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How Can I Make My Wife Happy Again?

My wife used to be a very cheerful and loving woman, but lately I discovered she is not really happy inside though she may put up a smiling face but deep inside her I can see sign of sadness which I know has been brought about by some recent sad events like lost of a close relative, pressure at work and others. But I feel as a husband, it is my responsibility to bring back the sunshine into her life. So please I need to know some of the simply little ways I could make her happy again. I need your suggestions please.

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My dear Lord give me a husband sweety than this husband poster in Jesus name

Do to her something sweet and new that will take off her worries.

God bless you poster man.

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my friend read psalm 91 with her, so everything bad or evil or sick departs from you guys and your family, tell her you are a proud husband, give her hugs and kiss to her, take her out of town for an intire day, and love her, love her as the Lord asked you to do, she is not departed from you, she just needs time to digest what lately happened to her,

bless you

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TAKE TIME TO ASK ABOUT HER THE BURDENS SO THAT YOU CAN KNOW WHAT, WHERE & WHEN EXACTLY SOMETHING IS WRONG

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Do all the good things suggested on this thread if u r sure u hv not offended her.

Maybe u cheated on her/ put ur family ahead of her(inlaws), or smtin she is holding against u. Have u made a decision that pleased only urself witout thinking of her or what she feels about it?

Think about these n if nothing as such, talk with her; take her to a place away from home where d only person she has to face is u, no house chores to cover up with. Everything would be settled.

May GOD's peace envelop ur wife n family.

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Being possessive (Too Hot) is not considered caring. Woman need a man who can give them enough care and concern but not to the extend of controlling everything in her life. This problem has also been one of the factors to divorce. However, not showing enough interest (Too Cold) in what your wife is doing can also disfavor the marriage as you are not giving them enough attention. This is one of the common reason that wife fall in love with another man as they feel lonely and needy.

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I think a little vacation (maybe a weekend) outskirt the city for the two of you only will help relieve her stress. Allow her to pour her mind and if she want to wail or cry (most especially because of the loss of the loved one) let her. It is your responsibility to put smile on her face again.

Best of luck.

U dey call another woman's husband dear, na so una dey start,

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when she comes home have dinner waiting for her, then give her a bath. after that massage her feet while u ask her how her day went. plus flowers and presents might help to

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Create atmosphere for heart felt communication. Be sensitive and encourage her to open up. Motivate her and give her reasons to cheer up. Take her out and lure her into having good sex with you.

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Celebrate her.

Take her away to take some break from it all.

Make her feel like a woman and you will get your wife back

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its natural, Jst take your time.

she will definitely go back to the statuo quo.

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I really appreciate U as a Man, not an ordinary man but a very responsible one. Well do as the whole house have advised most especially "gouye".I pray that what step U take works for U .Keep it up Dear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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for a woman who was happy in her marriage to suddenly become sad/depressed that is trouble.@poster let me ask you some few questions

(1)is the house finance ok not comparing with neighbor

(2) How long have you been married to your wife/when did the sadness  actually started, is it before the dead relative or after

(3) Do you guys have kid(s)

(4) Is any of your relatives leaving with you

(5)Is any of your wife relative(s) needing help and not being attended to

Women can be funny to get answer(s) for unimportant   things

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Take her for a weekend away from her normal environment. Take her somewhere romantic and quiet, dont let her do anything throughout, just spoil her and pamper her. Losing a loved one is hard but nothing makes u feel better than having someone that makes you feel your time on earth is worthwhile. You are a good husband. Thanks on behalf of many women

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Good one there.

@poster

Ask her to unburden her little thots to you no matter how inconsequential

she might regard it every day. Listen deeply to understand. Then act based

on what she told you. Demand from her what she wants/needs and then do

it. Soon you will get her to 'overcome' those lows she's presently passing tru.

I must say you are a good guy for noticing the change. I also hope you did

not cheat on her because that's one sure way to get a woman depressed

especially when she has been faithful and doing everything for the guy.

Wish you well.

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Waoh!

Take her out to where she can really laugh or dance

Pick the dress she will wear for such occasion or better still take her to a boutique to buy a new dress n you will be her mirror.

ALL she needs is a treat.

Before you know it she is back to herself

you can also crack some old jokes you've shared in the past

Best of luck Good n concerned Hubby

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You guys have said it all,applying one or two of those advice will definitely get her happiness back on track

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What's her zodiac sign? I got something for you for her.

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You are very wonderful,selfless and loving.

You have to pray for your wife sice you mentioned that she lost a loved one. It is natural to feel hurt so make know it is okay to mourn but at the same time help her move on gradually to living her life without the guilt that comes with losing a close relative/friend. ASK GOD TO HEAL EVERY WOUND AND COMFORT HER.

You could get her book about her situation ;losing someone,pressures at work,depression and mood swings as the case may be.

Listening to CECE WINAN'S song titled COMFORTER did me a lot of good.

At the moment she MAY not be fully interested in sex, let her know you love and care nevertheless. When I lost my friend,I was hurt badly. Thoughts of her kept coming to my mind even during intercourse with my husband ! A part of me felt guilty but over time I moved on. This may not be her case.

Talk and listen to her. Be her friend and even pamper. Play with her and bring out that 'little girl' found in every woman. Gifts (not necessarily expensive, you jnow what she likes), music and a little get away i.e a very good distraction. Do something different from the normal family routine. I hope this will jolt her back to her real self.

GOD BE WITH YOU. AMEN

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Tell her that you see, that something wrong, but dont push and ask why. She will see that you take care of her and polite her freedom. Don't try to be beter than you are. Just be with her without any sweet words an presents. Show her that you feel her.

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Why you dey ask,every wife has a pin code,type in hers and press enter,you know what I mean

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Talk less listen more.

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Spend more time with her, when coming from work, buy her something.

Take her out for dinner and let her eat her favourite meal and tell her that the meal is not sweet as the one she used to cook for you.

Play her favourite musics.

Does she like Tom and Jerry cartoon? If she does! Put it and both of you should watch it and laugh.

Always tell her funny things that'll make her laugh.

Women like touching, make sure you Always touch her even when she's cooking (by holding her either at the back or at the front and tell her this is delicious). Never stop kissing her. Always romance her.

Never stop telling her "YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL, I LOVE YOU"

with all these her mind will be back to you fully.

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I think na holiday abi na vacation, shopping make one woman no see her partner again.Una do come again-hideaway! Ujunwa, u remember dat lady for Europe ba? @ Poster:ask her what it is. You guys know how to do b4 now, so if u r gentle, gentility is expected, if u r a roughneck, let her be, she'll come around.

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Good man, good man.

Before you start spending money on holidays and expensive gifts, just let her know you are thinking about her. When you are in the office or away from her, send her romantic text messages. Call her a few times during the day, just to ask her how she is doing. . .or just to tell her that you love her and are thinking about her.

On your way home, buy one of those 'i love you cards' from a shop somewhere. Dont buy those cheap N50 cards. Buy something that she can keep or frame (some cards actually have those exotic looks).

Take her out to dinner. . . or lunch.

Take her to a movie or one of those shows they usually show in theatres

If you can cook (or even if you cant) tell her you want both of you to make dinner or lunch. It will help both of you communicate while you are busy doing the chore

Once in a while, when you are passing by her, pinch her bum, or give it a good mischievious squeeze as you pass by. Run your hands across her bosoms. . .

There are millions of things you can do to make her laugh and forget her troubles. Best of all, tell her to share her problems or fears or challenges with you. SIT AND LISTEN WITHOUT INTERRUPTING. Sometimes, women just want someone to listen to them talk.

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@OP; Take her out for shopping . . . let her get something new.

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It happens! It's only natural. Time will heal the pains.

But it's also not bad if you do some other romantic displays or so. .

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The best thing you have to do is talk with her. You have to choose a perfect time to talk with her. While that is important, you have to note that you should be confident when talking to her - you have to know what you want to talk about. You need to be very optimistic as well as real; trust me, it's always difficult to bring someone to see a brighter side to a gloomy issue, so you have to be optimistic and be real about it.

Also, be ready to listen to her extensively. . . . don't be offended if she says some things that may not be relevant enough to make her that sad but be considerate and feel her on every issue she mentions. Again, expect to press her to tell you all that's bothering her because from what I see here, she understands you're going through a lot and doesn't want to bother you with her sadness hence the 'smile' she puts on - in her opinion, that's a way to be understanding and somewhat supportive.

Appear to be able to bear all the stress you're going through, but be sure to let her know you can't carry on if you have to do it alone and she's not happy. Let her know how much it bothers and eats you up everyday knowing she's not happy; make her see how important she is to you, how happy you always want her to be; share memories of happy times with her and make her understand you want those times back. Make her laugh after you've had a very deep talk with her. Make sure there are no distractions when you talk, switch off phones if possible.

When all has been said and done, find time on a weekend and go on a little trip to complement everything. This should work.

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Somethings just need time such as the death of a loved one. Be a source of strength for her. Most women never think of themselves. Let her know that you are in full support of her taking time to relax. Let her know you are worried about her. When she comes back from her stressful day at work rub her feet. Take her away for the weekend. You do not have to spend too much. Even a hotel where you guys can just relax and turn off your phones. Assure her that with time she will feel better. It is funny but it is possible to feel lonely even when you have someone who worries about you. Show her that she does not have to stand alone that she can relax and lean on you. Good luck. I hope it all works out.

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And if all fails, make love to her like your life depended on it.

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A nice short break holiday or a meal at a nice restaurant or a couple of nights in a 4* or 5* hotel, it doesn't have to be really expensive, keep it simple and remember to listen and to support her.

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I hardly contribute to NL posters, I just read comments and see how verbal wars go on and just laugh. I can't help but commend the poster for going the extra mile to notice the feelings of his wife. That is the first step in making her happy - cognizability. Your ability to recognise when she's low in spirit. Secondly, increase your time of attentiveness as some have contributed. You might not need to ask her what the problem is, just give her some special treatment (according to your pocket); a dinner in an exclusive place on a friday night, on saturday take her to the beach for fresh cool breeze (u might need to rent a tent for privacy), pass the night in a hotel or guest house making sure she rests on your chest then see the magic - she would open up to tell you the problem(s). Be ready to receive the shocker incase she tells you that you are the problem. With enough sweet words (ladies love that alot) and apologies, even if you're not the problem, tell her how much you love her. Expect your best dish when you get home. Best of luck.

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Does she like music? If the answer is yes, pick some cool ones and play for her late at night and early in the morning. Nothing like that to make one cry with hope rather than with deep sorrow. With time she will learn to forget the sorrrow.

Like some folks already suggested, take her to a hideaway, just the two of you and have a time to remember, let her unburden her heart there.

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take her to the south of france or swiss alps,

just show her you are doing it for her,it will be a time for her to disconnect from the world.

she will come back renewed only for you.

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Hi shola,nice to meet you i'm alex and you think diamonds and all the stuff you mentuioned are things that will complement the happiness of a wife?let us try to be realistic and not materialistic.

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@Lovemoi2,

You open a thread and belittle NL guys saying that ninety-something percent are silly and here you're calling a guy .

I jus can't understand this lady.

Were you a tout in ur former life?

Geez!

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maybe hin sef na and hin dey find hin mate

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whats ur reason for calling me an ??

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Continue to love her and show her you do.

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Just give her some diamonds or buy her a new car or sth like that.

It should do the trick.

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Awwwwww! You are too sweet!

Talk to her but more importantly, listen to her. Help her grief, just show her you are there and will always be.

Good luck man!

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try to bring back d way u use to communicate. discuss anything with her. make her comfortable in ur presnc to talke about anything. maybe u will b urs again odawise, pass her to me for better care. lol

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Try to pay more attention to her, book a min-holiday away from ur city just for both of u where u can talk and share issues. Remind her again how much u love and care for her. These little things helps, good luck and u make her happy again.

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@anddrewz

I am so proud of you, wish we had more husbands like this.

Please do not be discouraged if you try any of these suggestions and she is still not too happy.

You may have to give her time, time heals, especially when there is a loss of a loved one.

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@poster,

What women need is attention. Take for instance, here in NL. Ladies here love to fight like die. One misuse of word and they pounce on you. They are not doing it because they're offended, they are doing it for us. Yours is better, she's not fighting you.

What ur wife needs is attention. Give it to her and she'll be yours again.

Trust me, i've been down that road before.

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try to pay more attention to her, sit down with her have a conversation about her day work and everything and also take her on holiday somewhere nice just to take her mind of things

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a family holiday (no phone or any other means of comm allowed)

dig?

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