Guys, I'm a little lost here and I would appreciate your responses a lot. I broke up with my boyfriend over four months ago. Actually, we were supposed to have parted ways long before that as my ex gave me all the signs that he'd lost interest in the realtionship.I guess I was so blinded by love that I didnt "see" the signs.
On several occassions, he asked me to get involved with another guy. The first time he suggested this was a year to our break-up. And I cried buckets full that day. Anyway, it happened a lot and I started ignoring him whenever he asked me to do that. On other occassions , he would ask me if I thot we were meant to be together and I would reply in the affirmative. He would then suggest we break up for a little while and ask how long we would stay apart.
With all these signs, he still assured me everyday that he loved me desperately and I was his first love (story). He took me to see all members of his family, even the ones outside Lagos.
Few months back, he started seeing faults in EVERYTHING I did; even the sleeveless dress I had been wearing for over 2 years he had known me suddenly became "unwife" material-like. He complained about some other little things and I promised to change them , but he told me it was too late, that, if I had promised to change some months back, things might have worked out.
I met his elder sister to plead on my behalf. He told her to giv him a week to think tins through. At the end of that week, he sent me a txt telling me to forget him and move on with my life.
All these happened at a period when I lost my dad and my job. Twas a horrible period for me. I later got to find out he was dating a colleague from his office , but I put that behind me and moved on.
Two mnths ago he called for the fiirst time and was shocked wen I didnt drop the phone on him. He calls and sends txt messages. Recently, he called and said he still loves me but is confused. Personally, I hav no feelings for him anymore and I dnt mind being friends with him, but the tone and message of his calls sometimes irritate me and I'm thinking of cutting him off completely.
I have never been friends with any of my exes and I dnt just know exactly what to do. Do I cut him off completely or just sit back and listen to his rambling anytime he calls.