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How Did Your Last Relationship End?

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how it happened?

where it happened?

who initiated the breakup?

how did you take it?

how did you get over it?, and many possible questions as they occur to you

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Just woke up one morning and asked myself the heck am doing with this chic and i made up my mind instantly to let her go.

Me: Baby i dont think this thing is working

She: I dont understand

Me: Oh I mean its really unfair on my part hurting you again and again

Me: I know its me, not you

She:So that's how u want to repay me, after all i did to make both of us happy?

Me: so sorry,

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Can you two stop derailing the thread?

Seriously.

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so u like men ehn. . . den den den i will tell mummy for u *if u neva did that u missed ur childhood*

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when she used to do it to me it was with biscuit she'd say i shld give her mine and if i dont after i'm done eating it she'd bring hers out and "say i was jst testing u". . . and if i gave her i still wouldnt get out of hers it was pure torture*i dont know why anyone would want to do that to a cute adorable 5 yr old it jst goes to show gels are evil . . . *

given the above i'm sure u understand my reasons . . .infact sef i'm trying to be a gentleman(sebi u ppl are always complaining abt naija men) ladies first!

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i see. . . so u want to scam me abi? show me yours first *my sis used to do that to me all the rime growing up*

in fact all the gels shld post theirs first. . . peeping thumbelinas

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its true now. . . scouts honour! *even tho i was never a boys scout!*

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ahhh lemme see *thinking* but for the begging, the arm wrapping, the kneeling, and the best thing u'da been closer (aka u lagoed it)

interesting tho i jst might try it next time. . . *when pigs fly*

here's how it happened- i crushed her to my "rock hard" chest and "ravaged" her lips for the last time before turning and walking out of the cave without a backward glance while she stared forlornly at my retreating frame. . .i really shld start writing romance wotchuthink?

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just for the fun of it. . . guess

if u come close i'll spill the beans . . . fair? (of crse its not fair. . . jst guess)

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@toyin

be understanding. . . ur mates are married with 3 children!

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thought it was 6 months with ADE\rebbie/alexbabe now it is one year haba 190,

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@ my last relationship

her, im so sorry

me, i loved u

me, i really did

me, why did u cheat on me

her, it was the devil

her, i dont know what made me go out

her, u gave me everytin, money,gud sex,a car,everytin, it was d devil

me, im happy u know and yet u stil went out 2 cheat on me

me, im tru wit dis relationship

me, we jst datin now and ure doin dis wot of when we get married

her, SOBS SOBS,

her, im so sorry

me, Bleep u,wud i eat soorry, go stay wit him, im tru

she begged 4 over a year,bt i refused, im still searchin till date 4 d rite one!

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"aloy" leave sisi alone before I tell her who you are, oniranu

okafor's law will always win. friends ko. ota ni

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Just called her, told her "look, i don't want to hurt u anymore, nor do i want to keep ur hopes up again, but i don't think i can go on like this. we've not seen each other for years now, we just have to let go. i'm sorry for carrying u along like this." she hemmed and hawwed for a few months(15-18ish), but i guess she has finally accepted. maybe because i left the country without telling her, maybe.

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You're such a nut. the whole friends poo doesnt work in my neck of the woods

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what happened?

1,she was way too spoilt and a daddy's girl for my liking,so it was always arguments

2.likes throwing insults which i dislike

3.cause of the nature of her job(just graduated as a medical doctor)she told me she ll need to specialise and all that in either the united states or united kingdom or carribean for at least 8/10 years which didnt fit in my plan to move back to naij 1 or 2 years after im done with uni.

4.way too much arguments,she riles me up and then i take time to down calm down,she ll say stuffs and then start apologising,

how it happened?

we had an argument where she said some stuffs that mega pissed me off,and i had to drop the phone on her, she didnt call me untill like 2 days later which made me start thinkn about the whole thing and if it was really worth the stress,and if i was ready to stay abroad for at least 7 years,and most importantly i thought to myself if we were having arguments before settling down where her mum had to reprimand her for being too spoilt and a daddy's girl,then it can only get worse after settling down.

where it happened?

i didnt know how to tell her at first,so i had to drop it on her on yahoo chat and then she called me n started apologising, but by then my mind was made up,i explained my reasons and why it wont work out in the long run,after askn my bro,her best friend,my bro 's girlfriend,her cousin to beg me and i explained wassup to them we parted amicably,

how d i take it?

took it hard but its go to be done,and took me time to get over it cause apart from  what i didnt like about her and she kept on doing ,she s beautiful,nice career,same social class,ambitious e.t.c

still getting over it,but its ok now,she calls me once in a while and i still advice her on stuffs,but i came away from the whole experience more determined not to settle for less and to be much mor careful before getting into any long term relationship,especially cause you will fell drained emotionally cause of the time,effort e.t.c invested

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I completely respect that! That's what I'm doing right now! I truly respect anybody who instead of inflicting pain on unsuspecting people (by entering into a rebound relationship) they're dealing with the pain themselves, and when they are over the person, do they then enter a relationship. That's what I'm doing, it's hard though because one guy who witnessed how my relationship went, is really upset that a guy would do that to me, and he is trying his best to make me see how he can make the pain go away and how he is the one for me. But whilst I genuinely love the attention, I need to have a free mind to decide whether I like him, there's no point going into yet another relationship, where it's based on how the guy makes me feel and not who the guy is. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but at the same time my excuse is starting to get lame, almost 3 months after the relationship and still saying 'I'm trying to get over my ex first', Good luck to you, to us!

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just drop the summary of: OK!

I couldn't go on anymore with the relationship.

We started dating for the wrong reasons so I never expected it to last more than a month. I am even surprised we made it to the seventh month.

I called him. We lived 40 mins apart so doing it on the phone was more convenient. Besides why should I have spent money on fuel for a guy I wanted to dump?

Our relationship was doomed right from the start but we both wanted to enjoy ourselves.

I felt relieved. I couldn't have felt better.

I never got into it so getting over wasn't a big prob.

This is one of my mistakes in life I never wish to repeat again. After a heartbreak I was so devastated that I was ready to settle for less (my ex). I wanted to play the game but I just saw it wasn't meant to me. Now I am back to myself and hope to remain like this for a long time, perhaps forever!

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We switched phones for a day but unfortunately his texts were saved in his phone and yep he was seeing several others,he denied it at first,admitted it later bt it made no difference i broke up with him. Who needs a serial cheater,sha. Nw he wants me back but naah am really enjoying singlehood.

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It ended terribly cos i still loved him so much but he unfortunately stopped loving me ever b4 it ended.To crown it all, he broke up with me over the phone. I'm trying to get over it by making more friends but never to go into any relationship until i have totally gotten over him.

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@ topic

I just realized we weren't connected.

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Good. It usually ends good.

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I juzz told him:

"I gatta move on i'm done widya"

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I told him I had a dream dat God spoke to me dat weren't meant to be together. Lol

Seriously now, I told him dat. :-D

Ok, what happened? I was graduatn before him so he was becoming insecure. He couldn't stand the thot of his babe being snatched away by those guys in d corporate. Also, he was the jealous type. Can't blame him really cos his babe na damsel dat gets alot of attention from men. Lol

Then he was also tolerating & enjoying some gestures frm girls dat he shouldn'2 be tolerating. Ofcourse, this raised an alarm and some other things sha.

I intiated d break-up like I said earlier, but he broke it up. Lol

How did I handle it? It was real bad cos I loved him and I was really hoping we could get married. He stalked me for smtym saying dat I should at least get a baby for him even if i don't marry him. U can imagine!!!

The most difficult part was breaking the news to friends and relations esp my mum who was hoping I had get married dat year or the next.

Lesson: i had to do what i had to do though i had a lot at stake (we courted for like 3 years) and I had also invested so much. We had a biz we were running together too. Despite all this, I knew it was best for me cos sooner or later he was going to still cause me d heartache. He was also selfish. He thinks about himself too much.

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it was just a mutual driffting apart,

we dint feel anything for each other anymore.

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just drop the summary of:

what happened?

He put his hands on me

how it happened?

I asked him to leave my house and he would not stating "my house, my Kitty-Cat"

where it happened?

In my house that solely own myself

who initiated the breakup?

I did, after he threatened me

how did you take it?

I was angry that he put his bleeping hands on me

how did you get over it?, and many possible questions as they occur to you

I called the police, I had him arrested, I had him sent to jail (2 years only because it was the first offence, he served 90 days the rest was put on probation), I had him labeled a woman beater, I had his probation violated in DC (he served another year in DC jail), I had the judge issue a 3 year stay away order and 3 additional years of probation in Baltimore and anger management classes.[color=#990000][/color]

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Never never let a man put his hands on you, never ever take abuse from anyone and if i had stuck to my 6 month rule regarding guys i would have never been in this situation.

As a single mom, I always had a policy that no guys met my kids before 6 months.  I introduced him to my children after 3 months breaking my rule and 2 months later he put his hands on me.

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Nasty. Sorry about that.

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I can remember I travelled and having missed him so much I decided to pay him a surprise visit when I was back in town. On checking on him, his door was unbolted from the outside which waas a good sign dat he was at home. My heart melted cause I was anxious to bombard him with kisses and hugs when I entered. So with all eagarness and anxiety, I knocked on the door and I hear a female voice saying, Yes, tani yen who is dat, and she came opening towards door and I heard I her unboltening the door 4rm inside, My mind became so unseltteld and suddenly all d gra gra wey dey my body began to die down gradually, As the lady opened the door she didn't want to open it widely and she evn had the gut to ask me who I was lookin 4. Well I summoned courage and said I was looking 4 my guy ( I wudnt want to mention his name). Well on entering I met my guy in only boxers lieing on the bed. He didn't knw I was d one conversing wth d girl at the door he thot it was his neighbour dat wanted to borrow a film and didn't expect her to enter. So on seeing me he was shocked to the bones and was just stammering. I opened my mouth and I just cudn't close it again. It was then I took my time to look at the girl again and I cud nw see clearly dat she was also tyeing a wrapper. I took a good look at both of them and I just ran out with great dissapointment. I heard him calling me back bt I didn't evn bother to wait 4 any rubbish. He came the nxt day with his friend to beg me bt I said it was simply OVER. That was hw it all ended. Though he still calls me and tells me he still loves me I told him no way. That act made me loose interest in guys and I find it difficult to love whole-heartedly and it helped me build a shock absorber in my subsequent relationship. Bt letting go was nt dat easy. Smetimes I get tempted to call him bt pride just takes over,

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Something tells me chamotex that wasn't the full story, just something.

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he dumpes me,that's how it end

but he was very silly to do that,but now he is the one that's regreting

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He was too into the realationship. We was only going out for like 2 weeks and he was all "you my wifey" "our kids is gonna have nice hair". I was like dammn.

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it was a blind date and we realise we re not compatable

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With my husband

I just told him to go that i cannot stay with him anymore.

I moved to mysisters place til he packed out.

It took him only a few days to go.

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The last person told me he was getting married.

Later he got cold feet and did not marry her again.

Well he confessed he did not want to be tied down for any reason .

They had already invited people and just a few day to the wedding he called it of.

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