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How to Treat a Girl: Macho Man or Mr. Nice?

What is it about being nice to a girl?

Sometimes I get freaked out with the way some women think. 

When you are very nice and caring, they say you are weak and not man enough.  Then when you go authoritative, firm and become and [become an] "I don't give a damn" kind of guy, they say you are taking advantage of their love, and you are too rude and scary, then threaten to leave you.

Are we supposed to understand a lady and act according to how it pleases and suits her to make the relationship last longer?  Or we should just be ourselves in the relationship, for her to understand, or vice versa?

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"Bobo nice" has always been a loser kind of guy

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Always good to be nice to them EXCEPT those "wild" ones.

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Be nice with a hint of macho man. lolz

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all guys should be like me if they want a girl

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I think a man has 2 be 75% macho & 25% mr nice. Anything short cud be messy

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True love conquers all ----- if the chemistry is 'RIGHT', there are no rules to d approach --------

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Treat her however you like. If she doesn't like it, she can go somewhere else.

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lol, at least ur nice.

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like me except the chubby part

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First off, to be harsh u have to have the face to match k. not all guys can be mean/harsh/bad guys and think they'll get a girl, its just doesnt work like that. am not saying the nice ones are not good luckly or have to be ugly. And like i would always say, stereotyping is not right. its different strokes for different folks. Some girls like bad guys and some like nice guys. My best friend likes corking guys but i really like cute, chubby, tall, NICE GUYS. lol

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u dont hav to be mean

ignore them a lil bit to make em think u dont like em as much

its all in tha balance

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Let me yarn.

I see ladies as bunch of confused species. At least 90% of ladies don't know what they want. I know some will get defensive here. But what I'm saying is true unless you want to deny it.

My advice to guys in this joint on how to treat your ladies " Be mean and keep them keen"

All my Mr nice guy (Which i am by nature), still dey leave me searching.

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mnn, still wondering y she quoted me.

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hope it never comes to my knowlege.

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that girl should be sick.... and needs to see a psychiatrist, if its love.

but if na money... the she is a prostitute.

can a guy really be that silly for love...?

i mean meet my girl screwing some other guy and i happen to see or even hear the sound

and i still go crawling after her.....?

i might still love u but ......

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Ha! things are really happening. Honestly I'm hearing this kind of treat for the very first time. Where was I when all these were happening?

I hate injustice, I would have fought for the victims, not minding if the person can crush me.

Girl sha! when they suppose to fall for one dying for them iro ni they will either fall for money.

No be money that your friend dey look for. E don see the guy with may be mece oloye

Somebody is dying for them pursuing them on the net and phone yet they won't consider him until bobo olowo discard them.

What a pity? Who get head no get cap. who get cap no get head. Aye yi o d'ogba. Fingers are not equal.

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;Djogego most women re weak willed when it comes to boy-girl matters.. that's wat we called.. finding it hard to let go..... a lot of girls need training in this area of relationship....a guy treats u like a piece of thrash & u re still hanging on to him[b].... it's just cos u cant see {well mannered guys}beyond him.....[/b]

i have a friend who was sleeping with another guy's girl.. she never listened to my advice till nemesis caught up on her, she went to the guy's house as usual for a weekend & that Friday nite, while luluxing wit the guy in the living room, she looked thru the window & saw a car with the same model & color like the guy's own {the guy bought his type of car for his girlfriend} Na so yawa gas o

the girlfriend got into the house, saw the fling & captured the scenario well. she put a call thru to her home saying she was spending the nite with her boyfriend.. my friend was too embarrassed. she couldn't leave cos she travelled frm her skool to see the guy. on the long run, the guy put her in a room close to his, she never came out till morning......in the night, she was hearing the loud moans of the girlfriend as the guy was giving her a nice treat {knowing girls for wat we re.. am sure the girlfriend purposely moaned louder than usual for my silly Friend to hear}when she couldn't take it anymore, she called me & finished her credit talking nonsense with me.......

the annoying thing was that.. after this great embarrassment, my friend still went back to spend weekends with the guy...so wont we call that stupidity on her part?

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It's a pity. I really feel for this lady.

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Greatpeter wetin u see? Now if you were a girl, got to your boyfriend's house early one morning, and he refused to let you into the room, instead met you at the door and told u to go prepare breakfast for two.

The average male brain would tear down the door to see what is happening there. This useless girl actually went to prepare the breakfast for two. Brought the tray and knocked the door to give the tray to her bf. All the while she couldnt go into the room.

Nonsense

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hmn! wonders shall never end. I see!

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Don't understand you Seun

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That is why some people believe that woman are simply crazy! Gluttons for punishment!

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One of my ex's was a bad guy but he was romantic, I tell you. I love bad guys cos they are romantic, they know how to take care of women. Believe me, they do. He used to open doors for me at all events, pull chairs for me to sit down, and some other things I can't mention. I never took all those things for granted. I respected him and even loved him more.

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I once was a friend's place.A girl had travelled over 3 hours from her school to spend the weekend with him. She got to his place while it was raining and she knocked. Normally, his junior one would have opened the door for her, but my friend said he shouldnt cos another babe was inside. This girl stood in the rain for over an hour, and eventually had to go.

Normally, you'd expect the babe to get the message and never appear again. For where? She no gree oh!!! I come look her sotay, meanwhile she go dey make yanga for some guys because she is fine and here she is, being treated like trash and saying she is in love.

Madness.

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LOL... u really think so.....

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This is a heartless case.

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Like hot-angle said, just be yourself. Let the lady be what she is: the crown of your life. I appreciate a man that will treat me like a lady and that's why I love the way U.K guys treat their ladies. From the hand kiss which shows admiration to the opening of the doors. All these can be unnecessary but I cherish honesty most.

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Just be yourself when you are talking to a girl. Don't try to be nice and don't try to be harsh. Just be the you that you are. If the you that you are is nice, be nice. if the you that you are is harsh, be harsh.

It pays to be one's self.

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You have to find a balance...

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You will never get the truth on this matter from a woman. The truth is that sometimes girls don't appreciate guys that are desperate to please them. But when a guy seems as if he doesn't care too much but cares all the same, they like it.

So I think the idea is to be a nice guy who deliberately behaves like a bad boy sometimes just for the woman's entertainment. They love drama and suspense a lot, and 'bad boy' behaviour gives them a lot of that!

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see what i mean..? so where do we guys stand now.

i want some real truth from a ladies mouth, cuz perhaps they know better.

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bobo nice na original suckers!!

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igster.. are u a guy or a girl, well if u are a guy, do u think ladies think the same..?

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Men are designed to be hard and powerful,women soft and submissive....They are meant to be pampared. this shouldnt however compromise the mans strenght and aggression in any way....

I think as a rule one should be a man 24/7 that is aggressive and ambitous. this gets the job done everytime....the only thing you owe your woman after you woo her with this form of masculinity is to make her believe she is number one...the operating word there being "believe"

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never heard a truer statement. Ladies tend to swallow anything u dish out to them, but when u are doing mr nice guy, nothing for u.

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Nobody satisfies anybody. Be yourself. That's why I commend the work done by laide o in "I want a man"

Yeah! Be yourself and she can go to blazes if she doesn't accept you as you are. And that also means she doesn't love you.

But when you try to be somebody else I bet you, you will crash.

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