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How To Deal With A Cheating Boyfriend?

Guys please tell me what is the best way to handle a cheating boyfriend, do you ignore it, especially if you know he loves you so much.

Normally i would not condone cheating but in this case i am confused because he has proved his love for me several times, but recently from a few things i observed i believe his is cheating.

I am not just coming to that conclusuion i know what i am saying, so please guys, tell me , is this something that will go away, should i ignore this, will this go away? Please be realistic in your answers.

Thanks

Happy new year everyone

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the fact that he cheats on u is not an issue, for love of God he is a man,,

the most important thing, is the fact that he LOVES U. simple

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Y d heck shd a man cheat on me, dt jst means 1 tin.,he hates me, finish

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He is cheating cos he is bored with the relationship. Spice the sex life up by sleeping with his father or brother.

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wow I didn't realize how old this question was lol

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I don't understand why everyone is being so hateful to this lady concerning this problem. First, I'm sorry that he cheated on you. I'm going through the same thing right now. But everyone does have a word of truth concerning this issue. Hun, if he really did love you and cared and respected you, he would never cheat. Whenever this happens and no matter how much we really do love them and can't see ourselves moving on with our lives, we have too. Not only because the trust will never exist again. Could you really imagine trying to live out your life always having to look over your shoulder wondering if he is cheating? Also because we deserve so much better. The person that you are meant to be with will never make you wonder whether you are good enough and or if he is out looking for other women.

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break up with him. what is there to deal with

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i guess there is a diffrence between cheating and having sex, so which one are u asking?

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Aisha2,

try ensure that you don't leave your laptop in the office if you must activate automatic log in at all. That way, you could be on safe side.

By the way, why would any crab head use other people's id to post message without permission. Whatever, whichever, it is okay.

Don't bother about him/her. It is a blessing in disguise.

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Aisha2,

try ensure that you don't leave your laptop in the office if you must activate automatic log in at all. That way, you could be on safe side.

By the way, why would any crab head use other people's id to post message without permission. Whatever, whichever, it is okay.

Don't bother about him/her. It is a blessing in disguise.

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A Cheating Boyfriend is a Cheating Boyfriend, there's really no excuse for cheating,

My dear, it is left 4 u 2 deal with, he cheats on u now, he will if u end up married, trust me,

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@Aisha2

i just got your response now

You need to uncheck all those boxes that sign you in automatically. Its sometimes not advisable

Neways, its all Gud

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@Almondjoy

for real, lets wait for aisha2 to respond.

I for once was surprised that such a post came from her and if shes coming out to say someone bugged her . . .

@Aisha2

are you saying the person knew your YIM password and NL password?

If thats the case, my sister, they will soon take all your money in your bank for real.

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Olanajim, thanks so much for your concern. Found out what happened, am automatically signed on to both Nairaland and my messenger address when my computer is swicthed on.

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Almondjoy,

Good Monday!

Well let wait till she reply to ascertain if her username was actually used or a new one. It could be that her password was bugged. At anyrate, no damage yet. Aside from that, I see the hand of someone close.

Ojoro thread? At what gain to the impostor? It is sheer waste of time.

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Aisha, I must tell you that someone knew your password. I was surprised to see the post too but I assumed that you were rushed down to work by your boss.

During last week, your YM was on and off on it own. I left message there but no reply which is unusual. I thought you were busy. If you didn't see my messages, then something is wrong. A spyhole to say.

Last year, someone actually replied my mail to your YIM when you are supposed to be out. I knew you were out because you told me. The fellow said you went out and I told the fellow that I am aware of that. Later, your YM was off.

Try change the password today to avoid being used for fraud. Fortunately, it is possible.

Happy new year. Chat you on YM later.

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cheat! cheated!! cheating??

abeg make we hear word.

most men cheat its just that the women dont like to admit and accept that fact.

it takes two people to carry out the act so dont just blame the men.

the women whom they do it with also are people' girlfriends or spouses.

married men do it what more the boy friends.

its just that when he's not yet been caught in the act,u assume he's saint paul.

if u've not caught him/her,then their faithful

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My dear, am really worried oh, left my Laptop in the office because i didnt want to be distracted, Whenever i am on line i always try to contact Olanajim, so he should know that i have not been around, the last time we communicated was a day to Christmas, since then I have not been able to Access the net. I am asking around in my offfice to find out who used my computer.

I tire oh. This is seriuosly embarassing.

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Hey, you all. I just resumed work today from a long break, When i saw the post i was suprised that because

1. I was in a place where there was no GPRS or internet connectivity

2. I broke up with my boyfriend sometime ago and i am not rushing into any relationship

To say am shocked is an understatement. Anyway happy new year sha.I dont want to believe someone knows my password.

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@Aisha2

hope ure gud now?

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but we cant be too careful, you know that?

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Have you ever seen or worked with an HIV+ or AIDS victim before?  I say it is not worth it at all!!!!

Yes ooooooooooooooooooh, I am scared.

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hahaha

what are you scared of?

really it should, the world aint safe.

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I don't even care about the emotional aspects of the cheating.  The health risks are my main concern. Not in this day and age.

Abeg oooooooooooooooooooooooh!!!!!

Say wetin happen?

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For me, I don't deal with person who tells me a lie that he loves me more and still is constantly cheater/womanizer/player---i dump him instantly to move on.

Cheater is Cheater, ALWAYS!

@poster

You can do that using pre-marital precaution scale as @olanajim has said it all at above that is helpful tool for yourself in the quality of anti-heartbroken protection.

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are u saying u didnt post that thing? cos i was a bit worried that came from you. . .you need to read what some dunderheads said about u.

Hope ure gud? enjoy the brand new year!!

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i've always wondered though, for those that are married, if your husband or wife cheated on you, what did you or what would you do? did you work things out or straight up seperate? it's so easy to say one would leave a spouse's trifflin Bottom if they cheated, but i'm just curious to know, how have people handled it? by no means should it be accepted in my opinion, but i want to know from our married people in the house, how did ya'll go about the issue? i'm trying to be realistic here because no marriage is perfect, and there would come a time when 1 of you might be tempted to "step out" on the other. so, what do you do to prevent that? reasonable and mature answers only, please and thank you.

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Aisha,

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Hmmm the topic is extra sensitive. But I would have to read from start.

For now, let me summarise the experience of the people I studied.

A cheating boyfriend can change and can never change. Same for cheating husband. Only you can read his level of perversion.

If he can't change, you would settle for one of these two options after marriage:

1. He would be polygamous. He would bring another lady home later when you are already late in leaving.

2. He would steal time out and cheat on you behind you or even before you but may not be polygamous. To such, don't be surprised if after decades of marriage, you are presented with the product of his extra marrital affairs. This could be kids, or STIs.

On how to handle him. I would give you some options to choose:

1. Pre-marrital precaution:

measure his level of perversion. Since you know him better. On a scale of 5.

Level 5 is the extreme case, irredeemable,

Level 4 is advanced case, redeemable but too stuborn to reform;

Level 3 is redeemable but willing to reform albeit slowly;

Level 2, is mild case needing your attention.

Level 1 is amateur just sowing wild oats.

0 is a mere case of unfounded suspicious.

Now rate your man. If he is at level 3, Yellow card. put marriage on hold and have word with him before he graduated upward. If at level 4, find someone who know him well to give you honest assessment of his stubborness. Check out if he is irredeemable. 5, is straight Red card.

Level 2 is tolerable he could change if you do right the thing.

Level 1 is in every man. Just keep watch over him.

Level Zero is your problem, not his.

Surely, you would find answer to the premarital cheating here.

As for marrital cheat, later.

Enjoy your weekend.

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Aj, they are sex-crazed! Sex is such a dangerous drug. We should abstain from it like I did for 16 years before giving in.

We have nothing left to say. Although there are more males than females in this forum, I am glad to see that women are speaking loudly. As an 18 year old emancipated chocolate, sleep addict, I say "long live bold women".

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AJ, those women might stick with cheats but they cheat as well. Anyway you are right. That Aisha should really learn to love herself before *has forgotten the remaining part*

Goodluck!

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boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

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Dont you think you should try another b/friend

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@ thief of hearts,

too bad i'm not one of those who make u feel like u've got a pretty face.

if u've got some admirers good for you.

afterall monkey no fine but e resemble somebody,

and dont talk about english language cos i'm light years ahead of u.

written or oral.

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You people are easily amused.

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When you are able to construct sentences correctly then you can direct your posts to me, until then I suggest you just ignore me while I'll do the same.

These are the same morons that come on my IM bothering me with lame lines of "wanting to know me better", now they want to run their mouths to spew rubbish. Better be quiet before I expose all of you.

"bennygee", can't get cornier than that. Ode.

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@thief of hearts,

you swear and curse too much.

you really dont sound lady like

more like a trader who's had a bad day at ojuwoye market.

pls keep a tab on your mouth or just keep quiet abeg

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A cheating guy may change, a cheating guy, may never change.

U have two options,1. stay & hope he'll change/ live with it. 2. pack ur bags. Its pretty difficult to do the 2nd tho, but might be the best option.

Their r stories tho, but i'll tell u the good one. I have a friend that hoped her guy would change from his cheating attitude, then at school i told her she was too young to go thru such, we told her several times to leave him but she stayed put, saying she can't give it up. But good for her when the tables turned, she was just too sure of him. But believe me she worked hard & the guy is good. His the one doing the chasing now, they r tying the knots this year.

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its amazin how we digress from issues when we personalise everything we see or read, damn, its just a forum where pple xpress their opinions no matter how depraved it sounds!

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@poster ---- have you being able to pick from the good advice and what is the outcome, tell us ooo if the guy finally change or still cheat so we all no what to do,  Remember prayer change things let put the guy in pray if he still dwell in a cheating life ok,  Or you can also take him to a white garment church were they will use KOBOKO beat that cheat off him . atleast cheat once a week is ok sha for me ooo

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do you see life, Esan whe khin!!

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Girl, there is no way that he would like u and cheat on u over and over again - i dont care if he gave u his kidney.

Girl u deserve better, u deserve for someone to want u and treat u like a human being.

Come on now!

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@ hench mark

What can't beauty do? So have you forgotten how you insulted her? Don't think that praising her beauty you'll get back your eputation. You are a disgrace to all the men in this world.

I am sure you are the type that cheats on your girl and beats her up when she asks why. Bastards are known by their words.

Next time, kok'unu!

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hi sis, you are prettier than these abusive words you spill on every post , try to be a bit more courteous okay, it beautifies a lady.

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