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How Can I Tell her Without Hurting Her?

I can't think of any method to make her stop. Here is my story:-

My little sister being the last child of the family, was the favourite child of the family. She has this friend of her. They did everything together. Due to the love I have for my sister, I always make sure that she and her friend are always happy. The girl sometimes spent her night at with us.

After my sister's death, I taught everything will fade away but I was wrong. I don't know what the girl thinks anytime she looks into my eyes. I don't know because I'm confused. To make matter worse, sometimes she called me up to six to eight times a day. She comes over anytime that I have a free time( esp weekends).

I know she is smart; she talks matured. She even buy books and other gifts sometimess. On Sunday(s) she calls to ask the time I have to attend mass in order to sit beside me. I don't want to gamble my name with her behaviour.

Why do I want to avoid her? It is because she is only 15 though this has been happening for some years now. The truth is that within all this years, I have never think of any lustful thought. I just want to avoid her because some people are already talking. I hate it when people gossip with my name.I have tried to avoid talking with her for some days and the day I ran into her, she started crying. A friend once made a joke that I'm having some fun with the girl. It made me angry. I want to save my name but I don't want to hurt the little heart. She is my sister's favourite. How can I go about this?

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man if you love her marry her and dont listen to what people will say

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From what i get from your post, you think she is still hanging around you because she has a crush on you? or has she said or tried anything?

anyway i think you were like a big brother to her when your sis was alive and that is why she is trying ti fill that gap (no pun intented) now that your sis is gone. You should sit her down and let her know that you are getting vibes of more than a little sister from her and you wouldn't want to cross that bridge if that was the case because though you care about her but she is your little sister. Oh yea F@#k all the haters who are projecting what they want to do to her on you.

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One thing u need to know in life is whether u re good or not people will always gossip and talk. . . As for the girl there's no easy way out. I don't want to know ur age but she's a minor and no matter how smart and mature she is, she's not ready for a relationship. Sit her down lay the facts as gently as you can. U'll find out its easy once u are into it. Do not delay cos the more time you give the deeper she falls and the harder it gets to pull out. . . Good luck.

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Easy to grasp for u, not so easy for my brain when it tried to decipher ur husband's grammar; my head still hurts!!! Since youre not so sure my post is flawless, why dont u sit down, grab a gun, put it in ur mouth, wrap ur finger around the trigger, and. . . . . freakn ho!!!

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lmao!! nice one!!

erm poster, i think the girl just has a crush on you, she prolly misses her bestfriend and see's a bit of her in you, you say she's smart and mature, well, try and talk to her about it, make her realize the consequences of her actions, im sure she'll understand,

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The choice is yours. If you like the girl, then go for her but if you don't, give her some reasonable reasons and I'm quite sure she'd understand.

As regard what people say is not something to ponder about, besides 'na dem get their mouth'

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Emeritus professor, I'm not so sure Your post is flawless.

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why do you have to care about what people say?

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sit the young lady down and talk to her i dont know how you will find the right words to tell her thatyou can only be her big bros and nothing more the dear gal probably has a crush on you a lot of teenage gals go through this phase i am happy she is going through it right now with you cos it seems you are a kind and thoughtful person.You must be careful cos all teenage gals these days look like adults and act like one.just flee cos temptation is her

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Geez, ur english, pheeww. . . . . . !!! Anyhoo, we know the girls age, now, HOW OLD ARE YOU? From what I decipher tho. She either has a crush on u or is just being nice to u cus of ur sister's death! Either way I aint gonna pass judgement until I know how old u r!

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