My husband left me and my heart is broken. He said he does not love me, but I just can’t believe it. He left about month ago, and I’m trying to accept what happened and get over but it is just not helping. We are still seeing each other often because we have children, and that is making the whole case more difficult. His mother and siblings were very angry with him in the first place, but then he told them lies, that everything is my fault, and that he is still going to go back to us. But he told me he does not love me anymore. Now I don’t know what to believe.
He has been having depression for a long time, because of financial problems. He is trying to start up a business but is not working out and that’s why we have been struggling with money for a long time. But I just don’t care about staff like that. I’m not greedy. Now he has lost all his happiness. He is very sad man and says he can’t offer me a relationship. He asks me to move on and find another man who would love me properly.
At the time we were living together we were mostly arguing. Arguing because money seems to be the most important thing for him, more important than his family or health. Now he is about to loose both of them. And we were arguing because he is so stressed that everything makes him angry and to shout at me.
I have been trying to take care of him, because I’m the only one he has (He lives very far from his family). And I love him, and I don’t want another man. But he tries his best to hurt me. He tries to push me away as much as he can. I still keep on calling him every day, asking him how he’s doing and etc.
What would you do in my position? Would you forget him and move on? Or would you try to take care of him while he doesn’t want it, but obviously needs it, hoping that one day he will be happy again and you could try to get back together?
And what can I do to make him think good about me? At the moment he seems to hate me, but I think he has no reason. He thinks I hate him too and is not true, but what can I do to make him realize that?