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How Do You Approach a Lady for a Relationship?

I see alot of beautiful girls and I don't have feelings that i should go talk to them maybe she will give me a chance in her life. Is it because I am not very rich or I will I say my main self inside me is not ready for anything like that or do i think their level is more than mine. Please I need an answer to this

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approach by her with ur car now or beta run after her like an antelope wey dem dey pursue,but make sure u no sweat o....but make her dat u av bin after her like relay-race by gasping for breath.LOL

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Be honest with your intentions and dont beat around the bush. No matter what you say, your actions will speak lounder than words.

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Hi , Hope you guys will take me as your friend. Specially Relationship starts with friendship !! I think A cute smile ignites the freeling and keeping shut attracts the butterflies ? what do u think ?

I am using this web site http://www.codelogics.com/friends to find New friends.

My name came on google search after i created my profile on this web site

What do u think ?

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how about this

i fell in love wit u the very first day i saw you,

to many this is not possible,

to some its o.k

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it depends on the lady and the situation you met each other

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Hey, why same question everywhere?

Well this is my responce to one other poster:

You wrote this up there with courage, so with the same courage, you can "toast" a girl.

   Com'on, it's easy; remember that there are many guys like you, so this means there are many more girls who are vacant with anticipation that you guys would come to them.

   There are many ways a relationship can kick off, many of which do not necessarily demand many grammars or step by step. But in an event of conventional "toasting" simply follow this guidelines:

    *Meet a girl you like in an area and condition that would be convenient for her to give you better attention

      *Give greetings with integrity. . .

      *Have a little chat about anything and see her areas of interest. . .

      *Be sensitive to her attitude and see if she likes your conversation

      *Ask her what she plans for the week, especially the weekend

      *Then ask her if she'd like to go outing with you, perhaps for a drink

      *Arrange the day and time

      *Close the conversation with an exchange of phone numbers.

    I know that some Nigerian girls could be so unnecessarily reluctant in a show of "hard to get", so this is where you simply have to apply some instinctive wisdom: remember, money, money, money is not always the best way to entice a lady.

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[size=8pt]Wait, instead of you guyz to teach yourselves how to ask a girl out. You keep bombarding yourselves with insults, why? Thats bad. Well what I wanna say about asking a girl out is just a very small thing. You don't need to be friends with her before asking her out. That na long thing, When you meet a girl now, and you became friends for years. Then you asked her out, and she ended up telling you she only love you as a friend. WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO? Kill yourself? Olorun maje. LONG THING. WHen you meet a girl. Hit her up instanta. Let her know how you feel about her and if she says no, Let her go okay? Just walk up to the next girl.

There are certain things you need to do on a first date that will make you look attractive to her. You don't ask her dumb questions. Like, how are you? where are you from? where do you live?[/size]

Try this questions (DOn't make her feel she is on a job interview). Mind you. When you're talking with her. Look straight into her eyes and not down at her chest.

1. What was your best job?

2. What were your worst jobs?

3. Tell me all the places you worked

4. Tell me about your best friend

5. Tell me about your family

6. Tell me about your relatives

7. Favorite movie star?

9. Favorite entertainer?

10. Favorite song?

11. First kiss?

12. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?

13. Have you ever been arrested?

14. Do you like to shop?

15. Best way to relax?

16. If you found a box of N100,000.00 what would you do?

17. Are you romantic?

18. What is one food you will never give up?

19. What is a food you can live without?

20. Ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?

21. Three places you would love to visit?

Try these few questions, and you will look more attractive to her. Don't be friends first O.

If you guyz stay very close to yourselves, and she traveled. WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

JUst let her know how much you care about her at first.[/size]

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it really depends.

approach her like you would a fellow guy, create this perception in your mind's eye that she is a guy like you, it makes you less nervous. apply less pressure, its not a do or die affair, be real, be natural, be you, dont try to impress, sometimes you may have to strike (like didier drogba) cos some of them can be dumb-asses you know. be a bit casual, it creates this impression you have a life of yours already, if she cares you both can share some fantasies, IF SHE CARES. ( i hope i dont get crucified for that).

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just be urself and let her know how u feel about her

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I[i] think its best in approaching her you banish the tot of a relationship and concentrate on friendship

then cause her to be attracted to you by not showing you 're needy or clingy,be d man u know?

a relation @ this point would come naturally.[/i]

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@ NDDY, HOW CAN U JUST WALK UP TO SOMEONE U'RE NOT FAMILIAR WITH AND POP UP THE WORD " I LOVE YOU" IF I AM THE ONE I'D ASSUME THAT YOU'VE GONE INSANE / SOMETHING.

THE BEST WAY AND MOST EASIEST WAY COS IT HAS BEEN WORKING FOR ME ANYTIME, ANYDAY, FAMILIARIZE WITH THE LADY AND BEFORE U SAY JACK ROBIN SHE'S ALL URS AND URS ALONE.

RIGHT, LAYI

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rubbish, rubbish, rubbish.

ideally, make yourself interesting in introducing yourself. Thats the attention grabber. Be polite, friendly, confident but not arrogant.

drop subtle hints that you find her interesting and likable in conversation. Dont be too pushy, trying to get her contact details.

If your approach was right those will come by the end of the little chat.

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APPROACHING A LADY FOR A RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON

1. THE ENVIRONMENT U FOUND THE LADY

2. HER MOOD ETC

IT IS VERY EASY TO APPROACH ALADY, WHAT U SIMPLY DO IS TO MAKE HER NOTICE UR PRSENCE, WITHOUT HER NOTICING UR PRESENCE U CAN GET HER ATTENTION. AFTER GETTING HER ATTENTION GO STRAIGHT TO THE POINT LET HER KNOW HOW U FEEL ABOUT HER . PLS DONT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH

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okay, you need help!

www.doubleyourdating.com

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nice talk adconline

I always tell my loved ones(family and friends) i love them if the need arise just to erase any doubts they may have or reassure them of my unflinching support.

I'm not a kid to follow silly dating rules born out of over indulgence in romantic novels. Get real people and be yourself.

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Let us put this in perspective, why is it so wrong to tell someone  I love you? I can tell a girl that I love her make up, perfume, hairstyle etc and can’t tell her that I love her. Although there is no conventional standard in dating, but the rest of  world has agreed that   " thou shall not say I love you" the eleventh commandment of dating holds.

If I love inanimate things like make up and stuff and can freely express myself, why can’t I say I love you? If I were to choose, I would rather have someone tell me I love you than I love your perfume/shirt and I like you. I think we have missed our priority in this regard. If everyone who said I love you really meant it, then the world would be paradise, devoid of law courts, contractual agreements, divorce, and break up etc

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There are really no fundamentals. Just be rich and handsome, you won't have problems getting dates.

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HOW CAN I APPROACH A LADY FOR A RELATIONSHIP ANDWIN HER HEART. I WANT TO KNOW THE FUNDAMENTALS

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this is truly difficult for me and some other cute guys.

sometimes i see ladies that i feel should be my girlfriend but i usually have this problem of approaching them, especially if it is on a street,cafe,church at least somebody i have never met before.

please, i would like somebody to advise me on what to do and how to go about it.

Abeg it is critical

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Just do it my friends way. tell her: BABY GAL U LOOK FERTILE AND FELT LIKE CULTIVATING U (Agric terms eh?).

The driving force about approaching a lady is the inner fellings you had before getting to her. it might be strong or just a mere infatuation. the bottom line is that we all have grown of age, gone are the days were you read and gram the lexicon before approaching a lady. tell her words she never had before, sweep her with a little of confidence etc. now you got to have the courage and skills to sweep a lady. You must lok natural to get REAL woman. forget the issue of money, if you are natural and be yourself you can even get some in nairaland. I no go mention name. but you can hear them say it themselves.

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Can someone teach us how to approach a lady, that was the question cos all this wey u na they talk no enter my head

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U approach a gurl for marriage hidden behind the wheel of a phantom rolls royce, they simply lurr that kinda thingy,

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As I have gotten older the men that have approached me have gotten better too, you know why?  They simply said hello and I in return said hi and they continued the conversation by being themselves, they didn't appear to be putting on an act for me because I usually see through the bull.  hahaha  If a woman want to be bothered with you she will let you know by the smile on her face and other gestures and the body language.  Please don't ever be afraid to approach any woman you deem to be beautiful in your eyes.  Hang in there.

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There is love and there is love. The ladies should tell us how they like to be approached.

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...another product of ignorance above.

U keep saying peeps dont know what they are saying when u are obviously the one veering of course.

U mean u r spoling ur chance with a girl u love because u told her "u love her".

So all u do is play along and assume she's ur lover. If thats ur own method, u wont go far?

We all need "verbal affirmation".

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do u guys actually know the true meaning of love. layi, is saying u meet a girl and tell her u love her......u feel love doesn't mean u should say it..u re definitely spoiling your chances with that girl..and at the end of the day all u would see is her back

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Layi the profesor of relationship and love theorem weldone.

read my post with understanding you will see what I was trying to explore.

I would have elaborated it but wasn't in a good frame of mind.

Layi weldone, good job.

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@U for ignore the guy. When self acclaimed love professors veer of course. Just watch them,

they'll come back.

@GP

Relationships r not jobs u apply for. I dont need to 'approach' for a relationship. I just be-friend wit d girl. There r several informal ways to achieve that. After a long while, if i see that we r compatible and i like her. I'll tell her staright up. I got no protocols or methodology. I'm always myself. I'll simply tell her whatz up. If she agrees , fine. If not..i'll never force her. I know better than to induce love cos such is always ephemeral.

I insists- If we've been together as friends for long, i see no reason why i cant tell her I love her. What makes u close to a girl?.. kissing n petting ?

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Everybody they talk now @ layi u think say love nah bread wey ppl they buy ? let me tell you love is more than what you think.. if you cannot sacrifice for love then is wasting of tyme

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Layi how do you make your own approach?

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I am Lizzy.. not Lizzie. U r welcome Layi (omo mummy). break ehh? If u need a break.. i need a BEND.

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Thanx Lizzie (omo daddy). Methinks i need a break now. 2000? pweeew.

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Sorry and congrats for reaching 2000 post counts.

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I am changing gear here.

Love that is meant to be will be no matter the method you employ. Method or protocols or style won't fetch you love.

A truly love that is born out of a true heart is so strong and can't be resisted.

So be yourself and do your thing in your own way.

Forget about method or style.

the style or method Mr A adopted and worked very well for him may not work for Mr B.

The events taking place at that time or mood determines your approach.

Let's not religionize it (pardon for this grammar)

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Layi u are actually wrong wiv that ur I LOVE U thing o.How can u just tell someone u barely know that? if a guy walks up to me saying i love u i will just spit on his face cos he is cursed.u just have to take it one step at a time.The i love u part will surely come if its meant to be.

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Sure hottie. That's what I've been saying, but this relationship could be friendship not necessarily dating: it depends on what you mean by 'going out'. People go out unofficially too my dear. I even know of a couple who were friends for 8 years (no toasting). The guy just came up 1 day and propose marriage. She accepted and they've been happily married for 5 years now. Break the norm abeg.

Like 2face "I say whatz on my mind / i don't have time to edit"

@nddy

I aint talkin about that. I know the difference between love and crush.

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Shuu.. i really dunno wat he is talking abt. But whichever way. You can't tell someone u just met that you love him/her. Y'all gat to develop some sorta relationship.

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i think he is talking about an inner feeling you get when you think you have found the right person.

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Yeah you loved first. But u don't tell them u love them first. You actually go out with them and in the course of the relationship you say... "I love you".

I am tired jo.

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HA my posts are in sequence (dont isolate) A continuation of what i said earlier.

In summary. U shouldnt tell her U love her at first. Make friends with her first and tell her later when the time is ripe, when u've grown into urself.

U dont only love ur lover......rather U actually have lovers because u loved first.

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if she is your best friend simply tell her i have always had a crush on you

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Layi.. the topic says APPROACH! That is like meeting for the first time.

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We've been best of friends for years. We know eaxch other deeply. Whats wrong in telling her I love her and I want us to take it to any level possible? I still don't get it.

All i know is don't tell a girl u barely KNOW. I know that for sure. But we've been together for years. But what HA doesnt know is that there's a friend that sticks closer than a lover. Some of us do have such friends. I don't have to be her lover to really know her.

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Haba Mr Layi. You cant just tell a girl I LOVE YOU really havent had a strong relationship with her. as in go out with her or anything like that. Yeah you saw her and liked her, and u want her to be ur gf. But u gat to start from somewhere not by saying "i love you".

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When u toast a girl? Have u started going out with her? How will she accept to go out with you if u don't tell her u love her. Leave protocols out of this and get real. The best time to say I love U is everytime. Be true to yourself.

see Layi how on earth can you tell a girl i love you without going out with her, you might not understand what i understand as going out with her, I might be going out with this girl and say i dont like her, it does happen, how do you get to know a girl better if you dont go out with her, there is no way you can know if you a girl is actually meant for you if you dont have a relationship and in the early satges of a realtionship or on a first date Dont ever talk of I love You for An American girl or a Girl from the Western Hemisphere. You might not get a second date. I think we are taking this issue from two different cultures and way of life

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There's absolutely nothing wrong in tellin anybody "I love U". Do u not love them? haba!

When u toast a girl? Have u started going out with her? How will she accept to go out with you if u don't tell her u love her. Leave protocols out of this and get real. The best time to say I love U is everytime. Be true to yourself.

Ur point nddy is diff from Lizzy's so i wonder what u wanted to know. Lizzy said u have to know her to say I love U. U said u have to go out with her to say 'I love U'.

2 diff scenarios because u can actually know a girl without officially going out with her.

What if u've been very good friend for years. Aint that enough to know her?

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thats exactly what i wanted to know

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You can't tell her you love her when u havent even KNOWN her. You should develop some kind of relationship first.

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@hot-angel, layi didn't say tell her u love her.. but rather he said Michael should show her in deeds first that he love her.. not by telling her, the things u will do will make the girl feels u really wants her dats all

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i want to clarify issues

How can you tell a girl you have not offficially gone out with "I Love you" Does that make sense

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