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where do i start from? well i hav this friend known her for some years now. i hav noticed that anytime she finds love in a guy she wouldnt want me to meet the guy and even if we eventually meet she wouldnt want me to talk to d guy.

it happened for a doctor guy she started dating even though d doctor guy had a girlfriend then she still went ahead to date the guy and d guy told her who he is dating and she said she doesnt mind i couldnt tell her not to go ahead cos she would take it the other way.

on two occasions she has accused me of being jealous of her. there was one disagreement we had for months. she called me all sort of names dat i didnt want her to get married and all sorts it took d intervention of some respectable people to settle wat happened becos it was really serious at the end of the day the guy didnt marry her cos she was really desperate to get married and u can imagine this my friend i am older than her yet am not desperate she is much more prettier than me yet she is insecured i hav asked her several times why she feels that way but no reply. and this guy i introduced her to him . it was thru me she got d job she is in now

well we settled that and d guy left her cos d guy was a liar and she got to see the guy in his true light. now she has found someone else now i am her enemy again infact its quite pathetic

what should i do

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shes insecure try n help her bost her self confident and self esteem

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thanks everyone i really appreciate your advice and contributions

@cute-Bottom thanks

becos of this issue i very careful in picking and choosing friends infact right now i dont hav a close friend dat is a female i just gave myself a break to say d least i dont think i hav gained anyting from her friendship at all. funny enough we both work at d same place we attend d same church we r in d same unit in d church so u can now imagine people think we r sisters and when d incident dat happened happened people were asking me come oh is it true u wanted to snatch yr friend's boyfriend? i was really pissed off

but now i know wat to do and i am doing dat already i hav fashed her big time, i hav this time around

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na wa oh na so life be. anyway work is fine

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SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND.

PERIOD.

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hmmmmmmmmm?

Sometimes u just gotta let go. And possibly let them know u r different and special.

Let d end justifies d means aiight.

lest i foget, how work?

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you have to be careful aboput such a friend. she doesnt trust herself so she can not trust any friend.

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the thing is dat we dont even talk again d last time we did she insulted me she called me names dat i was sick dat someting was burning or eating me up she even called me a mad person

so right now we dont talk and do u know d funniest part she has told d boyfriend unprintable things about me even d guy whom i knew before stopped talking to me too

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i think you are really bothered about this girl. What are you afraid of? forget her thats all everyone will tell you. If you can't you will definately get hurt again. Your frienddhip with her was a bad one. Good rediance to bad rubbish. You will make new and better friends ok.

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I would refer you to the Thread: WHY DUMP YOUR FRIENDS FOR A LOVER. Go read through your problem is similar ok. Give her, her much deservered space. Its her loss! It hurts but what can you do?

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