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WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN THE PROBLEM

Ladies in the house please this goes to you.

I was sitting in front of my office (which happens to be facing the main street) a couple of days back playing with my phone when suddenly there was this girl (a very pretty girl) passing by. When our eyes met she smiled at me and that i believe (or thought?) was an invitation for me to make a move which i did. Now the issue is when i said "hello, excuse me please" and did not make any move to stand (eventhough she was coming towards where i was sitting) then suddenly her expression changed. Although i did not actually get what she was saying (murmuring) but the expression on her face told me this: "who are you to expect me to come and meet you there?" and that i realised after the episode.

Eventhough i regret a lot for not getting up that moment, going after her, grabbing her hands (if she refuses to listen to me) to find out what actually went wrong, i have decided to be vigilant in case she appears again so that i can find out straight from her. But before then i would like to hear your views.

I have never walked up or stopped a girl on the road, spinned, yarn (or whateva you may call it) the girlfriends i had in the past and the present are as a result of some other meetings and circumstances other than the ones i mentioned earlier. I was not looking bad that day and i am not too ugly ref to my profile, lol to deserve that treat. And that brings me back to the above captioned. Ladies did i "DISRESPECT" her in anyway or is she expecting something else more than the normal "hello" or "hi" before starting the normal conversation?

thanks.

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@poster, ok so you were IN FRONT of your office/desk but the principal and the point are still applicable. You should have approached her. If you are going to try and hit on someone then you should literally move in that direction. Standing there and expecting to be approached gives off the impression that you feel that the chick is beneath you and not worth your effort of even stepping forward to say hi.

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She probably smiled just to be polite, not that she really fancied a nerd looking guy like you.

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no fighting guys

@ poster

next time,u should know how 2 give us the respect we deserve

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You guys don't get it! this guys was not at his desk.the guy was outside his office,i wonder if some of u can't read!The babe was not smiling at this guy ,the girl was amused by her thoughts,and the guy thought otherwise.that's why the lady was kind of ,frowning(she was not smiling at him)read the story again and see where he made a mistake!!!!!!!!!.haba!

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@ Adax & Iceland

There is orientation goin' on in this section for new users members most especially those of January 2008 (New Members))

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@poster

Stuff like a good looking girl to experience true love with, usually start in circumstances that won't require much effort.You just have to wait.

chairman, forget her.

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@poster

Next time when u see a lady is on the way before passing by, you, YOURSELF, make a move walking out of your office desk to create your first impression to her, just saying,"hello, may I be serve you about my service business?" or "hello, i'm so sorry that i cannot help your smiling is so irresible to me past few days ago. May I introduce myself to you?"

Something like that!!! Good luck!!!

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for courtesy sake,u just had 2 stand up. dat ws d first time and ladies love feeling special about themselves (well, who doesn't?) but u needed 2 create a good first impression? try 2 stand up next time, it shows how much u respect her

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Listen you got it all wrong okay, since you wanted to make a move you should have stood up at least even if is a two step move. thats disrespecting my dear. if you see a lady on the way, maybe you are driving and you stop for her, you are meant to come down from your car to meet her even if she is standing on your window side, there is no two way to it, you did not show you value her, cos if is me, i wont come, i will just pick up my legs and continue my waka

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@ uspry1 & kattrina

you guys dont get it, i was not behind my desk but outside and she was not coming to my office she was just passing by. anyway thanks for your comments.

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When someone approaches your desk at work most ppl stand to show interest and that the person who is coming to talk to you has your attention. I mean especially if u were trying to make a move then getting up would have shown u thought she was worth your attention. I mean personally I want the guy to make the move cuz to me that says that ya he is interested and the fact that he took a chance to make a move is commendable (most of the time).

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I think you probably have poor office mannerism/greeting when it comes to person approach you at your desk while you talk on the phone without notice the person at present waiting for you.

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