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How Do You Encourage A Shy Guy?

There is this guy that was really into me but he really couldnt approach me.He kept telling my friend to talk to me and she kept telling him to do so himself. That was then, he never said a word to me and we remained friends. The thing is Im beginning to like him but I dont know if he still feels the same.

His reasons for not approaching me is that he feels I really wont respect him cos I have worked as a flight attendant before and he is self-employed . I was pissed when I heard that cos I felt he wasnt confident enough to approach me.

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Godmother,I think you know what to do but u just want endorsement form public opinion so u don't feel awkward. Follow your heart and get peace with yourself.

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[b][/b]u wuld av simply open up 2 him,,,we r in d 21st century

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wetin? why are you stalking me? u dey find my trouble?

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I am friends with Vpersie. His username and ip were disabled. His computer was also hacked into to prevent him from bringing proof forward. It is a banana republic on NL.

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^

I understand your feelin.

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Van Persie = walestar = dobodobo

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Waitin to see more. . .

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I have access to highly classified information from the database that stores the information. That is all I can said for now. I will be coming with more details as the days go by. This is going to be ground moving. Just wait and see.

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@Vpersie,

I fully believe the Michelin=Tudor part but I am not so sure about the others.

How did you conclude this? Is it with their I.P.s? It would be very shocking. Very very shocking if everything you said is true. Especially the Seun=becomrich. Because Seun has banned that user so many times for breaking NL rules. If it turns out that they are one and the same, we would be forced to ponder on the true mental state of N.L's owner.

Please proof. I'd have completely disregarded what you posted but you were on point with Michelin so I believe there is some credibility to your statement.

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[flash=400,400]http://www.youtube.com/watch=/v/WeYsTmIzjkw&ob=av2e[/flash]

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Sounds like he is lacking in social interaction. He just needs practice picking up women or telling them what he wants. It comes with practice and that builds confidence. Maybe your the one to teach him?

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I do not understand why you all find this hard to believe. Several people on Nairaland do this. My life may be in danger for exposing this but I will go ahead. Seun is the same person as Kobojunkie and Becomerich. Eze-Uche is the same person as Jarus and Ajanlekoko. Jakumo is the same person as Beaf, Kosovo, Davidylan, and dayokanu. Micellin99 is the same person as Tudor. And so on. I cannot believe that you guys are ignorant of the double personalities on Nairaland. I guess this is why Nigeria lacks the intellectual capital to move forward.

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When the guy is ready he make the move

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luv is very bold. so be bold and approach him

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try this website below for more info on how to meet a partner.

www.yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articled=4924&trackingID=526103&bannerID=678805

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Walk up to the guy and tell him, I like you and I know you like me; so what on earth is the problem? Being a shy guy myself I know this will work.

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No big deal encouraging anybody these days. A guy and a lady just hangs out with each other, eat fruitcake together, drink pure water together and before you know what's happening, they're refering to themselves as boyfriend and girlfriend. No question or answer. They just fall into a relationship. Except you want to know how to go about getting the fruitcake?

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[color=#990000][/color]THIS IS THE WORLD OF TECHNOLOGY, U HAVE YOUR GSM WITH YOU, MAKE USE OF IT. SEND HIM AN INTIMATE MSG BUT DONT USE, I LOVE U IN IT, THEN WAIT FOR THE REPLIES, IF HE IS INTERESTED, HIS REPLY WILL BE MORE INTIMATE THAN YOURS AND BY THIS YOU'LL GIVE HIM THE REASON TO COME UPFRONT

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this is the world of technology, u have your gsm with you, make use of it. send him an intimate msg but dont use, i love u in it, then wait for the replies, if he is interested, his reply will be more intimate than yours and by this you'll give him the reason to come upfront

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Now I gat yoo shy girl. You were forming big chick for him when u still have your said job "Flight Attendant" seeing all the Thief Thief Senator's etc etc, now no job u need him, hey Ara agbakwala gi ooo respect yourself I am not happy right now.

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Your liver dey fail you?

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POSTER,

YOU ARE FUNNY. DO YOU THINK IT IS EASY TO WALK UP TO A GIRL ESPECIALLY SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW AND SAY HI TO THEM? YOU HAVE NO CLUE HOW EXTREMELY HARD IT IS, NOT THAT I EXPECTED YOU TO KNOW BECAUSE YOU ARE A WOMAN.

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even though it is unsual in this side of the world for a woman to be duin d askin, if he really means much to you and u r being truthful about ur feelings then u shuld walk up to him. it cant be simpler than that.

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madam u are wasting ur time use ur friend as a middle woman abi na man.it solve all stress.

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OP-hw com it took u a yr to realize u likd him-i gues sum1 jst dumpd u or perhaps u r nt commandin ur usual attn frm guys or is playin hard 2get not workn

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I don't think we should encourage a shy person for a relationship, becos relationship is all about taking a best decision. The best you can do is to become the person friend, if you admire the person, which should give room to the person to express his or her self. If he really loves you, he will tell you anyhow, either by writing, buying gifts, or tell some one you respect so much, which may not be any of your close friends.

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there is no big deal in it. you can ask him out. it doesnt make u less a girl ok. my ex was the one dat asked me out. it doesnt mean anyting. go for him dear

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Come to think of it, how old is he? Well if you really have fillings for him just arrange with his friend to fix a date that three of you will meet, and during that meet after a few time the friend can live both of you to talk. then you can begin to ask him if he is really serous with what he told his friend. I think this can help.

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SMS him this:   "Getting bored" "I need to travel to be with friends at Abuja, its too boring here with no bossom friend to talk to"  the very thoughts that you are travelling and the fact that you said u got no bossom friend to talk to, will jolt him to open up.

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I use to be like that. I would bow down my face while talking to a lady even while in school. Maybe because of my beein churcheous or  coming from a disadvataged background.

But then one day it happend. This girl - my JAMB student in one of the extra mural classes- sent me a note. Guess what was in it

" I like you. You're a good teacher, godly and very knowledgeable"

That was it. As they say the rest is history. We became friends and today we are married. This happened about 8  years ago and I'm 32 today while she's 27 doing her final year in medical school.

The point - Some really good guys can ggrow up very shy due to many reasons. If you cannot be as bold as my student, now my wife did, you just have to create a meeting point and stylishly make your true feelings known

But let me warn you, this guy will need to read a  lot of motivational books and hear many teachings on self confidence. So you really have a great job to do in him. Why not invite him to ur church to get started

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Both of you are inlove, yet none is courage enough to approach the other. Such love last long in marriage.

I advice you get his number from the same friend of yours he has been sending,then send him an sms,the WORLD has gone GLOBAL a woman can also approach a man first. Or tell your friend to invite him to her house and she will bring yu along, in that way he will be the first to talk to you when you arrive in your friends place and your shy woman dignity will remain intact as you want it.

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If he Drinks buy him Alomo

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My ideas will proceed in one of two ways:

A.) If you have previously met personally:

Give him a random call someday and say you think it's a good idea if you guys meet up for a movie or lunch just to catch up on old times. When you see, dont say anything sweet, ACT it and leave the rest to him. If he is interested, he will say something. Whether he says something or not, disappear from his life after the date and let's see if he chases after you.

B.) If you have never met personally before now:

In this case, you need to organize the date with the help of your trusted friend. Tell her to TELL HIM that she thinks you guys could make good friends. Make it look like she is matchmaking the two of you without your consent. Then when on the date, follow the same advice as above.

I wish you all the best.

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^^ Are you by any way referring to me?

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BE CAREFUL GIRL! your so call friend might also be interested in the guy. so, if you can't tell him direct as woman concern VISIT HIM SEVERALLY, SHOW HIM SOME OF YOUR PICTURES you might even drop them with him, ASK HIM TO TAKE YOU OUT ANYWHERE, MAKE SURE YOU SEE HIM ALMOST EVERYDAY one day the guy would tell you HIS FEELINGS by all means. act fast before someone else takes what belongs to you.

DISCLAIMER NOTICE!

God forbid, if this guy disappoint you don't be annoy because it happens and you may not really know his mind because we are human we are funny. BE WARNED!!!

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Shy to approach each other? then use GSM (Phone)

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Shy to approach each other? then use GSM (Phone)

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Shy to approach each other? then use GSM (Phone)

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Two shy lovers what are coincidence,lmao!!!

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"why don't you just tell me you love me if you do? why are you keeping me guessing?"

That should do the magic just ask him the rhetoric question above in a feminine manner abeg you don't scare him

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Two shy fellows in luv? I NO FIT lAUGH 00000H!

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flash that thing in front of him; it will make him talk to you

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@AdeEunice

Shyness and Cowardice are two different things.

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Well, I'll just talk from my experience with someone.

Don't tell him he's too shy (u could say it mildly, but don't be too blunt).

Make him talk, don't always lead the conversation, help him to talk about himself.

Try as much as possible not to embarrass him

You could offer him little gifts and kind gestures (things like this usually matter to them a lot),

Don't make him face a crowd of your friends (two could be a crowd, take it one at a time, especially with the extroverts among your friends)

I guess you should help him get over his shyness and come out of his shell, cos every girl wants a bold strong man not a shy one who shows tendencies of cowardice.

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Get him drunk.

Alcohol is no respecter of anyone. If the guy high finish, He would toast you on national TV

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rooster and bull story , .

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There is no encourage a shy guy, if a guy loves/likes you he will put his shyness off and try to approach you. That is how a mess happens in a relationship, sooner or later you will complain he is not showing you love and he next thing he goes is, "you know I'm shy". Girl don't fall for the shyness or are you telling me he has never had a gf before

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