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How To End An Affair? (I'm Married)

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carry ur cross. u were the one that put ur thing in her toto so I don't have 2 give u an advise 4 ur sins. just do the right thing.

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Which one be confide in your wife again? Abeg leave the OP alone, it's always better not to re-open healed wounds.

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^^^What the f**ck is this picture doing here or is she the lady being discussed?

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Guy if you love your wife and your family forget that woman, she came to destroy your home

Women are desperate to settle down don't mind her please

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its true that most naija men sleeps around or have a fling outside their marriage. 1st solemnly ask God 4 4giveness then confide with ur wife no matter how she reacts but see to it that u are the cause of ur predicament and work hard towards being faithful to ur wife, family and GOD at large.

to all men out there: it starts 1st with a decision to stick with only 1 partner, being concrete on such decision and working hard to fulfil such decision, i know its not easy but its 100% possible!

thanks

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I am happy to read the fact that u hv moved on,i am married and i undastand what the situation could mean with babes lik dis.lik u rightly said alot of 'us' do dis thins but na who dem catch b 'tif'.u hv taken a good step to allow her to move on while u hv done same.stick to ur decision and neva neva look back.

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The Bible says if my people who are called by my name should humble themselves and pray, and turn from their wicked ways then he will hear them and he will heal their land.

The Bible also says it is only by the grace of GOD that man can make heaven not by man's actions but only GOD's grace.

The Bible also says that GOD so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten sin that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.

However the Bible also says that shall we remain in sin that GRACE may abound!! NO!!

Read the book of Romans with your wife.

I too got married and have been battling with sexual temptations. I have never been a man who sleeps around or had intentions of sleeping around. However it is as if in marriage something tries to tempt you to break your vows. It is only by GOD's grace that one can overcome such actions.

My take -

repent, THEN cry to GOD for grace, forgiveness and strength. THIRDLY stay away from the woman.

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Is simple call on of your best friend to go after her try to seduce her for himself,one day meet them in a restaurant then tell her she is cheating on you,thats it

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@poster, i fil 4 ur wife,coz u dont deserve her,wat if it was d oda way round wat wil u do, try n ask ur self, al dis tins am doin,wat if ur wife was d 1 doin it hw wuld u fil,probably u wil beat her cal her names even move 2 d brink of divorce,beta b politely tel d oda gal ur married simple unless ur stil enjoyin d girl, be careful man

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Very frankly i feel very bad about this.

I had probs with my wife that maybe gave me the

push. But all that is history. My wife actually

saw some of her texts. But i guess my wife was

willing to protect her marriage rather raise any quarrel.

I love my wife. We have fully reconciled.

Its a terrible mistake for me to do the"short" date

and its getting me in bad light. I deserve it. I need her to forgive me.

Never Again.

First of all don't justify what you did,everybody gets pushed but not everyone allows themselves to be pushed to misbehave.When you say full reconciled,what do you mean?Did you tell her what you did?If that's what you did fine,if not please do,the truth will set you free.Telling your wife will remove the leverage the other lady may want to have over you.So after you tell your wife,then tell the lady you are truly sorry but you can't continue,let her know that what if she was married will she like her husband having an affair,let her know you are attracted to her but you want the best for her so you need time and space away from her,then delete her number from your phone and remove any ability to see her again, All I'm saying,when you are doing them, you must mean it from the heart,because like a darting sparrow,an undeserved curse doesn't come to land,if you do it right no curse can affect you.

Secondly it may be painful and will take time,but talk with the wife you love about what lead to all this,please don't even blame her,tell her you want your marriage to succeed and that you sincerely don't want to ever betray her again.You must show her extra love and attention and let your love safe guard you from future straying.The key sign that an affair is impending,is when you start discussing intimate stuff  with another lady who ain't your wife,so watch it.

Then finally pray,ask God for forgiveness and plead with him to remove the consequences of infidelity from your life,because one thing it does, is that it will cripple your finances.I really wish you the best at reconciling with your wife.Good luck

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Its so unfair of u my man, are u a SCREWDRIVER ne? U kpanshi finish com dey cry foul?

Guess u ar a BIGBOI too so handle ur biz cos u brot it on ursef,no mata hw sweet a poison is,its still a poison.

Tell her u ar married and confess to ur wife.I promise u after ur confession,u'll feel better and move on.

Take out ur SEXUAL FRUSTRATIONS on ur wife,u'll be heaven bound my dear. Stop skirt chasing even if u own MTN nigeria.

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abeg leave the innocent woman out of this

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easy, tell your wife.  she can deal with the girlfor you, tha is after she has disposed of you

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Adetoru,

i no what you feel but let us put sentiment as aside 80% of nigeria married men will sleep with other women after marrige, this is not their fault is a background they cant change our grand parent married two or more woman christainity has come, try to change that, but is still very difficult. one of the solution to this problem is for woman to stop sex before marriage if that become very possible then we men will have to marry the woman before sleeping with her, i believe you are equally guilty of sex before marriage, the man has tested and he wont stop until there is a break which could be child bearing or other juicy women taking him away. any man who has not accept the Bible teachings will surely go for other younger or more sexy ladies it is not easy for a black man to keep himself it takes the grace of God even the white are struggling to stick to one wife, why do you think they have plenty cases of divorce.Be nice to him and be very hopeful may be when he is old(weak) or broke that may calm him down.dont fight him

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there so many angels to ur story,before you disconnect her from ur life findout spiritual if her star goes with yours, if yes, then follow it gently for the sake of children, this lady has she ever dated a married man before, hope your wife at home has not equally dated a married man before, did u break any ladies heart before u got married, the wife u married is she a( matchmake) arrangement from friends or smone close because u dont truely love her may the second one is d perfect will of God for u while ur wife at home is a permissive will of God.after sleeping with this lady what do u fill for your wife PITY OR MORE PASSION OR EVEN LESS PASSION.answer my question then i will tell u more about life. enjoy

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at u seem be remorseful about wat u did,my husband doesnt care about hw i feel,so far he satisfies himself,he travels all d way 2 calabar just to b wit gfriend,he spent dis last christmas wit her,we also have 2 kids,since he has started seein her,we dnt av sex anymore,most of the times i wish i can do d same to him,but i just cant,am hopin he will realise wat his doin some,sometimes i go to bed cryin,but this new yr am goin to focus on more positive tings.and ignore watever he is doin.

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What is reason? Table them & settle amicably.

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[color=#000099]Enjoy it while it lasts, it wont last much longer than u really think. The crime has already been committed so commit it very well so that when u r to pay the price, the punishment will be justified. The wifey will be hurt but you have no excuse for your kids.

You can draw some consolation from the fact that u r not the only one in it today, in fact millions of people [including some of the girls and guys saying they hate u on this thread, some have slept with married men and women] do it so its not such a huge deal.

You need to go and make peace with your creator and desist from any form of adultery in the future[/color

Consider the words of this poster.

Just few days ago. I got mail from a lady trying to be my friend asking us to hook up. All I could tell her was that I'm married. That she shouuld try other single men. I showed my wife her mail and that settled it. she was very glad I took such step. The truth is I get lots of calls from Unknown numbers and hidden ones like that and I'm sure these are ladies who might have gotten my number from somewhere. the temptation is there but you have to be a man. Ladies who come here to castigate I'm not saying it is wrong to rebuke but sincerely you need to do alot of praying for your men. If only you know what other women out there do these days to just get that fling. God help us all.

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There's nothing like severing communication. Its magical.

No calls, no sms

no planned or 'unplanned' visits.

Pick her calls and leave the phone running without putting it to ur ear.

When she sends an sms - which are likely going to be pleas and emotional blackmails - treat them like you treat the sms from ur network provider- trash!

Most importantly, this takes genuine discipline.

When u see the success, u will want to boast to ur wife about it. Brace up, there's a storm coming.

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forget breaking her heart. call her and tell her flat out she was a fling nothing more. deleat her number and block it. never go visit her, never call her again. then go and repent to your wife. if you truely love her then you will disclose to her, you never know she may suspect it, might get a call of visit from your lady friend or she may have read what you wrote on here

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Bob, I understand ur plight all I think u need to do is to tell her you have given ur life to Christ (Born again) that things are going wrong and a prohesy came that until u stop the stuff worse are coming, bla bla bla, u know what I mean, and make sure u sincerely give ur life to CHrist, simple, have a nice day

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u cant eat ur cake and still av it,wot u did was wrong,u hurt the poor lady, still u av got to think of ur home, family first. so pls sort her out postrate,cry for her if u av to,just make sure she let go

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hahahaha---- so i thought. Some women are crazy. You just gotta learn how to sort them out.

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^^^ and what if she likes that ?

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have even wacker sexx!!! or, ask to do some sadomasochistic poo with her---sorta like white men do--- like defecating on her chest, eating each others vomit, BehindBased, etc, trust me, a nigerian gal aint tryna hear all that. she out the door. GOODBYYYYEEEEE RELATIONSHIP!!!

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and what if she sees this as an opportunity to teach you how to do it better ? what will you do ?

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have "wack" sex with her. cum in like 2 mins while she's just getting warmed up (if thats not how uve been from jump anyways.lol). thats guaranteed to have her looking elsewhere and getting rid of ur Bottom.

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put urself in that shoe then u will know that is not just like that.

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IT IS OVER

SAYS THE LORD GOD OF HOST.

JUST LIKE THAT.

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I know is not ur intention. Sometimes it happen before we realise that it has happened and it can happen to anybody.

You repent sincerely and ask for ur wife forgiveness, if she is an understanding woman am sure she will forgive u.

for the new girl involve let her know how special she is and tell her to understand with u, dat it can't work between u both.  She is human with feelings so, do not hurt her by handling d issue in an uncivil way.

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I know is not ur intention. Sometimes it happen before we realise that it has happened and it can happen to anybody.

You repent sincerely and ask for ur forgiveness, if she is an understanding woman am sure she will forgive u.

for the new girl involve let her know how special she is and tell her to understand with dat it can't work between u both. She is human with feelings so, do not hurt her by handling d issue in uncivil way.

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y do u want to tell your wife?

Ask God for forgiveness and quit seeing the chick, it's time to be a real actor, d deed has been done.

I doubt if u'd ever escape reaping what u av sown though, remember David in the bible?

Good luck

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You did the right thing by bringing up the matter.

Shows u are ready to quit.

THEN QUIT and stop thinking about her.

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If your wife would understand tell her, then tell the woman about your family.But better end it now

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HELLO HOUSE,

ONE THING LEAD TO ANOTHER, BEFORE YOU PEOPLE WILL JUDGE HIM WE SHOULD ASK HIM SO QUESTION LIKE

1. HAVE YOU EVER FIND YOUR WIFE PLAYING ARROUND?

2. DO YOU SEE ANYTHINK LIKE FUNNY GAMES?

3. IS SHE NOT GOOD ON BED?

IS SHE NOT SATISFYING YOU ENOUGH?

IF YOU CAN ANSWER ALL THESE THEN YOU CAN NOW JUDGE.

BUT AS FOR ME YOU ARE GOING TO PAY FOR IT. EITHER YOU LOSS THE NEW ONE QUITELLY OR LOSS YOUR WIFE SHAMEFULLY SO THE CHOICE IS YOURS. ALSO TRY CALL YOUR WIFE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NITE AND ASK HER FOR FORGIVENESS BEFORE YOU TELL HER ANYTHING IF SHE OPEN THAT SHE AS FORGIVEING YOU. YOU THEN TELL HER EVERYTHING THAT AS HAPPEN, THEN ASK HER HOW DO WE FIGHT IT TOGETHER IN PEACE AND NOT WAR.

WHY AM SAYING THIS IS THAT I HAVE GONE THROW THIS STAG ASWELL IN LIFE.

PLAY SAVE NOT TO LOSS YOUR WIFE.

MAY GOD HAVE MERCY ON YOU AND GOD HELP YOU

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just tell her you are not interested, its as simple as that and if she begins to threaten you, tell your wife

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can u just imagine a married man saying this?

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I must tell you, you have disappointed God and ur spouse, the first step is to confess ur sins to God and ask for forgiveness after having realized that u made a mistake, promise never to repeat such,you may need to confess and ask for your wife,s 4givness too because u just failed her and God.

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can you listen to yourself, poster?

i was everything to her, i satisfied her so well in bed, and now am quitting

the least I can say is that you are unrepentant ,

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mr loverman could only be having a hang over-that's why he made that statement.

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Poster, u ar a slowpoke

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You have spoken well.

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@poster: its up to u to end it since u started it n its all ur fault cos, stand up n be a man or keep on rocking so dat u'll have enough good memories at the end of ur adventure,

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My friend, you have taken the right step. Please stick to your decision and let her go.

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o boy, well goodluck. now u see y some men just hire prostitutes or go to strip clubs. no strings attached

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I can advise you on how to cheat and get away with it. Women hate cheating because they think they will caught. Hit me up and I will give you a trusted method. Lets get it on.

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