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How Do You Control Your Emotions?

Have anyone once had this experience befor, You just met this him or her,and you guys were more than just friends and u guys feel its kool dating each other, will u just pour out ur whole love on him or her just bcoz u cant really do witout him or her, can u really control the emotions of being patience tryn to know him or her more, i think its not really easy cos i found it difficult to control mine xpecially when im in already, what can we do if we can or canot controll it.

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No wonder you think you can say that.

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Hollandis, are you married?

Just curious.

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Keep in mind i just got married almost 3 months ago now. And after i kicked my first husband out I did not date for over a year. I just focused on me, my children, my job and my business.

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before marriage when i was dating i had a rule:

You could not meet my kids until we have been dating 6 months. Do this forced the r/s to slow down. I think if people took things slower they would find that after the infactuation, surface stuff that you are presented with wears off you will really know how you feel about the person. Most men never made it pass 1st base or 6 weeks.

Thus the need to limit contact. Once you start that I must talk to you, see you everyday thing you feel obligated and start to force the feelings. Just slow it down and protect both parties.

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No protecting my heart

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More like pretending thats more severe

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The way I have controlled my feelings in the past were to not focus or think of the person all the time at the beginning. to fill my time with my friends and family and other people. To be careful not to spend too much time with that person.

Start things slow and get to know them. Conversations over the phone limit them to just a couple per day. Dates to 2-3 x's a week after the first 4 weeks. wks 1-4 dates once a week.

By not making my life surround theirs I can slow it down and evaluate it better.

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Don't try and control it, just give the relationship your all, so you have no regrets, however, if you mean, declaring your undying love for someone after the first meeting, I believe try your best to use logic, let your love show through actions, you don't need to say you're madly in love with someone, you can always show it.

If you try and hold back your emotions, yes you'll think more rationally, but at the same times, there are more regretas through rational decisions than irrational decisions.

You may cringe that you were professing your love for someone who took you for a ride, but you may feel absolutely terrible if you knew you broke up with your girlfriend because friends were telling you that you needed to focus on your career first.

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If the feelings are very mutual, there would be no need to control.

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As for me,i let that feeling die in me. Am not just bold enuff to 'fess my feeling towards anyone.

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Hi Tommy2k2,

i can confirm what you feel is normal.  however in this world of ours you cannot afford to throw your 'feeling' all around.  why,  the world is evil.  'the heart of men is evil above everything'.   your feelings will be misread, misinterpreted, not reciprocated.  you might even be hurt.  now you do not want that.  What then do you do.  Try to study books, articles written by relationship experts.  we go to school to read and write.  so we read about topics and issues of life.  relationship especially.

i was once like you.  everyone took me for granted.  i just loved the more until,

i met (through) reading this relationship expert Michael Lee.  I took his course.  I read his books.  now i am loved by all.  i even have one of the hottest guys in town!  Believe me,  How, click on http://pinurl.com/d85

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Somethimes it happens, but be careful. Try to control your feelings. If the other person dosent feel as strong as you do yet dont push him/her. It gets scary when you start making everything so intense at an early stage.

@ Hollandis mind yourself oh.

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use your spell check next time

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