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@bolarge: good point on the impatience thing, but slow poison guys usually aint playas as it make them obvious. a slow poison kinda guy would strike u as probably the most decent and caring person on earth, but like u said, he's got to be shaggin some other conquest on the side while waiting for the one in d pipeline.
I agree with u. There indeed are peeps u can describe as "slow poison" but they are very few u have to admit.
One of the primary xteristics of lust is impatience; the drive for instant gratification. If after a few weeks a typical playa hasn't as much as done some good touching he'll just run along to more willing potential victims.
The down side to the slow poison guy is that while he's biding his time with u, he's shagging some other chick by the side. It's not in their nature to have a vacuum. If u're smart enough u'll soon discover his philanderings n' drop his sorry Bottom.
The way he looks at you,
The way he talks to you
How he react towards you when he's angry
How easily he confides in you. ie tells you hidden things about his past.
The way he treats you in the presence of his friends.
The way he responds to you when you need him most.
Those are the basic things a girl needs to know when she claims to be in love with a guy.