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How Long Should Courtship Last?

Hi all, just want to hear your views on this!

"For how long  (duration) do you think you will have to court your intended partner before marriage?" Or maybe I should rephrase the question as "what is your ideal time length for your courtship/relationship before marriage?"

Some people have suggested a minmum of 3 months while some say minimum of 2 years. What do you think personally?

As for me, I'm particularly uncomfortable with long relationships. Anything more than 1 year seem to be getting too long for me.

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2 years is good enuff. for me, 1 year is the minimum, i dnt believe in rushing. a few mnths less than 12 is a very short time frame to say that you have studied someone and want to stay with them for the rest of your life. dnt make that mistake of marrying a stranger

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No matter how long you court,if any of the party decide to hida any secret u will not know. so long courtship is out of it. 6months shld be the maximum

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2 years makes you know all you wanna know about him/her

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No time frame.It can last for a second it is ur choice,100yrs ur choice also.

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courtship can last till thy kingdom come if both parties are happy with it

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It should last at least a year.

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It all depends on the individuals involved, I know of people who have dated for less than six months, and still happily married. And on the other hand, I know of cases where they courted for years and their marriages are disasters. In other words, know the 'dog' you have and train him or her well, Just ma 2cents,

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6 month minimum

2yrs maximum

i think oo

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between 6 months to a year plus any less or more is tempting fate,

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Certainly not for a life time.

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Hi.

Three months;that is when it is best to strike it,after this time relationship start to loss steam.you start seeing his or her fault like mad.

True:you can choose a life partner five Mn's of reAL discussion.

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Ten years should be okay, just kidding. It depends on you and the relationship.

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Two weeks,two months,two years,two centuries.As long as dat is wot it takes 2 understand each oda.

Some even don't do courtship & d marriage lasts!

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Just hate the idea of long courtship.

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There is no specific time frame that courtship should last.

Just follow what your heart tells you and pray concerning the matter.

You should also discuss it with your partner.If both of you can establish

that you are compatible then go ahead.

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as long as you understand your partner a bit not all, cos you will never marry him/her if you really wants to know all

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it should be as long as and as short as d two will need to know what neccessary abt each other

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get to know what God is saying in the first place before making any proposal.as far as am concerned, people should be patient enough when it comes to marriage,it's not for boys and girls.much time is needed to really prepare.true love can always be patient. however long is not necessary but true love that exist among the two parties.the problem is that every attention is focused only on consumation instead of on the institution of marriage proper. i think there is more to marriage than what many think, please take your time,understand each other,plan and get prepared cos children must as well be cattered for,marriage no be small thing o

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nikitareal TRUE TALK!!!!!!!!!!

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a good marriage doesnt depend on the length of the courtship.u cld date someone 4 6 mnths,if u r lucky,u wld end up in a good marriage.u cld court 4 5 yrs n at the same time marry the wrong person.so d length of the coutship doesnt matter at all

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Really length do not matter as far as you two can reconcile your character and tolorate each other cos you are from two different background.

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Me i think 18 years minimum, so that you can study her primary, secondary ,ND, Bsc and MBA character and obtain a masters degree in the study of your fiancee. No matter how long you take to study a woman she woul not reveal her full self to you until,

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wen u ave taken time to kno each other and decide tie the big knot.u got to kno the kind of person u want to marry,so u dont have problems later in the marriage.

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I agree 700% percent with this one.

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My analogy is this and please you college people out there correct me if I'm wrong.

It takes a student ONE SEMESTER or TWO to finish a course (e.g. chemistry)

OK, if it takes almost one year to study and pass a course, what makes you think you can study a person and find out if he/she is the right person for you in 1-3 months!

Divorce statistics will only keep going up.

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That explains divorce in pentecostal churches. That must be it.

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But ain't we forgetting something here, smartsoft, delay is dangerous.

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well i would rather say if you are ready to marry your partner then u can court for long.. don't see notting wrong with that.

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As a christian i would say 6 moths to a year

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As long as you think and feel you 've known the person very well

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If courtship is the period between when the babe agrees to marry you (after the guy has proposed) and the time it takes to do the wedding, then I think that period should be very short 1 to 3 months depending on how fast you can put all the arrangements in place.

Now if relationship on the other hand is the period of time it takes to woo the babe, start dating to the time you ask her to marry you, then the period of time is variable as there are so many factors involved.

The problem most guys have is that from the first day they meet the babe they start proposing and telling her they want to marry, that to me is crap, never promise what you can't deliver, and you can't deliver if you don't know the babe that is why you need to date first. How long you date depends on the parties involved.

I strongly believe that by the time a man ask a babe to marry him he has already made up his mind and decided that this is his life time partner as such there is no need for further delay just get married as soon as possible.

A guy should never ever promise a babe marriage if his intention is just to sleep with her and move on, it is totally deceitful, unacceptable and unforgivable

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25 years. just kidding. just felt like taking a mickey out of some people today

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Since its courtship, i.e she has agreed to marry you - what next? Wedding preparations and other intimate marital talks.

Minimum 6 months, maximum two years.

Bear in mind, other partinent factors which could vary from individual to individual.

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i do not know. never thought about it b4.****dipest what do u think.lol

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I would advise b/w 6 mths to 1 yr. But it depends on a lot of things. For instance, the levels of one or the two of them i.e either working or not, one party schooling, etc.

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Depends on a lot of things...

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You will never know all about your to be, if thats why you want a long courtship, so i say just get on with it when you have what you need to do it.

Long courtships dont guarantee a long and happy marriage, so whats the point?

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Courtship should refer to when the relationship is already on. That is after she has said 'yes' to your marriage proposal. I don't believe in wasting time either; it is not compulsory for you to wait until you're ready to start 'breeding' before you get married! The moment you're ready to combine your life together, do it.

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When you say courtship.. are u implying that the relationship is already on??

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I will say tht it depends on both party,

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Dont believe there shd be a time frame for this

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Too long courtship might be boring at times because even when you court for 100 years you can't be sure you know everything about your partner. There are some things about your partner you'll get to know even after the wedding so I don't really see any sense in long courtship. Being in courtship for long might be due to some circumstances, but I think two years is not that bad.

I leave the rest to Nairaland members.

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