You dont have to respond to all what people say on a thread. You have a problem and you posted it yours is to pick whichever applies to you and work on it . I wish you all the best and no matter what they advise you have to do what is rite and would work for you. I have been tru this too before.
Its not the gift persay, its the significance behind the gift . . . the fact that she remembered and cared enough to buy even a handkerchief. Its worth a lot more than a gold necklace. I can understand how i'd feel if my partner didnt call for 1 month (deReloaded take note!), but i think woodpecker doesnt want to admit he's at fault here.
If she's not responding,she may have moved on already.
Infact she could be in the arms of another man as we speak
I'm telling you the Unclad truth.
when people change like that,there's always a reason.
She may not have received what she needed from you emotionally and moved on but is still remaining cordial.
You need to ask some hard questions since you could be courting someone else's woman
well i guess she sees herself as your wife now so no need to bother with all the mushy stuff. Infact based on your responses so far you dont have much to complain about. she flashes you every couple of hrs meaning she must be thinking about you A LOT! Be happy, some dudes would trade places with you in a heart beat.
enjoy ur woman, if you see somewhere she can improve . . . sit her down and talk to her with love, she is bound to respond.
I can understand woodpecker to an extent . . . the average nigerian dude expects the chic to do all the lovey dovey stuff, call just to whisper sweet nothings, pamper him, cook him his favorite dish . . . like he said its not the gifts, its the attention he misses.
Dude . . . you havent been doing something right which is why madam has grown cold towards you. no woman who loves you will need to be begged to do simple stuff like call to ask about your day. Something is wrong somewhere and if you marry while sweeping all these under the rug . . . may the Lord help you.
Hear Ye. Hear Ye.
Ladies of the Jury: I would like to you focus on [b]Exhibit A.
The Defendent has spoken the troubling words of "Treat her like. . . a queen. . . "
Let us move on to Exhibit B.
The Defendent has stated that his vision of his "Ideal GF/Fiance" would be his current lover.
Now let me give the definition of "Ideal"
/aɪˈdiəl, aɪˈdil/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [ahy-dee-uhl, ahy-deel]
1. a conception of something in its perfection.
2. a standard of perfection or excellence.
Now how can the Defendent speak such unloving terms of his so called lover, and yet say she is still his Ideal??
Ladies of the Jury I know bring you into out last, Exhibit C.
He states that he is a man that own a Construction Company and so on and so forth. In others words, boasting that he has enough money to basically live on his own.
But wait. . . . .
Wasn't this the same man that complains that his so called "Ideal GF" no longer showers him in gifts??
Ladies of the Jury: I have concluded that this man is the scum of the earth and doesn't know what love is even if it was tattooed on his forehead.
Judge TOH: I rest my case.
Jury what do you find Mr. Woodpecker? Not Guilty or Guilty?
The place is hilarious.
I went back to yesterdays thread and saw where sharon came after you and I laughed and laughed.
Some of these Nigerian males are comical
I hope these people are less than 20, that's the only reason some of the things they say here could be excused
I want her to give me gifts
I need a sugar mommy
I need nido and digestive biscuits
if this is indeed true then i see no reason to complain about her. simply talk to her.
I just think she's bored stiff of you. If truly you have plenty of cash it might explain why she'd rather marry you than leave for someone else. Nigerian women want mostly money in marriage anyway. Love and happiness can take a back seat.
Exactly instead for him to figure out what caused the change, he's yarning dust about telling her about other women
If you supposedly love her like you claim, you wouldnt think of playing such an immature game. I hope when you do tell her she responds wih "I was waiting for you to say something silly so I can leave without a guilty conscience" then you can come back and make another thread "How Do I Get My Girl Back, I havent Received Gifts In 2 Years!!!"
Well my case is quite simple;
AV been dating this wonderful girl for the last 3yrs but the problem is that at the beginning of the relationship she was the one who was all over me, she used to buy me gifts, she was always calling to know how i was. Now she rarley calls- only flashes- and its not like she doesnt buy credit, she hasnt given me jack since my birthday last yr, and she'd rather spend time with her friends than me. i know guys r meant to be the ones in charge but right now it seems like shes the one at the helm of affairs. shes very beautiful and loves me to pieces- she tells everyone who cares to listen- but the problem is that she doesnt show it anymore(apart from the sex ). i just need advise on how to get the old her back cos i miss her like crazy
ps- we're planning on gettin married in the future so i'll be needing the old her soon
Maybe u need to read ur post again i am sure u did not understand what u wrote.
i still cant believe this prik davidylan is still pestering this thread, if u'd read everything i've posted u'd hav seen where i mentioned that we're still as close as ever the problem i have is that she expects me to do every little thing. even when she wants to speak to me shes so used to me calling back whenever she flashes. but i can say part of it is my fault cos i spoilt her wit 2 much attention and she knows i'm the kind of person thats not too demanding but i've realised its not healthy if only one party in a relationship takes full responsibilty of every little activity be it financial, emotion of otherwise. every little problem she has its my responsibility to fix it yet i'm not allowed any show or acknowledgement of appreciation.
woodpecker, i'm sorry but if your words here are representative of the kind of person you are then its not surprising your gf is acting like that. Mark my words, she wont marry you and is almost on her way out except your monetary investment in her is what is making her drag her feet. when a woman doesnt care about giving you stuff and prefers to spend time with friends instead of you, its time for you to look inwards and ask what you have done wrong rather than what she is doing wrong.
All you have said today has centered basically around I, ME and MYSELF. Do you consider her own feelings?
i'm sorry to have to be the one to tell u this but "you are a very silly and unintelligent person". obviously u need to read thru the entire thread to fully understand what i've been talking abt. pls dont bother replying further as this will only prove me right all the more.
[sub][/sub]can u believe this prik?
even the richest men in the world still get gifts from their loved ones no matter how cheap the gifts are cos its a sign of their love and appreciation, but i dont really care abt gifts, i just want to see her put in some effort
this is equally daft and unhealthy. You have talked about money as your own obligation to her. You seem to think she owes you her very life for all you've spent on her right? What kind of "appreciation" are you asking for?
Honestly if i were related to her i'd advise her not to commit emotional suicide by marrying you.
this is the last time i'll respond to some of the very silly posts av been seein ie @ osisi and davidylan;
from day one of the relationship av always done a lot for her, i change her wardrobe @ least twice a year, i bought her 2 phones last year, i practically sponsored her final semester in school and yet we finished school together. i've always been blessed financially and i see no big deal in doin stuff for my girlfriend so pls dont insult me, i've been the man i ought to be through out and i'm not bragging its just the plain truth.
whats wrong with a woman trying to show some appreciation for the things her man does for her by doin a little in return? its not like she doesnt work
the old her is there, it just got tired of giving and giving without getting anything back. You enjoyed her being all over you and you got complacent, thinking she'd see the sun rise off your head for life.
You've simply talked about you, you, you and you. Have you bothered to ask what you give her in return?
@4PLAY u seem to be one of the few mature respondents
as 4 the others that cant stop showing their obvious immaturity i'll explain it further;
she used to put some effort b4 and now she doesnt, its like shes just participating in the relationship whereas b4 she was the one who practically was always putting 80% of the effort. i guess now its a case of "sebi we've settled down so why stress myself?"