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How does a person get over an ex and move on, even after loosing contact for 2 years.

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The best way is get along with me. Have you ever heard this song, Do something new in my life, something new in my life,something new my life,today.Do something new in my life, something new in my life,something new my life,today, ;.;, so try to open ur heart to something new.

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I think two years is a hell lot of time to still be stuck on the past. . .I think your problem is not about you having the inability to move on. . .but its your unwillingness to open your heart to something new. . .you probably feel you can't love again or be loved (fear of the unknown)

The moment you decide to clean out your heart of all that is pasts(obviously you haven't done so) and open your heart to something new. . .then you'll see you'll get over him in a jiffy. . .

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Well topup tope, I agree with just about everything you said. All I can add is, get the ex out of your life and cut off all ties, period. it's for your own benefit.

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@kun been there done that it ain't worth it. I knew i'd hit rockbottom when at 23 pple know me for vomiting or a foolish drunk.Alcohol and cigarette takes away your problem temporary and gives you a new problem.Imagine getting a complimentary card from bat after succumbing to cancer saying Thank you for smoking.You don't need it.Trust me.Though i still take nicotine gum but it's effect is stronger than cigarette and expensive.

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Don't think im crazy but i picked up habits to get over my past relationships. i started drinking and smoking cos i wanted to forgety ba lady. I enjoy my kinda life now.

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Figure out what your lesson was with this person, and close the door. It isn't going to help you in the future to be focusing on the past. Your time in the present and the future is where your attention should be placed. Join a social group or a singles club. Or, join a group that supports a cause you are sympathetic to. You never know how many interesting people, or men, you will find who have the same interests. Above all, recognize that life doesn't begin anew by looking at the past. It begins with a sense of adventure and willingness to be in the present looking towards the future.

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@topup try watching vanilla sky till now am not sure if the events actually opened or he dreamt it.But it based on a book "open your eyes"which his alarm kept repeating.I think the producers were trying to hint us that it's all dreams.

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Lol, the type of films that when the end credits role, you're mind is frozen for a while. . as you try and make sense of what you've just watched and to get some sort of moral from it, but struggle. . I like films like that.

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@topup that candy movie really got me depressed.But it's nice.I love films that twist my mind

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Wow, is such a state achievable. You seem to have a lot of love in your heart, that's sweet. The perfect ex maybe.

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i hardly see reason to move on because i have never been static, if you want to leave me i will only try and hold you back for the feelings i have for you. but if you have make up your mind, i can only wish you best of all. she will still be my friend no matter what i can't stood low to judge her weakness and at the same time i will keep my head straight to find a better person the be the mother of my kids

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Hmm,i see we have love doctors in the house.

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If you haven't already devoted some time to think about your ex, do so now, because pretending like he never existed could be one of the reasons why he keeps popping up, 2 years later. Secondly, there is NO timeline, depending on how you connected with the person in the relationship, you may take even longer to get over him, or much much less.

You should be attempting to direct the focus from the ex to yourself. Make yourself your centre of attention, work on your personality, interests, traits, attitude towards life and how you deal with people.

If you're trying to move on so that you can find a much better replacement, don't try and focus too much on the replacement, but making yourself attractive in many ways to the opposite sex, most of all, please yourself first, because equally there are many people involved in relationships who would love to be single and free again.

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Awww man! That is so bad.As long as u keep seeing him,there ain't no way u'll get over him.But where there's a will,there's a way.Try n let him go(as hard as it is) n move on cos he probably has.Remember,u deserve to be happy.

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NO1, ARE YOU TRYING TO 4GET OR U JST FEEL UVE LOST SO U WANT TO 4GET

, 2ND STEP, <ONLY 4 PEOPLE TRYING TO 4GET>

DELETE ,DESTROY N CONFISTICATE ANY FORM OF CONTACT OR ITEM OF REMEMBRANCE, ''REMOVE SUCH PERSON 4RM UR FACEBOOK FRIENDS LIST''

, 3RD STEP, <ONLY 4 PEOPLE WHO ACHIEVED STEP 1>

FOR NAW ALL U THINK ABOUT IS THE PERSON SO, N ITS PROBABLY NATURAL,JST MAKE SURE AS U KIP REMEMBRING THE PERSON ALWAYS REMEMBER HE OR SHE WITH THE REALLY BAD ATTITUDES THEY HAVE OR THE REALLY HURTING STUVZ THAY MITE AV DONE TO YOU

, 4TH STEP,

ALWAEZ TRY TO ENJOY YOURSELF BECAUSE IF U TRY WITH BOOKS OR ANYTHING THAT HAS TO DO WITH CONCENTRATION ULL KIP REMEMBRING, BUT IF U DO USE STEP3,

, 5TH STEP,

DONT DO REBOUNDS, BUT GIVE CHANCES TO ADMIRERS, <MAKES U FEEL URE WANTED>

, 6TH STEP,

WHEN URE ASKED,ALWAEZ SAY I LEFT HIM OR HER, ALWAEZ SAY U WERE TIRED OF HIM OR HER, AND ALWAEZ TELL URSELF EVEN IF U DIDINT THAT U WERE THE 1 DAT BROKE UP,

THAT MY PRINCIPLE N IT HAS WORKED 4 ALOT, IF IT WORKS 4 U, LET ME KNW PLEASE,

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Every minute you waste is another opportunity missed.You don't want to wake up from bed married to a stranger asking yourself "what if".Trust me what if sucks.For the past 4years i've been asking myself what if i had ask *********** even till now i'm still asking what if.It's F@kin terrible.Hope you feel me.At least it either yes or no he can't shoot fire from his mouth and if he does.Mehn wrong calculation.

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Maybe you can give him another chance, see if he wants to try again

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awwwwwwwww.thanks every one, your advices rily made sense.

The only problem is dat most ov the advices will be difficult 2 apply. We are family frenz, we were frends b4 we started dating and right now his back. Bt i aint sure if he still wants a relationship. his number z in my head.lol

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Lol, Its very difficult. It depends. But you can start by stay far far away from the person. That way you guys wouldn't get to see and time will do the rest.

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Yeah it's a lovely and touching movie.Whats makes it cool is that the couples have real serious issues like jim never respects her and says things to get on her nerve after the procedure you can tell he has a no memory on his formal character and his new character is now kinda quiet and nice.Think of it if we had amnesia like 10 times our behaviour modification will differ from each one.Isn't that weird i mean i love pc,format my memory and my taste change i might love weed.Check out this line from the Mexican.

Julia roberts:when two couples are in love at what point does it get when enough is enough.

Brad pitt:Never,it never does.

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Thanks!  Thats deep am going to watch that movie.  Yeah I guess its possible falling in love with your ex again if you still love them.  Thats why sometimes you leave the door open , so the bird can fly back in  ,

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I know my post doesn't make sense but i recommend this film for you.Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.Okay let me narrate long story.Jim carey wakes up in the morning thinks his neighbour bashes his car and curses at him.At the train station he notices a particular lady looking at him.For no reason he enters the station and the same girl kate winslet is in the train she chats him up.Then they go out on a date lying on the floor she wishes they could do it all day.He drops at her house and encounters Elijah wood who questions jim's presence.Scene cuts now the next scene shows jim carey complaining to a friend about kate winslet wait a minute that doesn't make sense they just met.He complains that he got her a gift and she barely recognized him.The friend seeing jim in pain couldn't withstand it tells jim that kate winslet had an operation to delete him from her memories.Now the best part is jim carey can't stand the pain of losing his love opts for the same procedure.Then the film shows the relationship btwn them and how it went sour.Remember his bashed car he bashed it while chasing her to apologize.Now the strange part is elijah wood is part of the pple that erases memories and eventually lured kate winslet into going out with her by using jim's belongings.Cuz the procedure entails bringing things that reminds u of ur partner.Now during the procedure he's in coma instances of kate winslet start to disappear jim decides he no longer wants to go on with the procedure but it's too late.Now after the procedure the scene moves to first scene i described eventually after coming back from the date.Both assumed that they don't know each other but feel a strong connection till a girl sends tapes to each of them explaining that they were formerly lovers.At first jim thinks kate's messing with him when she plays the tape she met in her mail and hears her complaining about jim and her relationship out of anger he tells her to leave his car.Next scene shows kate showing at jim's house on getting there she meets jim listening to his own tape about her.They both feel bad about the event.Guess what they re-fall in love all over again.Sorry for this long story just wanted to share that sometimes memories of ex are part of things one should learn to appreciate.how would you feel if he didn't remember you at all.the fact you are no longer together doesn't mean you're enemies.

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for me best way to get over a guy is to get under another guy its the best you automatically just stop thinking about an ex

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@poster,

Wanna get over an ex huh?Just follow this steps:

1. Delete her number from ur fone(so u don't get tempted to call).

2. Try as much as possible not to be alone(cos all u'll think of is her).

3. Stop going to places that reminds u of her or doing things that u people to used to do(cos that's only going to remind her).

4. Get a hotter babe(this will take ur mind away from her).

But really in all this,if u really love her so much,you'll still not get over her.

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Delete her numba, throw away or burn anything that will bring back her memories, dont pick her calls, stop talking to her friends, start flirting, pray to forget her and pray for her to forget you too. . .

this works

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I think if you really love someone you never really get over them. Thats why I usually give the relationship a six month period of time to fix back up if someone ends it and I really love the person. As that way you make sure you have no regrets, if you really love someone you are not in a hurry to move on anyway. I would normally give it a few months if it was someone I really cared for and wanted to be with. If you move onto someone else they will never measure up to that person you really loved so there is no point really cause your heart won't be in it.

Its good to have closure too make sure you both really want to break up. If you didn't speak for two years are there still loose ends. Do you still love each other? I wouldnt let the person use you though as if they didnt make an effort to stay in touch or fix things two years ago they may not really love you anyway. Some times you never get over someone and every time you see them or you see reminders it hurts and you feel pain. Its like the day it ended a small part of your heart died. Thats when you really fell in love and there is no cure to that but with time it gets a little bit less painful and a little bit easier,

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The best way to get over an old romance is with a new one!

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lost interest in even dating, been single 4 2 years n aint even searching. And its hard 2 trust anoda dude.

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The best way to get over an ex is go into another relationship.

As long as you remain single, you would never get over him/her. The best solution is to learn from whatever mistake that led to your breakup, then look for someone else and begin afresh.

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WOW.dats kool. sounds tasking bt imma try.

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I have a way that I learned to get over an ex and it really did help me. Here's what you do: you picture your ex on a movie screen, not moving. Stare at it in your mind, then you see a small square picture coming out from the middle of the screen. The smaller pic is of you. The smaller picture gets larger and larger until it covers your ex completely. Do this over and over. This actually trains the brain to stop thinking of that person and it may help you put yourself first in the next relationship. Good luck. I know it can be difficult, I've been there!!

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