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Husband Snatcher Or Second Wife?

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What is the difference between an Husband Snatcher and a Second wife, , I need this for a friend who is about to make a terrible mistake of becoming a second wife

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It's like asking: embezzlement or 419?

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Depend on whose point of view

To the first wife - husband snatcher

To the newest wife - the love of the man's life

To the man - latest conquest

To a casual bystander - second wife.

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I thought the second wife was the favoriate.

how does the sr wife feel when his emotions are shifted to the jr wife?

Who sleeps with him at night?

I heard the jr wife does the grunt work and the sr wife prepares the orders.

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hi I'm Dianna 1st wife  its funny every one thinks  that a second wife is a husband snatcher  well there not  a lot of times its the 1st wife's idea not the husbands or the 2end wife's  i picked her and asked if she would like to join us  she is my best friend and had fallen in love with Paul but even thow it may have ruined our friendship she told me and was willing to go away  instead we are happy together so yes it can work and no I'm not saying that its always going to but hay look how mini people are devoriced theses days and not like us we are your nabers and friend or just somone you have met next time you see somone think is there more there ?

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there is noting bad in what your friend want to do,

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hi this is the second wife. Missy

it was strange at first. then it just clicked togeather. we all were friends first. so we all knew each other.

its really easy to work with. but as i said as a second wife i like to be able to sit back and not have to take charge. so i am not a husband snatcher at all. as i said i am there friend first and formost.

and for me it was the 1st wife that sprung this on me. not the husband. the wife started to talk to me about it and we were lucky enough to find out that it works. so if you do want to be a second wife just befriend them. it makes a world of a difference. it was an effort to get him convinced it was a good idea.

as for don't trust us basically. all i ask you is why? what have we done to be thought of as not trustworthy?

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its just diffrent ways of referring to the same action

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I hope they can talk separately, then we can be sure they are not expressing a collectively agreed opinion which one person no gree with

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a snatcher is nothing more than a marriage breaker

no worth or integrity in that

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how did it feel when the junior one came in. BE TRUTHFUL!!!![/

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hi all we are Dianna and Missy we have the same husband and love it. we are both happy with this and know what we like. no we don't share him at the same time .we get all the time we want with him and alone so yes it works tell her and maybe she will work it out

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She is nothing more than a husband snatcher.

She has been his side pork that he has been sneaking off to pork every chance he gets. Now she wants him to make an honest woman out of her and pull her out of the closet that she has been hiding in.

Wow does she not understand that part of the excitement for men like this is the sneaking around with these women. The excitement will wear off once he has her in his home then she will find that he has picked up another piece of side pork, unless of course he already has a couple more.

Is her self-esteem so low that second place is all she thinks she can get? Does she see herself as a second place Dam? How about him. . . really he gets two women that would die for him, cook for him, love him and cater to him but she gets half a man. Is he really a big shot like that? What is so spectacular about him that makes him worthy to have the love and support of two or more women?

Even if he tells her that she will be the last one, can she really trust that?

Everything that he is saying to her, he has told his current wife the same thing.

Tell her to go here and read some of the pain these women have been thru when they found out thier husband was cheating. http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp

Does she really want to be that knife in another womans heart?

Does she intend to have children with him?

Is this the example that she wants to set for her girls, that second best is ok?

And what happens to her when he takes another wife or mistress?

If he really loved her then he would have ended his first marriage and married her.

Trust me when I say all married men come up with the same reasons for why they cant leave thier wifes and why the OW should stay.

She is that OW, it is just that in her culture she is allowed to be married to him and be his second wife.

She needs real intervention.

She is better than second place.

She should want someone that will love her and only her.

HE IS SAYING THE EXACT SAME THING TO HIS FIRST WIFE THAT HE IS SAYING TO HER.

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The first wife has not been duely informed but I believe she must av been suspecting something, the man is quite nice and seems serious. They av been going out for a while and the girl is demanding to take the relationship to the next level.

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anyone involved romantically with a married man is a second fiddle

no matter what he says or how much love he professes,

he once professed that same love to the first woman

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did the first wife pick her or the husband?

Have they been havin sex for a while or are they waiting until the cermony?

Whos idea was it for her to be second wife?

Does the first wife know?

answer these I will be back with advice.

I just had a friend that i counseled thru this as well.

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what God has oined together let no man out asunder

husband snatcher and second wife no difference

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