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How Nice Should I Be To Someone Who Jilted Me?

he walked out of the relationship without a backward glance and now he is trying to be friendly. wat do i do? need your candid advise dear friendz

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REVENGE is like you drinking poison and expecting someone else to die,so just forgive him and move on with your life.

It wasn`t mean`t to be.

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very true o,but sometimes we just can`t help it.

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just forget hi Bottom. When you see him pretend you have never met him. No time to hear why he broke up coz honey he did lv after all. No time to he his victim twice. Life is too short. Just forget he ever existed. If he says hi, you say bye

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hey gurl,dis z all abt u n wat u want.b4 acceptin 2 b frends wit d guy,reason out his gud n bad attributes,can u stand being deceivd lured in2 a relatnship den dumpd again?cos dats wat most guys though nt all, do.wish u d bst

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dont even try it because season to dey always bad pass season 1 for movie and remember life's like a movie once u try it the she comes back wif full force knowin all d weak pts and workin hard on it damn it might take u another 20yrs be4 u know wat u r into becose gals always wanna get even wit em men watch out else u get hit by a mack moving @ 180 mtrs per min

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Well you can be as nice a mouse is to a cat. This is a proverb, hope you get what am trying to pass across.

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you guys can be friends but don't allow him to get closer to you just watch him from aafar and know what he wants.maybe he has changed for good or still his old self.all the best.

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not da least bit nice

infact be very mean 2 him what does he take u 4?

dont give him da feeling dat u want him back

he left u without a backward glance,whats his beef now?

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You are still in a fragile and vulnerable mood right now, so you should minimise all contact with him. If you are going to talk to him on the phone, make sure the conversation is very brief and straight to the point. If he wants to see you, suggest you meet in a public place and this too should be a short meeting. Ensure all contact with him is on your terms, and stick to it.

Anything further than this would be inviting trouble and could create a "sex with the ex" situation which will hurt more if he leaves again. Don't allow him to take advantage of you, otherwise it would become a situation of why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.

If he wants to be your friend, fine, but you really have to be strong before you allow him back into your life and make sure it is on your own terms.

If he wants to get back with you, start off as friends first, using the opportunity to find out why he left in the first place and whether he would not do the same again. If you have any feeling to question the reasons he gives you as to why he left, make sure your heart is satisfied with the answer before you take the plunge. Don't make any excuses on his behalf. For example, It is common for girls to make excuses for men like maybe he didn't call because he was busy, he doesn't take me out because he's not the romantic type, etc. Always let him explain himself annd make sure your heart is satisfied with the answer.

A word of advice I always give to my friend is that A BUYER WOULD NEVER PAY MORE THAN A SELLER IS DEMANDING. This simply means that when you go to the market, you never pay more than the cost price, instead you try to get the seller to reduce the price. The same is true for men, never lower your standard for them and don't let them get away wiith not treating you right, as once they start, they would never stop, because they have the assurance that "she loves me and she will never leave no matter what i do.

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cant try dat wahalaman thanks for the post

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jilt! man just bone the person for life,the person doesn't worth it...man or woman

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i wont be so daft to be won back to him cos now i know better, but you do have a point i think about him so often but its really not wat you think all i think about is revenge i need to get back @ him somehow

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thanks guys for your response been indisposed thats why i havent been able to reply and answer your questions but i try as much as possible to do just that since i'll be online all day today

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Old friend is like yam's head(isi ji) which can easily bounce back when planted in the farm. But this is not ment for a cheater when he comes back,may be you are now richer or he sees a promising future in you,he is coming back for something.

Don't listen to his sweet words.That his bad character will still be there unless by the Grace of God.

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Lol...thats what i'm talking about.

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Your heart is saying something to you now, may be you want to listen to your heart but if it is being nice to someone who dumped you, it all depends on what you mean by being nice... Just keep your eyes Open . if the person have true repentance, yeah u can give him one last chance. Always be ready to move on if he wants to make it a habit. You deserve a better life... abi?

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I would rather take it from this perspective. If you become friends with this guy, be ready to be won back to him. This is someone whom you once shared something with and for you to have shared something with him and feel the pain this much, then being his friend means you could be vulnerable to his talks.

Ask yourself if you really want to be his friend now.

Secondly, define the level of the friendship.

Whether you believe it or not, if you hate someone so much and think about him often, he rules a great portion of your life.

Think!!!

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It depends. Have you gotten over the bad feelings yet?

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Hello truthhurts, since he is being so friendly, now would be a good time to ask him why he did what he did to you that's if you can hold off long enough from hating him so much, you might be able to get that settled and eventually stop hating him so much and move on or be his friend, you control all of that not him no matter what he has done to you in the past. Don't give him that much power over you, it isn't worth it.

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u guys can be friends trust me its cool.never be in enemity with one u sometime love.try and be good to him,it will hurt him for a long time and he will end up being a good guy someday if he gets into a relationship. he will realised wot he has missed in the long run.i am good at this so if u need an expertise advise,consult me and i will be willing to render at FOC!!!!

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u guys can be friends trust me its cool.never be in enemity with one u sometime love.try and be good to him,it will hurt him for a long time and he will end up being a good guy someday if he gets into a relationship. he will realised wot he has missed in the long run.i am good at this so if u need an expertise advise,consult me and i will be willing to render at FOC!!!!

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Well they say "a vacation is what u take when u can no longer take when u've been takin"....Well he took the vacation and maybe now he's tired of it...But i'll adviceyou to be matured about this whole thing but then dont go too close for a whyle...

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@truthhurts you can be nice. we have all done one bad thing or the other before. imagine u were the one who jilted someone, would u like the person to be nasty to u later when u r kind of sorry for what u did?

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...man scratch all of that you should be as mean as possible!!!

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I think he has a hidden agenda......since u hate his guts, i think you should walk it girl! of course you are allowed to b civil...erm only when it suits you.

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naijadiva WORD!

Truthhurts... just like ur name said.. the truth hurts.

Normally, i think it's cool when you are still friends with your ex's... that's a good thing to do. No strings attached.. just be friends. But then again, you have to think about the cause of the break-up. If your dude broke up with you for no reason at all.. and you actually hate his guts like you said. It wouldn't be a good reason to do what your mind tells you not to do.

On the other side, you can be nice to him.. but being nice does not mean being TOO nice. Just talk to him, pick up the phone when he calls.. don't give too much attention. Just let him know.. "i ain't mad at you, but that don't mean im gon be your dog". that kinda thing.

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If you hate his guts, then why be friends with him? Just because he wants it? What about what you want? Do you know why he walked out on the relationship? If it's because he's a dog, he's probably trying to find some way back into your life. If you want to get over it, confront him and find out why he did it. When you've found your peace of mind, move on and forget him. I don't think you should be friendly with him only because in most situations like that, people end up messing around again and they're probably not even in a relationship this time. Feelings get involved and someone ends up getting hurt.

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If U hate hsi guts that much......walk away or get ready to be sucked back in....and of course.....left again!

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Well I wish you goodluck

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i wish its dat easy, i hate his guts

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I think you can still be friends with him if you really want to.

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