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Her Fiance Is Gay. Should I Do Amebo?

There is this chick I know. We are not really close, just on a hi-hi level. She is getting married next month and I even collected her aso-ebi in church yesterday. The problem is that the guy in question she is getting married to is gay.

There's a gay club in my hood which the guy frequents a lot. I didn't want to base my conclusions on that, but the guys in my neighbourhood confirmed that the guy is actually gay. My question is should I throw hints to this girl or just ignore since its not like we are actually friends.

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Much better to spill the beans now than to tell after the wedding.

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How do you know that she herself is not a lesbian? mind your business or else they will break your sticky nose.

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Wahala, you dey find, wahala you go get e oooooo

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WHY ALL THESE GIRLS NEVER KEEP THEIR PERSONAL GOSSIP THREAD TO THEIR WRAPPER.

ISOKUSO.

OLE

GBOKOGBOKO

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@Godmother

How the eff,are u gonna defame someone off of hearsay,i mean if u were a dude,and the guy getting married tried to hit on you,it would be a different story

dont u know people just make poo up and start nasty rumors about other ppl just for fun?,

I say leave it,or else them two will be having make up sex very soon,while u would have just lost a friend

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Pls may I ask this poster are u sure naija have a gay bar? I still dont belief this yet. I think such bar need to be level to the ground if it exist at all.

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Pls let the girl know what is coming to her. Drop an anonymous note to her or her brother or sister hinting at the fact and let's see how they will react. It is not your biz but do it in the name of universal sisterhood binding all women. This bond stipulates you must not allow anything that you know will make a fellow sister to be crying daily in her bedroom.

She can always confront the guy and tthrash out the matter. If it is a lie, she will know unless she is totally undiscerning.

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Can a gay guy get married? maybe the guy is bisexual.

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I believe she must have made her research before concluding going into marriage.

I thought these gays don't like playing with women, so how come they get to know each other too well before venturing into marriage.

She must have known.

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Abi o, me sef tire now, the way we dont like ourselves at all , it scares me

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The wimp should be stoned

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Dont do. She knows already. Besides wetin concern you?

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This brings to mind the classic novel by JUDE DIBIA "WALKING WITH SHADOWS"

Marriage is suppose to be between Adam and Eve and not Adam , Eve and hidden Steve somewhere. It will be suicidal if the guy is gay or even bisexual and the lady is not aware of it.

If this is the case, (whether you spill the beans or not) their union can not be lawful and water will finds its level thereafter. The choice you have is whether you want to play another UZZAH[/i] who want to help God or stand by and [i]watch and pray.

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@poster,

find a way to tell her, but she must not know its you oh! im surprised at the response of most of the girls here not to tell if it was them wont they want to know that kind of thing if it exists with dem partner, na wa o!

watch your back people, haba

find a way to let her know oh fast fast sef!, lol

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I would definitely tell her cos i wouldn't want i being on my conscience but i would make it anonymous so that i doesn't backfire and let her catch him red handed in the club.

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going to a gay club doesnt mean the guy is gay, he prolly got some other biz doing there. and the fact that guys in ur neighbourhood agrees with ur thought, does not make it correct. i have learnt to do my own findings like know someone on a one on one basis than follo what people say about them, cos in most cases they are always wrong.

besides if he is gay, why wil he wanna get married.

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Godmother,let it be. His true self will be exposed one of these days. Its only so long he can hide.

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if he was not gay but something worse wat will u guys say.like a serial killer or a Molester.if the lady in question was your sister or daughter will you advise her to go on?fine his gay or bi and alot has gone into the wedding.it's even coming up next month so don't spoil the fun but do you know the trauma that woman will go tru if she finds out later,lets say after having 2kids or more.

Godmother i will suggest you tell her but not face to face else u are finished becos even if is with good intention you will be label a home breaker. since you want to help,get a new sim that no one knows,call her and let her know,you can even give her a tip when she can see him too.if she is aware of this before she will only insult you then you can just break the sim and rest but if she doesn't believe me she will be grateful to you.is only if she has been looking for husband for a very long time and is about to hit 45 that is when she will still continue with the marriage.Save her the trouble of coming home and seeing the husband and the house boy or worse her brother on the same bed.and pls o before u do this too find out personally if his gay b4 u go spoil person life becos i still find it hard to believe that there is a gay bar in Lagos.

if he really love her he should have told her about this or better still stop his gay activities and turn a new leaf after all people pay scarifies for love don't they anymore?

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That's why I said to do it anonymously. I mean, get someone to call her or send it in a text with a strange number.

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I hope you'll say the same thing if the lady was your sister.

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Who talk say the aso-ebi don waste?! Bring am come, i go help you resell am for Onitsha main market with change on top sef!!

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You sure got my mesg.

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Are you gay? My friend get off my back.

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It's not lack of anything my dear. She only has to do it anonymously, simple.

Why d'u wanna let a woman end up with a gay? That's nasty. I'm not sure any woman in her right senses will wanna marry a gay. And please this ain't about being "open minded".

Tell her I say. It's then left for her to do her homework or simply jab the clue.

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all this busy-bodies sef, sey na lack of bf/husband dey make them waka up and down looking 4 whom to devour?

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is better just to leave things the way they are, or aint u happy spendn that much on Aso ebi? u better watch the movie

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@Godmother

do a poll let the winners decide what you should do

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TELL HER. BUT speak with wisdom---this is quite hard to do.

Like set the guy up with a male gay and let him use the cellphone to record the experience whether its merely a sexually explicit chat or a video recording-----if you tell her with no proof you would failed.

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ak47 u kno god dat a bit harsh aint it!!!

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@POSTER

AMEBOS, SHUT YA MOUTH BEFORE SOMEONE START PURSUING YOU WITH AK47.

SOMETIMES I WONDER WHY MOST OF THE GIRLS HERE ALWAYS HAVE THE SAME PERSPECTIVE TO AN ISSUE.

IS IT GIRLS THING

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looooooooooooool ha ha ha ha ha ha shame wot kind ov guy is dat newaz prick!!!

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Get a picture of him first, then you tell the wife. If she needs evidence you show her the pic.

SPILL THE BEANS!! He is fhucking shyt hole and dipping that dyick in her toto, . abeg TELL HER, so she is aware of the risks.

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tough one but you need to be 100% sure.

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May b d guy is bi-sex and he went went to d club to hook wif a hot guy e can trust to have 3some wif his fiancee at home (i.e his wife knows). For some reason e no fit carry on with the marriage he's gay

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So, is being gay now well accepted in Nigeria to even have a gay club?

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This is really scary o. I think she needs to know but anonymously since you do not know her like that. Can you imagine this woman marrying a gay man and having children then have to leave the man for his boyfriend and she is even Nigerian. That is enough to kill someone. Don't make it a subject of gossip. Don't mention it to anyone but I think you should get the message to her. It could be that he works at the gay club as a stripper but that poor woman needs to know before they are married. If they were already married then it would be a different story. She has not made the mistake yet

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tell her now and she would think you are jealous because she is getting married and you are not. berra mind your biz and shut your mouth. let her do the discoveries herself

and by the way why are you trying to tell her this in the last minute? its almost next month and trying to spoil her "dream" for her with your rainy day secret? its too late to tell, even if the dude is gay, i dont think she can handle the such news at this stage in the wedding process

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If what has been said about the Fiance is true and I suspected this was the case, I would not be attending this wedding. Don't want that on my conscience.

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Wow!!

Gay clubs in Naija??, What is the world coming to?

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@Godmother sweetie, if being a guy is bad insomuch that could stop people from being husband and wife, please do discuss it with your minister of God, let him do the work, else, no one holy pass.

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7500 for aso ebi? For a girl i only have a hi-hi relationship with? And there's on refund? Nah! I'm not gonna play myself like that. . . Not even. Sooner rather than later, some bride to be will be getting an anonymous phone call about their husband to be's down low lifestyle. 7k is not a joke.

Wait a sec. . .They have gay bars in Naija now? Lmao! All sorts of orishirishi.

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what God has join together let no chic put asunder,u hear?.

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@Sisi-kill

The aso-ebi is 7500 for six yards

Ok o, I have heard you all and I'll mind my business and not say a word, even if it kills me

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How much is the aso ebi. . . This is what will determine if i'll tell or not coz there's no way in hell i'm gonna spend alot of money on cloth for a wedding i'm 90% sure won't take place and even if it takes place, the marriage won't last. Shooooo!

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mind yah business!!!! finish :-x

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Godmother

Just keep it to yourself after all u aint close to the girl in question here~

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u wan start fight now abi?

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Godmother don't mind your own business tell the lady that he's gay or she's not going to have a happy life

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Just let him be. You don't even know if he's trying to turn a new leave. thats if he's really gay.

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