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How Do I Handle Nigerian Men?

I date Nigerian Men's but I'm American, I have been dealing with this Nigerian

who I have know for over a year. We crossed the friendship line 7 months

ago and we have been dating on and off for a couple of months. At first

neither one of us wanted a long term relationship but his actions spoke

louder than his words(at least I thought they did). For instance he

slept ova my apartment everyday, talked about future plans, he even

requested a parking permit to my apartment because he knew he would be

coming frequently. Then I found him talking to a younger female that he

claim was a friend. I asked about her before I accused him of something,

but in the end I broke if off because I didn't believe that she was just

a friend. He was going to visit the female on vacation weather I believed

him or not so y play the fool for a "friend." Can u believe he told me

that we were no longer have any communication with each, after we known

each other for years. I mean he practically lived at my apartment and

told me that he didn't want to me my man and we weren't building on a

relationship. Even if we were not going to be together why act so

immature?

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Me, Faher and Queeneve's hubby

You sure? I think you made an error,

Now, how you gon side with the men on women needing to respect the men because they FUCKS THE WOMEN, but what about men giving women the respect because the man supposed to?

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Say who?

Provide me three independent sources that colloborates with your statement,

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@poster,Kai! c mugu, dis one stil dey wear nappy o.

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Some people cant be helped, sighs,

I don't know why Nigerian men think they are the WORLD BEST LOVERS, whatever,

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Money spending and good intimacy?

You been dippin again huh, Faher?

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I am sure women dont have a problem with respecting the men, BUT MEN NEED TO LEARN TO RESPECT WOMEN AS WELL IF THEY WANT RESPECT TO BE GIVEN TO THEM,

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Awww I see you came out the dungeon huh Faher, YOU COULDNT STAY AWAY LONG HUH?

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nigerian men,american men,british men,all men r the same,

go and watch he's just not that into u , n then u'll get y he acts like that,

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@Bucanneer7,

maga we gonna promote we standard, know how?

organise a fashion parade show of "we" men only,

where Queeneva and other jealous 9ja ladies will

come and b leakin their lips 4 we fine bros,

but we gonna yap dem.

@Queeneva,

4 de lying matter she complain of,

white men also come 2 9ja 4 contracts

stayed in ur country, chasin ur gals like dogs,

ah de nt havin darlings far in europe?

me wonda, come Abuja see them,

Julius Berger, Setraco oda Foreign companies,

makin life more expensive 4 d common 9ja man wit their dollas.

wata u say.

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And you are saying that kinda poo dont happen to the whiteman too? Is it?

Sister if u re tryna make d 9ja Man a better person then sorry it aint workin, leave revolution to do its work,

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My previous statement remains standing,

A hit dog always holler, IT NEVER FAILS,

AA men only issue is they allows them CRACKAS to define who they are and brainwashing them to think BEING AA is a curse, HOWEVER, Nigerian men have a VERY BAD REPUTATION IN AMERICA. I remembered one time i was at school and this Nigerian man was sharing his experiences growing up which I thought was interesting. A classmate of mine who happens to be white announces that her and this Nigerian was dating now this was the first few weeks of school and she announced that he gave her a promise ring she was proud like a light bulb. Anyway, a few months down the line she never returned to class and we heard that the Nigerian man's wife caught them together and beat the pink outta her and she decided to withdrew from class. The morale of the story is, YOU TELL ME,

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through talk ooO ma bro but that juju issue is an african thing i dont like. hahahaha. I almost forgot,

I wasn't boasting i just feel say make d sister catch a glimp of a 9ja guy den come begin imagine where other handsome guys for continue from where i stop, E don tey wen she travel i think whe she come back she will not go back to america again. NO PLACE LIKE HOME. ALL THESE BLOODY RACIST NA SHE DEY ADMIRE? NA WA OOO

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Nigerian men are bad,crazy,wicked,liars,Goddam freaky BUT please tell me how to date A NIGERIAN MAN?Doesnt that show that their exist many very unique features in them?

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@ POSTER;

I 1da if one can ever be experienced without adventure, Big Sister, such is LIFE, Good a thing you have learnt some kinda gud lessons and d ugly incident 'll never repeat itself 'coz of d fact that you 've handled such already.

Cheer up sister! Mind you, ''EXPERIENCE counts in life. My candid advice is that you shud gather stones while the rock cracks.''.'' YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN''

@ you sistas blasting we bros;

Remember, LOVE, is all about sacrifice, Moreover, Big sister enjoyed series of indelible gud times wit bros whilst d relationship lasts.

Enjoy, with fair play. Safe!

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wonder how u ever learn in and out of a classroom, for the 5001th time, i was not referring to u as AA chic in my 2nd post, read it again!

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What's up gals

you have no respect 4 we 9ja guys

but we respect you.

most you insult your country men like this?

is a place of joke, not a battle filed to find a champion.

@Bucanneer7,

never talk like this, some we guys dat are fair

and heavenly created (wonderfully made)

never boast the way you do,

know why? cos giving pictures any how

giv juju room to cast a spell on you,

only God can keep you away from.

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Im sorry to say but i dont think this is a healthy relationship,

How can you come on the internet and ask random people about how you should handle "your man".

pLUS you cant handle anybody you can only love and you need to know whats good for you. Dont be desperate for a man like this.

I dont think its relavent wether he is nigerian or not, Its about how you carry urself and who you choose.

I think you firstly kind of need to know what you want then maybe you will meet a good man that you will love for the right reasons

Im sorry if i sounded a bit judgemental but something about this aint right and i dont think anyone can give you advice on this because THEY DONT KNOW YOUR BOYFRIEND

i wish you all the best ,

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@queeneve

post your own pix on here lets see how pretty you are, I think you just wanna prolong the topic. For those girls that think Nigerian guys arent handsome check out my profile i am the guy in white T-shirt and black coat live in Kuala Lumpur, You aint see nofin yet, Mine beauty is just the last grade among others. People think i am mixed in real life so what, I dontdo alot of styling and stuffs, imagine when i do em,

Before anyone talks bad about another let the person prove him/her self worthy of condenming the other man

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@Sugabee or honeybee,

Only ask God to help you on how to handled we 9ja men

cos we hard oooohhhhhh.

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it dnt matter where they r frm, men take the piss

but nigerian men just take the fcking buscuit

seriously dnt know y nigerian women abroad n indeed foreigners r so hooked on nigerian men

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your username sounds fishy and funny

Bu canner

that renowned 9ja cult

Hope u didnt Join it cos ur ex GF broke your heart

Just kidding ure 100% rite brother

Im proud to be a 9ja boy~

i cant imagine me been a WHITE SKINNY AMERICAN Boy that eats CANDY.

Morning,afternoon and evening!!

damn~

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when guys act silly, girls take them for a ride. Not saying it is right, but men need to wise up.

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You guys/garls are jobless and the topic is sort of discriminating (directed to nigeria), YOU CAN NEVER SEE AN AMERICAN GUY RUBBISHED IN A FORUM LIKE THIS.

I mean what is this war bewteen man and woman about anyway? What about me that have only had four girl friend since i was born and they all broke my heart? Now i cant even have the courage to ask a girl out, i just do the pay as you go s*x and forget about the rest, as handsome as i am!

I got girls asking me out and giving me their numbers but I still later find out that they are too too demanding, they stylishly ask me to take them here and there and i just lavish everything i got and when i am broke they wont be there to help, I sponsored one of my ex girl's education for a year and she was seeing another guy(SHE CLAIM WAS HER EX GUY) then she later found a way to drop me,

Lady why are you afraid of handsome guys? You want him at first then later find a way to cheat on him,

You nigerian ladies living abroad now thinks you arent a nigerian no more? then go find a white man and stop casting a spell on our guys on the internet for God sake, Have you read any ghanian article that says this or other african forums?

I remain a nigerian no matter how many countries i have been to, I have a dream for nigeria and it will be achieved, this is what make other country great because their people go out and learn from other people come home and input it into their communities and not ridiculing their men online

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African American women are less likely to put up with your chit, is that why you think AA have an attitude? I can see why they would have one with YOU! spits!

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Nigerian men are whores,

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whatever girl! u AA girls have the worst attitude known to mankind, go fix that!

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and VERY POSSESSIVE and yes speaking from experience. I will NEVER date another Nigerian man, as I've tried 2 already and same outcome. Too controlling and demanding for my likes.

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It;s not a Nigerian thing. It'a a MAN thing! Ladies, I highly and strongly suggest you all purchase and carefully read the book, "Why Men Love Bitches." Don't let the title fool you. It's not about being a mean or bad person at all! It's actually deeper than that,

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j-girl

How many times, have you taken time to see what girls do to men? All you see is a one way road.

Ome eko @ I had expected you to tell me that men cheat with fellow men, men leave their wives/girlfriends for fellow men. What is the truth in your post? Do you know anything about absurdity in argument, because your TRUTH just reflected one.

I think there is a conflict of assimilation here. Women are taught from childhood, that they should run from men, should see men as  their greatest opponents, should use their power to undo men,  should not let men kiss them , or else they will be pregnant.  That they should strive to find a suitable husband- a husband who has been portrayed as an oppresor, sexmaniac, liar, and a cheat. So how do you reconcile these notions?

Men on the other hand are not taught anything about women.

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thinkin ha!

@ tani carr

Omo eko u sound like my lesbian friend for real. u could be a replacement to her u know.

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If u got nothing to say about the topic so bye because nobody is asking for your 2cents.

I wasn't insulting men but what i said was the TRUTH.

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Not all girls are the same either. Sex and demands are equally distributed because the guy wants sex and the girl makes demands - so that's a two-way street. But I am so sure that I'm not all about those two. He just has to find a way to show me that he's not like 90% of the single guys out there (that's my own statistic).

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Before a guy can do that, I think you must be adding something to his life apart from just sex and demands.

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lol, which one is Don Juan again?

That's why i said i'm forced to think that many guys are heartless. I'm not saying all. The day a guy can show me and convince me that he's different, I will seriously let my guard down

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Really? Actually with what I've seen a lot of guys do to other girls, i'm left with the option that many guys are just heartless or they simply have the heart of the Grinch. It works better that way, then you don't have to give all of your heart to be shattered while boys scheme ways to cowardly break up with girls.

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@ acoline it seems some non-naijaa/naija women have higher expectation of naija men. Get real folks, take it the way you took it when your first love dumped you. Should we call naija guys to tell their own stories. Some babes have formed a mini United Nation to prosecute this fellow. I feel you.

Ladis sometimes forget that men get heartbroken too maybe because we complain about it less.

Ladies forget that men cry too in the quiet of their rooms.

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ome eko.,

why  are brandishing your unEnglish insults on men.  Do men cheat with men or women? Do men lie to men or women. For every wrongful act committed by a man, there is a corresponding female. This is a junk yard fallacy. Men do it with women.

tanicarr.

naija men are worse, may be you stick with American men oops Jesus. One that got the magic stick but does not  care for  his  many fruits of labor. lol

it seems some non-naijaa/naija  women have higher expectation of naija men. Get real folks, take it the way you took it when your first love dumped you. Should  we call naija guys to tell their own stories. Some babes have formed a mini United Nation to prosecute this fellow.

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sugabee sorry to break it to you. seems like u've been had. sometimes when a guy is in a tough spot he befriends women just so he can get money, a roof over his head or maybe just plain old cheap sex. then he moves on to the next thing. not all nigerian guys are like that. he was just a jerk. you'll find someone who truly cares for you in the fullness of time. just be more careful. i often tell my american friends to be careful of immigrants. they often(not always) have different agendas!!!!!!!

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Well since you broke up with him, you don't need to handle him anymore. . .good riddance

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That's really bad, I wonder why some men to dat tho,

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A bummer but the guy clearly doesn't want a thinking women. She would probably trip over all the air heads he's got lined up.

Guys can be like that sometimes. Essier to go nuclear than explain stuff and work it out. Just take George Bush for instance.

He's just immature like you said.

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oh well . . men for u and even worse, Nigerian men.

They can neva be satisfied with just one woman.

he's a bigger loser by him spending most nights and time at ur place,

wat happened to his place? still living with his parents?

gurl, u need to let him go, he's not right for u.

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Ferlie has always been a guy. His name was P*nis before but i think seun changed it. I noticed that when i quoted him on welcome thread

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omo Eko - I am a guy now - why u say that?

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Naija man will worship you, but once prick enters Kitty-Cat - he will want you to worship him, if you dont, then next.

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NAIJA MEN FIRST ONE IS "I LOVE U"

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Omo Eko, with that kind of post, i dey fear small small.

@ Topic, Nigerian men are just like every other kind except that they have sweeter mouths. They can sweet talk you to a point of sugar coma. It's very annoying and unless you know how to control how your reactions are to them, then you will find it hard to understand them.

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