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How Esle Can One Say I Dont Want?

i love her, cared, even named her as the benefactor to my small asset. yet she left just few months to our walking the aisle. And at a time i was bedridden in the hospital.

Now she is back, i told her no i dont want again, she came back, i change my phone she got the new number from one of my friends, i moved to a new location she traced me to my new cribs, i introduced my new fiance when she was half Unclad because (she came unannouced sha) she said she understood she was the one who erred so she can be number two.

Something tells me she has something up her sleeves, even if not, i dont want. the love has long flown away with her deceit. Cant she get the message.

Please i need news ideas on how to get rid of this pest. (Dont advise me to bang her because i wont even get an Attention). she reminds me of the wicked step-mother in cinderela.

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yea, and always makes sure that there is ALWAYS someone around whenever she stops by or comes visits, (mostly make sure its your MALE friends, so that you can ALL hang out like BUDDIES and nothing more, she'll get the drift after a while, frequently use the phrase "oh boy, shey you want beer," always say "oh boy!" to her while calling your friends by their names.

If its your girlfriend there, you should both go to the room and just leave her there in the parlour or something, until she hopefully leaves.

I sympathize with her, its quite obvious that she sees that she's made a mistake.

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Thanx all

@posakosa

Its not as if i got angry becos she is ex, before her dere re oda exes and we are cool and still chat once in a while (irrespective of who let whom) not you wanna make a come when am in another relationship calling at odd hours of the night. call my house when i will be at work. And coming to visit by 7.00pm, when her house is at the oda end of town. i can see thru these strategy. if she feels am going to bed her that aint happening. becos next thing she will be crying foul and tell all especially my current lady.

I mean if you are the current lady will you tolerate these behaviour? Knowing fully well your man is saying sorry it can work am with someone else now. A couple of weeks ago my mum came visiting and she just pop in unannounce the old woman was like why did i invite her? All my family know her and her family very well and they put in words to her when she was leaving and i was broken but she wouldnt hear of it. SHe has gone to them to appologise and they all say okay we forgive you (except my mum) but her is the one that has the final say. I mean why am i so important suddenly? Well i dont want the answer i just want to be left alone. We can be friends with all the hi and hellos sometimes and if we ever got back together? so be it. But it wont be by bugging at all. She is mature so i expect her to act like wise.

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Value or no value. One thing I do know is that it is very important to be nice. Doesn't matter if shse is your ex, present or future wifey, even if you don't want her anymore, be NICE about dumping et. al.

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you never value what you have until they are gone

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@posakosa,u hv really spoken well,u can't underestimate the power of a lady.

i hv a scenario jst like Aejiro,bt i still invite her as a friend to my house knwing fully well that i hv a new GF,i still give her all she wants wenever she co-incidentally meets me,bt in my effort,avoids her most of the tyme.

i knw with tyme she wud forget me bt she insists that she won't get ova me til she dies,bt i knw it's all lie.i hv shown to her that i can play along if she wants.

Aejiro,she is a lady,the best u cud do is to avoid her.if u don't hv the heart to play like a playa.

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Why would you want to report her to her mother ? Was her mother there when you were shagging her ?

If you do anything evil to her, pray that you never come across her at any point in your life.

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Report her to her mama.

Bed her and do the most abominable things to her she wil run by force

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Eyaah, seven years is a loong time. I wish you and her well. But if you can cut her off [b]nicely [/b]do so. We dont' need any more enemies than we already have.

Of course, don't date the two ladies. You have to figure out ways to dismiss her completely, if she calls you, call her back immediately and then tell her you'll call her back later but never do and there are more things you can do.

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@ AEjiro

I wasn't implying that you were encouraging a direct confrontation in my previous post, i was trying to detest other posts advicing on your gf not being so friendly and, if u had settled down to actually read my post, you would have noticed i wrote; "Tell her how you coped" not "Ask her how she coped" or do they now mean thesame thing?

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nna you you are my kinda babe

that is exactly what am talking about

beat the poo outa her.

let it become police case.

you sleep in police cell for two days

the third day you bail your self.

omo you are free

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Trust me when I say this, HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED.

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You weren't unavailable when you met her. You bleeped her, you named her as a benefactor on your will. Now you're here on NL calling her a pest, 

As a matter of fact, I think that you're the one obsessed with her. You should be MAN enough to break up with her NICELY.

No wonder NIGGERS GET KILLED,  shoor! Waste of space

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That's the best way to get her off your back. If you keep trying to get her to understand that its over she just might intentionally misunderstand you. So do the ignoring trick and hope she's smart enof to get it

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You must be a wicked soul to come here to want to have others validify your erratic behavior,

EXES are human beings for christ sake and treat her just like you want to be treated. Changing your number will NEVER SOLVE YOUR ISSUE. You might meet her in the future, ooh the dangers of such!

No one wants to kill you, DO NOT ASSUME OR THINK THAT you are more than extremely important to her, I wonder what her side of the story is.

Apologize for any poo that you have done to her. I am not buying your story and I know that you are not the innocent one that you have come here to portray.

If I saw my ex-boyfriend today, Ill kill him. Not becuase I like him, but because of what he did to me. Treat people like you want to be treated.

Even in break up BE NICE!

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You are a very very very wicked guy.So selfish and self centered.Someone wants a bang and you are being a miser.And please don't kid me with that Attention thing.

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All I have to say is I hope you have removed her name form your will or as benefactor, if not please do that immediately.

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Might work with women with great exposure and patient tolerance. Judging it from a Nigerian perspective, no lady will agree to that and if the ex agrees to, she will only end up harming the current girl. The best way to it is, go talk to her where the both of them will be and no one else. They should spend as much time as possible to sort this out, or his girlfriend will be the one caught up in the peril

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I wasnt saying she shoud confront her, but she cant just allow anyone in. what if her intention was to harm her? how would i explain this to her people? this was my question to her and she was like it is rude to just ignore her at the gate and that one can neva tell the future that she maybe in a position to help her tomorow and capitalise on her actions today to pay her back. I dont care how she coped, she left becos she wanted to, so let her deal with the consequences. Am out she can go to her ND's and Jide's i dont bloody care. she can even date my damn brother she like comparing me with. He would be glad to shag her. its her call not mine. me i just need to set my biz in perfect order to get my wedding plans comenced.

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In my own opinion, don't encourage or allow direct confrontation btw your new gf and the ex, handle it yourself.

The next time she(ex) comes to your house, sit her down and invite ur new gf into the sitting room and in front of her, address the issue, tell her(ex) how you coped when she left b4 you started the new relationship and make it clear that your luv 4 her has faded without a trace and that u luv ur new gf and are not ready to compromise that. You can offer her friendship if you can handle it or better still, tell her u don't want her calls or her visit, she shuld move on, then you usher her out (or not) and remember, no yelling. Good luck.

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BE NICE!~ Sit down and talk with her. BE MATURE. She's a human being just like you.

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D very second i got over her, the 1st call i made was to delete every link starting from my will. who wants a snake in my will?

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Just the way you said it "I don't want"

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My dear just keep ignoring her; when she realise that her biological clock is ticking faster than usual, she would stop wasting her time with you and look for someone else.

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i will never advise u to make up wit her!!!

u av been trying bro cos i know it aint easy. Just keep keeping ur distance and God will see u thru. Ex can be so powerful and adamant even if u write it out in black and white that u areno longer interested.

Furthermore, make ur girlfriend understand she should never allow her in in ur absence. That could be dangerous. Maybe if ur girlfriend is not so friendly, she will understand the message.

best of luck

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even the wicked step mother got banged a few times. lol

well i just think u shud sit her down and tell her as it is.

u dont love her no more, and even if u got feelings,

they wont make u take a wicked good for nothing Dam back into your life.

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Bro i have warn, treatened and shouted. she jus keeps coming back.

My new gf is even asking what i was giving her then that am not give to her to warrant this hot pursuit. the last time i came hot found my gf in the kitchen with her in the living room. jus went in to gf never to allow her in ever again.

If she left anytin i didnt move with dem. i left allot of tins in d former place. She wants to complete her assignment, she ll definately fail.

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Lol.

Exactly how you've typed it.

''How Else Can I Say I Dont Want''?? Eh (add her name)

or better still quote TERRY G's

FREE ME!!!

I no do again no be fight and you had berra run. Lose contact, Warn her never to call/text/vist ya home anymore, you dont have/want anything to do with her. She should pick up whatever is left of her pride and get a hold of her stalking self.

Brova, i tell ya if you lay with dem gurl youll regret it for sure.

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She is HUMAN. Treat her just like YOU want to be treated. ok?

Treat her like you want your sister or momma to be treated when they're BFs or husbands take a hike.

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