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How open can you be in a relationship knowing that your partner does not like secrets and also at the same time gets jealous easily. Is it advisable to always share experiences with ur partner or keep them to yourself?

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Anyway the email addy is chesylv@yahoo.com

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you posted it somewhere, anyway, if u r still in SLC let me know, then I can post my email addy if u want, if not, that's cool too. thanks.

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This message is for Uche2nna guy who I think is currently in SLC. I don't know how the PM on this site works, but I will be moving to SLC the end of September and will be working there for a year. I wanted to ask you about the Nigerian Community there if it exists or even the African community there. I hope you read this, just respond to this post with tips if you know on how to send a more private msg, I will come back to check. Tnx!!!

Aq

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I appreciate ur different opinions and i get the message!

Thank u all for being there.

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How open can I be?

well, more than enough but not so much.

Whats my secrete stays my secrete.

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lol, sorry, c-kid started it first

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yeah, sorry i just have 2 run away from that your shrine house. newaiz i can hear u from my house, oya talk

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Acidrop are you there?

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@ Acid drop Please I am also pleading on bealf of my brother , as crazy as he might be, dont leave the shrine ooops house!!!!

@CK

 long time oooo. How u dey?

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@Acid ropWait Wait Wait Please.

You see you have to take things easy here ok step by step.

we're friends no doubt so if you want our friendship to grow, then you have to excerise patience and let it grow ok?

If you leave now, what would you gain?

Uche long time

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work something out, dude, am in ur doorstep about 2 take a leave,

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wait a minute, crazykid, the shrine is in your house right? abeg no use jojo 4 me oooo

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i really dont care if there is anything between u and free. trust me i dont.

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Oh! Sorry A-drop, Crazykid wassup with the Free/Somze thing?

Bury ur hatches and embrace peace both of you.

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Hey Adic comon don't leave.

Why are you getting youself worried over irrelevant issues?

If you must know, there's nothing with me and free.

I might have been stalking her, but she won't accept my proposal. So you see, there is nothing between us.

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Then stop being jealous about free ok?

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marlet y u laughing, this aint 4nny no more.

@crazykid wassup with somze, i swear i hardly chat with him, infact i havent

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I hear you.

Free is also a Nairaland user

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a nairalander, y? i hardly chat with him

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haaa, dude u sure free would not kill me so

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No.

We're in my house

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i know they are pretty scary, lol

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this dude like that, i was sooooooo freaked out. so i swore never ever 2 put my pic up again

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Awwwwww

I didn't hear o! Who did that to you?

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we dont even have one, am trying to create one, fine ur go

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Why all the talk about free?

why not concentrate on our discussion

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think about what? where is free anyway?

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Well let's change the topic and leave this supersticious talk what do you think?

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huuuuuuuuuuuuuhh, u are so scary, n supersticious

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ooo, know u wont, i get bodyguard

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watz with all these blackamils

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well u necesarily dont have to tell him secrets that has nothing 2 do with ur relationship, i mean, u know wont hurt or benefit ur relationship.

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just let out as much as u're able 2 witout startin a fire and if ur partner's more broadminded, let it all out

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ok according to @crazykid definition some personal secrets are buried soo deep in my heart/mind its never going to see the light

some i will definitely reveal its no biggie so @topic if you ain't comfy with revealling some of your issues to your partner , then [b]mum [/b]is the word and keep it moving

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There are different kinds of secretes.

1 Personal secretes: Theses involve delicate issues that concerns you as a person. It might be something about your past that if you decide to reveal it – it might affect your relationship. Such secrets are meant to be buried deep down in your heart regardless of how much you love and trust your partner.

2. Open secrets: These involve minor secrets that can be easily forgiven. They are not so serious and are easily forgiven if you open up to your partner and share with him/her.

So what am trying to bring out is that if you know deep down in you that your secret is capable of wrecking your relationship, then keep it to yourself.

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I'm a very open and honest person. But the truth is that I don't talk too much because I'm never sure when honesty stops and where gossip begins.

It's that thin line that keeps me cautious. But if I believe am not overstepping that boundary, then I can be totally open.

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well it depends on the kind of relationship am in and how committed I am in that relationship. I and my ex had this thing where we promised each other no secrets and that made it the best relationship that I have eva had. Even at times when it seemed like it was going to break the relationship,, at the end of it all it was worth the telling.

So yes I would, in a committed relationship, bare all to my partner. It is the only way forward to a successful relationship. its the most beautiful thing. You become morphed into each other and that makes the partnership strong and you can stand against the world together head on!!!!!

u no wat i mean?

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@ acid

@ crazy kid

I simply asked for your candid opinion not to chat up each other.

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Alrigh let me start askinf you questions who is somze?

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