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How Do I Get The "old" Her Back?

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You dont have to respond to all what people say on a thread. You have a problem and you posted it yours is to pick whichever applies to you and work on it . I wish you all the best and no matter what they advise you have to do what is rite and would work for you. I have been tru this too before.

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how n why isnt it easy?

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Yeah I'm done with this thread. You have no valid argument nor evidence. You don't deserve this woman and hopefully she will see the light over your shadow.

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What do you do?  What do you offer? What actions do you take? Please if you are going to mention something juviniile as sex or how you throw down in the bedroom I rest my case.

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True . . . . . but u said u are not the kind of person that shows love and emotions and yet you want some1 else to show u love??

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Its not the gift persay, its the significance behind the gift . . . the fact that she remembered and cared enough to buy even a handkerchief. Its worth a lot more than a gold necklace. I can understand how i'd feel if my partner didnt call for 1 month (deReloaded take note!), but i think woodpecker doesnt want to admit he's at fault here.

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grow up n stop grumbling

wake her up n talk to her jare

if u cant print the whole damn thread n show her

highlight ur username indicating its actually u

that should do all the talking for u

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Woodpecker, you are being unclear.

What do you specifically want from a woman??

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If she's not responding,she may have moved on already.

Infact she could be in the arms of another man as we speak

I'm telling you the Unclad truth.

when people change like that,there's always a reason.

She may not have received what she needed from you emotionally and moved on but is still remaining cordial.

You need to ask some hard questions since you could be courting someone else's woman

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well i guess she sees herself as your wife now so no need to bother with all the mushy stuff. Infact based on your responses so far you dont have much to complain about. she flashes you every couple of hrs meaning she must be thinking about you A LOT! Be happy, some dudes would trade places with you in a heart beat.

enjoy ur woman, if you see somewhere she can improve . . . sit her down and talk to her with love, she is bound to respond.

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david he's simply a needy bugger thats all

oh n add the fact that his being male means she HAS 2 respond 2 his every whim

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osisi easy on the dude, as a nigerian dude i can understand a bit. Many of us werent raised to show affection to our partners, it is usually looked upon as weak.

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do you have leprosy?

can't you dial the phone and call her and ask of her day

stop being needy

that may be why she's beginning to distance herself from you.

Are you biologically male?

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I can understand woodpecker to an extent . . . the average nigerian dude expects the chic to do all the lovey dovey stuff, call just to whisper sweet nothings, pamper him, cook him his favorite dish . . . like he said its not the gifts, its the attention he misses.

Dude . . . you havent been doing something right which is why madam has grown cold towards you. no woman who loves you will need to be begged to do simple stuff like call to ask about your day. Something is wrong somewhere and if you marry while sweeping all these under the rug . . . may the Lord help you.

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Hear Ye. Hear Ye.

Ladies of the Jury: I would like to you focus on [b]Exhibit A.

The Defendent has spoken the troubling words of "Treat her like. . . a queen. . . "

Let us move on to Exhibit B.

The Defendent has stated that his vision of his "Ideal GF/Fiance" would be his current lover.

Now let me give the definition of "Ideal"

i⋅de⋅al

   /aɪˈdiəl, aɪˈdil/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [ahy-dee-uhl, ahy-deel]

–noun

1. a conception of something in its perfection.

2. a standard of perfection or excellence.

Now how can the Defendent speak such unloving terms of his so called lover, and yet say she is still his Ideal??

Ladies of the Jury I know bring you into out last, Exhibit C.

He states that he is a man that own a Construction Company and so on and so forth. In others words, boasting that he has enough money to basically live on his own.

But wait. . . . .

Wasn't this the same man that complains that his so called "Ideal GF" no longer showers him in gifts??

Ladies of the Jury: I have concluded that this man is the scum of the earth and doesn't know what love is even if it was tattooed on his forehead.

Judge TOH: I rest my case.

Jury what do you find Mr. Woodpecker? Not Guilty or Guilty?

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The place is hilarious.

I went back to yesterdays thread and saw where sharon came after you and I laughed and laughed.

Some of these Nigerian males are comical

I hope these people are less than 20, that's the only reason some of the things they say here could be excused

I want her to give me gifts

I need a sugar mommy

I need nido and digestive biscuits

ah ah!

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Obviously she does mind which is why she has changed. Agbero.

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if this is indeed true then i see no reason to complain about her. simply talk to her.

I just think she's bored stiff of you. If truly you have plenty of cash it might explain why she'd rather marry you than leave for someone else. Nigerian women want mostly money in marriage anyway. Love and happiness can take a back seat.

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@osisi u r obviously a very frustrated girl whose immaturity in adult matters is quite appalling. if u had any sense @ all u'd see that its not the gifts i care abt but the effort. if she called me just once 2 ask how my day is i'd value it more than anything she can spend money on

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ROFL

you no go kill persin

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Osisi, you should just look thru Nairalist. Just for laughs, I swear the number of guys looking for sugarmummies is SOOOOOO alarming. When did Naija dudes lose their ego? Shameless generation.

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This is someone who wants to get married.

You must have slipped stuff like this out towards the girl which is why she's now showing you her back.

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Exactly instead for him to figure out what caused the change, he's yarning dust about telling her about other women

If you supposedly love her like you claim, you wouldnt think of playing such an immature game. I hope when you do tell her she responds wih "I was waiting for you to say something silly so I can leave without a guilty conscience" then you can come back and make another thread "How Do I Get My Girl Back, I havent Received Gifts In 2 Years!!!"

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beggars will ride Escalade my sister.

This kain lie for rainy season?

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Woodpecker. . . . . , I'm waiting for you to answer my question.

What is your vision of an "ideal" girlfriend/fiance?

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@Woodpecker, maybe u should have gotten ur story straight in the first place

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Woodpecker,

Just off the record, I just wanted to ask you a question.

What is your vision of an "Ideal" girlfriend?

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Spoilt girls don't buy gifts for their men, they receive gifts from their men.

She's not spoilt, she's tired of your laziness

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Well my case is quite simple;

AV been dating this wonderful girl for the last 3yrs but the problem is that at the beginning of the relationship she was the one who was all over me, she used to buy me gifts, she was always calling to know how i was. Now she rarley calls- only flashes- and its not like she doesnt buy credit, she hasnt given me jack since my birthday last yr, and she'd rather spend time with her friends than me. i know guys r meant to be the ones in charge but right now it seems like shes the one at the helm of affairs. shes very beautiful and loves me to pieces- she tells everyone who cares to listen- but the problem is that she doesnt show it anymore(apart from the sex ). i just need advise on how to get the old her back cos i miss her like crazy

ps- we're planning on gettin married in the future so i'll be needing the old her soon

Maybe u need to read ur post again i am sure u did not understand what u wrote.

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Buying you everything and showering you with adoration.

Now within one hr, it's the opposite?

Okay, what were you feeling like when you made this thread?

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why don't u show her some love for a change rather than bitching about how she no longer shows u love.

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pls if u dont understand a thread dont post o

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She's simply bored and wants a change. your money is the only thing keeping her at this point.

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i still cant believe this prik davidylan is still pestering this thread, if u'd read everything i've posted u'd hav seen where i mentioned that we're still as close as ever the problem i have is that she expects me to do every little thing. even when she wants to speak to me shes so used to me calling back whenever she flashes. but i can say part of it is my fault cos i spoilt her wit 2 much attention and she knows i'm the kind of person thats not too demanding but i've realised its not healthy if only one party in a relationship takes full responsibilty of every little activity be it financial, emotion of otherwise. every little problem she has its my responsibility to fix it yet i'm not allowed any show or acknowledgement of appreciation.

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woodpecker, i'm sorry but if your words here are representative of the kind of person you are then its not surprising your gf is acting like that. Mark my words, she wont marry you and is almost on her way out except your monetary investment in her is what is making her drag her feet. when a woman doesnt care about giving you stuff and prefers to spend time with friends instead of you, its time for you to look inwards and ask what you have done wrong rather than what she is doing wrong.

All you have said today has centered basically around I, ME and MYSELF. Do you consider her own feelings?

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@davidylan

i'm sorry to have to be the one to tell u this but "you are a very silly and unintelligent person". obviously u need to read thru the entire thread to fully understand what i've been talking abt. pls dont bother replying further as this will only prove me right all the more.

[sub][/sub]can u believe this prik?

even the richest men in the world still get gifts from their loved ones no matter how cheap the gifts are cos its a sign of their love and appreciation, but i dont really care abt gifts, i just want to see her put in  some effort

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this is equally daft and unhealthy. You have talked about money as your own obligation to her. You seem to think she owes you her very life for all you've spent on her right? What kind of "appreciation" are you asking for?

Honestly if i were related to her i'd advise her not to commit emotional suicide by marrying you.

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this is the last time i'll respond to some of the very silly posts av been seein ie @ osisi and davidylan;

from day one of the relationship av always done a lot for her, i change her wardrobe @ least twice a year, i bought her 2 phones last year, i practically sponsored her final semester in school and yet we finished school together. i've always been blessed financially and i see no big deal in doin stuff for my girlfriend so pls dont insult me, i've been the man i ought to be through out and i'm not bragging its just the plain truth.

whats wrong with a woman trying to show some appreciation for the things her man does for her by doin a little in return? its not like she doesnt work

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Good to know Im not the only one that could see thru this beggar

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If wishes were horses, BEGGARS would ride.

If you had all that going for you, you wouldnt care about a girl no longer buying you gifts. Hungry!

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2nd paragraph should have read "Thank God " not "that God"

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Or maybe she'll just up and leave for someone else?

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the old her is there, it just got tired of giving and giving without getting anything back. You enjoyed her being all over you and you got complacent, thinking she'd see the sun rise off your head for life.

You've simply talked about you, you, you and you. Have you bothered to ask what you give her in return?

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He dey yarn IQ yet he's the one devising a plan that only a slow kindergartner would think of.

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i take that statement personal ebony, i've always been responsible- or does ur low IQ not allow u to understand what i've been posting?

she used to do her own part or are relationships now about what a guy can give and the girl can receive? what happened to mutual responsiblities?

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@4PLAY u seem to be one of the few mature respondents

as 4 the others that cant stop showing their obvious immaturity i'll explain it further;

she used to put some effort b4 and now she doesnt, its like shes just participating in the relationship whereas b4 she was the one who practically was always putting 80% of the effort. i guess now its a case of "sebi we've settled down so why stress myself?"

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TOH, sorry Ma. I tend to read only the first and the last posts in a thread before responding.

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post

did you appreciate her when she was doing all that?

if not, maybe she got fed up of doing things that she

never got appreciated for.

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Be that as it may $Play, would you agree with this daft plan of mentioning things other "women do for him". How will that look to her from someone that she's supposedly gonna marry soon?

If feelings were waning now, he'll see what they will become after he spews such juvenile garbage.

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If someone starts a relationship doing certain favors but suddenly stops, the other half is right to query why the favors stopped. Not so much out of a sense of entitlement but natural curiosity as to whether the sudden change is a sign of waning of affection.

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