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Help! After Our Breakup He Is Now Telling Everyone He Disvirgined Mi.why?

HI house,please help me,I'm 17 yrs,earlier this year I had this 19year old boyfriend.We dated for 6 months and within this period we had sex 5times including the time he disvirgined mi.When we brokeup he started telling my younger brother and his friends that he disvirgined mi and whenever he tells them they just runover to tell mi.(dz boys r 12,13,14yrs O).What led to our breakup was that he started feeling toooooo big for me and made everthing seem like his ex was bettr than mi sef.I could'nt bear it anymore so I quit.He was comparing mi to a gal of 15 chei, It hurt mi so bad that when I was telling him I could'nt continue with the relationship cause of all he has been doing,all he said was"kai I'm very happy shei U know U r not making mi unhappy all U r doin is hurtin the ppl around us" I felt very bad I jst told him "that personality you are using to form effigy I'll crash it".After 1 week every1 including my brother and his friends and my own friends started telling mi he has been spoiling my name.When I saw him on the 8th of this month I just told him so U are now the fucker of the year and the disvirginer shei,he jst got angry said that he thought I had changed and he is highly disappointed.Whenever I see him my heart races I dont know if it is fear or, Please U guys should help mi wat do I do now.He is now dating his EX that he was comparing mi to and she has been disturbing my frnds for my number.I wonder y!Please what do I do he is still telling every1 he had sex with mi even in church.WHAT DO I DO?

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tell him he wasn't the 1st no matter what he saw. hit below the belt and tell him his idck is small and u were never satisfied. if all that doesnt work, i hate to say this but get close to one of his friends, make sure u dnt sleep with him but keep him guessing, good luck

Pls wait till ur a lil older b4 u continue with intimacy.

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You made a mistake by giving your virginity away to a mere boy.

This should be a lesson to other teenage girls.

DO NOT GIVE AWAY YOUR VIRGINITY TO BOYS!

IN FACT TEENS SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM SEX UNTIL YOU ARE MATURE MENTALLY TO FACE THE TRIALS OF RELATIONSHIPS.

SEX IS NOT FOR BOYS AND GIRLS.

Say "NO SEX. NO VEX" and MEAN IT AND NOT SPREADING YOUR LEGS AT THE PERSUASION OF SCHOOL BOYS WHO CANNOT EVEN FEED THEMSELVES.

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my dear sorry,  is age that is disturbing you people , for ur advise try and keep ur mouth short no matter anything that you hear or they said, with  time they will al get tired .

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You heard a relationship with a silly fellow, it's only a silly fellow that acts that way!!!

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that should not bordered u,he is still a kid that has no brain just let him go ur future is there for u to think off, not a very small boy case ok cal for more advice.08038379715

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He's silly, jealous and self centred, ignore him

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@Poster. At 17, what else should you expect from a relationship if not disaster. At that age, going into a relationship would only ruin your future. You should focus more on your education and things that have positive benefits in your life, not relationships.

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poster,

Im so sorry to hear this. . .

well, if I were in your shoes, I will tell him off to stop being an Amebo and being a CNN news to everyone else or else I would tell bad things about him to his family, Just ask him how does he feel if you were to do the same thing to him?

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you go around and tell everyone that "HE IS A TWO TIME,BLOODY,PATHETIC SCUMBAG"

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I laff at those misyarning. Wey my waffi boyz at? I had my sexual initiation at age 7 - so fvck y'all going on hard on this girl. Yeah she shudnt have done it but it has happened. do y'all think it is easy for her to post such!!

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@poster

I am really interested in this your matter but what could possibly make you be thinking of sex at the tender age of 17,well i would really want to be a friend to you and mke you understand certain things,no ulterior motive,i think you need a brotherly friend to give you good senses and advise which i am willing.God so kind we are both in lagos

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don't let the past and what he is doing govern your present

1 think about what to do to improve your self and make a wonderful person out of your self, concentrate on your studies,career plan and leave out any intimate relationship with the opposite sex.

2 associate with forward thinking people with ability to motivate you to make a success out of your life, grow up gradually physically ,socially and emotionaly

3.SEEK to know God, he made you so he definitly has a plan for you, seek him and find out what plan he has for the future.

simply ignore your ex guy and move on like he does not exist,

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Tell him I know a Chase bank on Michigan and Wabash that wuld pay him $100,000 if he brings evidence.

Pay him no mind he is just a bloddy Loser!!!!!!

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@ post

don't let the past and what he is doing govern your present

1 think about what to do to improve your self and make a wonderful person out of your self, concentrate on your studies,career plan and leave out any intimate relationship with the opposite sex.

2 associate with forward thinking people with ability to motivate you to make a success out of your life, grow up gradually physically ,socially and emotionaly

3.SEEK to know God, he made you so he definitly has a plan for you, seek him and find out what plan he has for the future.

simply ignore your ex guy and move on like he does not exist,

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My dear.I just want to tell u that God love's u.We all make mistake's.U should know Sex befor marriage is rong.I want to belive u are a cristen and at 17 u should know what the bible say about premarrital sex.U hav a wonderfull life arhead of u.U will hav all the time to hav sex.Am not telling u not to get into other relationship's but u can make it God aproved. I am praying 4 u.In case u ever need help. Call 08065696511.

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My dear.I just want to tell u that God love's u.We all make mistake's.U should know Sex befor marriage is rong.I want to belive u are a cristen and at 17 u should know what the bible say about premarrital sex.U hav a wonderfull life arhead of u.U will hav all the time to hav sex.Am not telling u not to get into other relationship's but u can make it God aproved. I am praying 4 u.In case u ever need help. Call 08065696511.

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spare us d details abeg,just tell us u want to get the girls contact

poster please don't send any childish mail to him

thanks

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NO NEED FOR THE BEEFING, JUST IGNORE HIM AND IF ANYBODY ASK U BOUT IT TELL THE PERSON DAT HE IS JUST A WANNABE,

AND IF U DONT MIND MAYBE U CAN DROP HIS NUMBER FOR ME ON

chatwithpaul91@yahoo.com

with a lil personal info. bout him,im gonna make him stop dat bullshit and u wouldnt even cross his tot even in his nitemare

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@post

such is life.

nna wa o, SOME naija men and their. . . . anywaz, life must go on.

when you decided to have sex at 17, with a 19 yr old boy, you knew what you were doing.

you enjoyed the good times, now the bad times are rolling in, roll along with it.

Visit the hospital and you'll understand why I think ur problem is not that much of a big deal.

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i say tell everyone he has a small di*ck n couldn't satisfy you in bed thats why you dumped him, lol that should shatter his ego.

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What has happened has. He's only 19 and he doesn't know any better.

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jst cos ur mum ws run down by 600 dikcs by the time she ws 30 dsnt mean it happens to evry1.

yeah. i know abt that.i was one of them.

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What I was saying was a lot of those dudes im sure have been making use of their koboko's since Gawd knows what age.

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You need to fight fire with fire because he wont stop

Tell everyone that he was a virgin too and also let people know that he has a really small D@#K that would hurt him more. how can a guy of 19 be dating a 17 and 15 year old if he isn't ashamed of something.

Tell everyone that yes he disvirgined you but the 5 times you had sex with him totaled 5 minutes. if i were your big brother i would kick his Bottom for you but hold your head up you are not the first and you wont be the last to go through this.

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I wish you had good mentors who would have schooled you properly. You wouldn't have fallen for that silly line. They would have told you boys at that age talk from their butts. My dear, move on.

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Chai! That's very bad oh! No mind am abeg! No so boys dey always behave!!!!

And just in case u see am, make u no fear at all, after all him no be God! Just try to get a new guy and move on with your life, abeg oh!

P.S.: Excuse ma' language, i just wanna sound original!

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eem hope he installed potent antivirus. Na my own be that ooo

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I know thats right, I told my little girl she is allowed to have sex 3 years after she is married.

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you should be as proud as he is to be the first to fok you, because by the time you are 34, you would have had over 506 of him pass through.

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@ poster eya, Its so glaring he is just immatured.

@ shegirl u fyne oh!

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and that was best way to prove your love? I wonder where the love went now.

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na wa o. You fell into the hands of a 9yr old. That shld teach u a lesson, zip up!!!

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just take your time.do not rush into another relationship.pretend as if nothing has happened.ok take heart.i fil for you

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Please dont fall for this lame line ever again.

who even says that anymore sef? Dude's a total slowpoke. Just avoid him

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I started dating him cause when he was asking me out I felt somewhat pity about the way he used to talk & he was always telling me he had nobody to lean on and all that.What really made me to have sex with him was cause he was saying I should prove my love and according to him he was disvirgined by me too.My parents don't want mi to have male frnds and da uncles I have are'nt friendly to even advice mi and they always say my cousins are my boyfriends.You guys are the only ones I've got to advice me,please keep it coming.God bless you all.

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Just ignore him.

U made a mistake, big deal. Who doesn't? However, U would be a bigger fool if U dont learn from it. Next time be careful about the kind of company U keep. U can always tell if someone is a slowpoke. Comparing U with his ex shoulda raise some red flags for U But U are young and U now no better, but now U know.

About peddling rumours about the size of his manliness, scratch that. That wont help U at all. It would only confirm his story and will not do ur reputation any good. Besides, who r u going to tell the story about his manliness size? Ur friends or his friends? Either way, U were still screwed (sorry).

Finally, going down to the morals of it, U really have no biziness having sex right now. U still have lot of living to do. Plenty of books to read, degrees to bag and also for the heck of it, male friends to hang out with. Do not commit urself to one person by having sex with him, have friends and learn more. Good luck.

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this is a PLIGHT

@poster

both of u are just teenagers. what do expect? a mature relationship? i am very sure ur relationshipwith him was based on peer pressure.

anyway the only way out is to MOVE ON with ur life and rely on GOD cos he won't dissapoint u just as this teenager has.

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You can like everyone here has said go one of two ways with it.

His manliness was small and he was horrible with no rhythm and could not find the hole.

Or ignore it.

Me personally I would ignore it. When they come to you to tell you let them know you have no interest in anything he has said. You are no longer together and dont wish to hear his name. But i know this is going to be impossible with at 12. 13 and 14 year old. So let them say what they will say and just say thank you and keep moving. I know you will want to say something back, you will want to defend your honor, but you cant you have to just let it go. The only way to deal with craziness and immaturity is to ignore it.

They will stop when they see you wont respond. Trust me it works all the time.

If you need to rant and rave and let it out do so with your diary or come here and let us just hear your rant. But dont let anyone outside of yourself know that what they are saying is bothering you.

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Tell everyone he was poo under the duvet (d sex was nothing to write home about and u didn't even know it happened)

Move on with your life and stuffs like this does actually make peeps stronger

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You my dear, dated an immature slowpoke.

I'm sorry.

Most you can do is shuift the damage on him and say he's small in the pants/ he suffered from premature expulsion anyway or something equally hurtful or just ignore his existance

*shrugs*

whatever you youngies do against each other nowadays

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at 17 and 19, u shld know berra than having sex. it just goes to show that all our campaign on abstaining and refraining from teenage sex isnt working. can u imagine, if i probe further i will find out that you guys even had it unprotected, that again makes a joke on our fight against AIDS and teenage pregnancy.

u just opened the door for other guys to ride thru, and no one is gonna belive you had just one guy, next guy u tell he is just the 2nd is not gonna believe u, cos guys are tired of been no. 2, they are always the next after you were probably Molested, or drugged or etc.

you shldnt have gone into sex in the first place, u too young. well since the deeds been done, just forget it, and ignore that fool, he is just sooooo not matured (i wonder what he told u, that even got u tripping, cos a kid like that, got no game) keep your head high and move on, and forget about relationships for now, till you are sure about your feelings.

goodluck!!!

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chamo its not about legal age,its about doing what is right,what if she took in?cos she sounds so in experienced,wat will u tel her to do?

God help me if  i hear dat my little cousin has started having sex,shes not going for circumcision,but permanent locking up of dat place

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He is an immature low life brat.

there is little or nuthing u can do at this point. . . .keep your head high and act like he never existing. He will soon run out people to tell. Keep living your life and just be you.

Ignore him!!

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@Poster

Why must you give in to sex at such a tender age?

And to think that you had it with a toddler makes it even more worrisome!!!

But there is a way out - Just ignore the guy and pretend like nothing ever happened

Before long,He's claims will fade away.

And you will get your life back on track.

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Tell everyone you disvirgined him too,Shikena!

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Mistake 1: You shouldn't be found dating someone at your age. You just needed guys as friends at least to study them and know what they are like. of you had done this, you would have realised that you were about to date a toddler.

Mistake 2: Whats the fascination that within a short while dating, you gave him access to your most priced asset. mba nu!! Now he is using it against you. If you had adhered to the first rule, you would have know when sex comes in in a relationship.

Mistake 3: You weren't emotionally mature to handle a break up hence not ready for a relationship.

Remedy: First of all, face your studies and limit your presence in your area. Avoid him, his friends, if possible take a little break fromt that environment. Whenever anyone tries to ask you anything about that issue, pls don't try to argue or justify, ignore the question and wave it aside.

This guy, mark my words, will come back to you. If not now later on. Unless there is a full separation before u guys reach adulthood. Pls ACCEPT his apology be friends with him, BUT keep him at arms lenght. HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR FRIENDSHIP. If he can go around castigating you as such.

Generally what baffles me s why people look at it as if its the guy that is permitted to have sex. He should be ashamed of himself.

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am sori sweeth@t you had fun with a toddler. Next time shine ur eye.

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poor you. he is childish. move on and forget about him.

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I am short of words becos wat actually happened btween the both of u shudnt have happen thats one and 2 it shudnt have left the confides of the both of u but the truth of the mata girl is that dont take it from him he is just a kid why not move on with ur life and insist on letting him weigh u down now u know were u made a mistake the best thing now for u is not to make the same mistake again u sound like a good be one ok

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u knw what u shld do? just ignore him. hsit happens. what if you talk to him and u he doesnt stop? what will u do? just brace up urself and take it as one of those things pple pass thru in life. very soon, pple will get tired of him telling them and some will even tell him, what is the big deal in it

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