should run non stop cos more indecent g.u.ys are still in large supply, so i suggest she run to you now or run non stop.

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@Typewriter

You are indeed a typewritter, what you mean she should under study? haba. A girl of 15 should under study? which kinda being are u ooo. Abeg if she was ur sister would u advice her to go for her man abi u no follow this thread at all? a whole jail which is created for correctional purposes no gree correct the guy(Criminal) na lucy 15 go come civily help the guy? haba please be frank and beta say nothing than mislead her.

Run Away and Dont pick his calls, thank your God you still got ur V. remain V or atleast wait till you get a decent guy. which kain love be that, love @ 15, help her grow ooo and be a good councilor.

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Typewriter what are you talking about?

1) She's 15.

2) The boy has a criminal past.

3) They had a simple phone argument and he's already issuing threats.

It's not the duty of inexperienced 15 year old girls to reform dangerous gangsters. That sort of job is for his parents (family), trained psychotherapists at juvenile counseling centers, and the police to handle.

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I WONDER WHY SOME PEEPS ADVICE HER TO REPORT THE GUY, YOU WOULD DO NOTHING BUT CAUSE MORE TROUBLE FOR HER. AND AS FOR THE GIRL AINT SHE SUPPOSED TO BE IN SCHOOL AT 15. I DONT MEAN TO BE HARSH ANYWAY.

If you have got your heads on your neck then run and avoid his calls or else, you never can tell even though i am not so sure of what kinda crime lead the guy to jail but atleast i no say the return of a prisoner no dey good attimes ooo. just run and leave your dreams without him, after all its just 2months or so and if you really want to be sex active, then you definately know who to consult! but cut the crap if its for love

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NL here u go again (just here from one mouth and condemn in totality) sounds unfair to me

it's typical of ladies to run when their man look bad but turn around to love even worst ones.

women should learn how to repair dameged men so that life will worth living not only looking for a smoth eay going guys all the time becous this set of men are in short supply, why not make a bad one look good. if sonmething made him bad then another thing can make him good and that s you women.

well Lucy if u still want Ur man go for him, just be careful and know when u can take it no more.

but wait, what do you think can be done to make him look/behave more civilly to u

don't you think that you need to under study him and know how to handle him, he may be a bad man outside cos of his perception of the society and with your help he may start thing right and behave, if man can domesticate wide lives them a man may be easier with a good method,

one thing is sure if keep runing from your man when will u stop and what make u so sure u will get a better man to love? just look for a way and try. quit only when your best is done!

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Girl leave that nigga alone. And report him to 911 if he keeps bugging u. btw, he's 20 and u r 15. that's illegal.

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which messenger i only hav msn mine is luc966@hotmail.com

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You're welcome!

and i know you have every right to do as you pls but u're only 15. maybe you should keep sex till marriage if u can. believe you me it's worth it. i wish i had too.

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jus like 2 say thanks 2 everyone helped me out in dis forum!

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typical nigerian guy, stubborn and strong willed. especially the gang types. Now u just hit the nail on the head "low self esteem". that was the main issue. work on that. u don't deserve to be trampled upon and threatened by every guy u date.

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oh so every girl from nigeria would hav reacted da same yerr? well it depends how u r as a person hun coz i doubt every girl from nigeria is da same. im a sensitive girl with low self esteem & i admit it im da type 2 run back 2 it all i was jus askin advice. so coz im english ur sayin basically dat english girls hav physical violence. u cnt dress dis boy down no matter even if ur rite u cnt argue wit him hes hard.

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Break away from da relationship before it's too late.

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Rhodalyn come on share the knowledge

Okay for 20 bucks?

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pls sorry to ask but are you white?

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hey rhodalyn

quick question how do you upload animation? i have this animation of scarface shooting guns, and i want to upload it unto my profile but I cant figure out a way. holla at me

Hey luc966 . [b]If he says he would smash your face he means it. [/b]I understand that girls like bad guys, it seems you hit the lottery on this one, now run!!!

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plus after like 2 months of knowing him ive just found out hes been in prison and only recently has he threatened me!

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im answering peoples questions,

well i told him before anything happened so he can never get in trouble,

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i agree with you david

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Run away from this guy, and please, at 15, you should be facing your studies, instead of getting involved in love affairs.

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At 15, it's possible to meet someone who touches your life in so many inexplicable ways. You have to let him slip away. You love the time you once spent with him. You don't love him. You will have loads of better memories in the near future with ur dream man.

This guy fits the profile of a natural born bully.

Let him slip away. Stop swelling up his ego by sticking to him.

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at 15, u still have yrs ahead of you to meet other responsible guys to have fun with. You are too young to get urself mixed up with criminals such as ur "bf". thank God he does not know ur place neither do you know his.

Stop the phone conversations and stop communicating with him.

Obviously u are infatuated (not in love), u eyes will clear very soon but don't let it be too late. Act Now!

Leave that fella alone! He will smash your face? Yeah if u keep seeing him!

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