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I Am 39 And She Is 20. So What?

There is this one babe in my neighbourhood who recently turned 20. Tall dark intelligent and very pretty student of a higher institution, comfortable home.

I noticed she has been coming on to me for sometime now. Calls text messages and stuff.Yours sincerely is a real life hyena, now tamed by career pursuit and family but a hyena nonetheless. I have never had it with someone with such a wide age margin-completely uncharted territory for me.We have an outing planned for today and it is mutually agreed that there will be no first date bullshit.

All senior bros familiar with this scenario are free to share.For the self righteous, please remember there is a religious section.Thank you.

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Make una leave tory,

ma guy@poster, enjoy ur new catch jare.

The world has already gone berserk, so ur indiscretion will not . . .

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Big bros, if you are truly married and u wanna keep shagging 20yr olds, then u be big-tyme agbaye, agbalagbo sef.

Berra gerraway while you still can, 'cos same might happen to your chic too. The fact dat she has a crush on you

does not mean you have to do the wrong thing. At least you are supposed to be more sensible than her.

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If a woman came here with the same problem, would you advice her to do the same thing?

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Sweetpain,

With the lady in mind and that fact you are married. Within your marriage and culture is it permissable to have more than one wife?

Your options are simple;

1. You have a fling and get the infatuation out of your mind, and keep your condoms fresh and handy.

2. If you cannot have more than one wife, she could be your mistress in the Western sense and you would have to lavish her and support her in her life and career.

3. She could be your concubine , and you can set up another home and have dual households.

Provided she is okay with your existing arrangements and has no desires to have you leave your existing wife and children then you should like adults discuss ,shortly into any intimate relationship, how you see the relationship being. As long as your open from the outset I cannot see a problem with it.

Although with the age difference, other than great Sex, what else would you be doing with her the remaining 20 hours a day ? What sort of conversations will you be having, will it not be frustrating seeing her do the mistakes or behaviour in the manner you used 19 years ago ?

The age gap is large, and is likely to be a problem, just because you can have her does'nt mean you have to have her? You better off with somebody a bit more mature say 28 - 35 years of age.

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I know lol.

It does not surprise me one bit.

All these ugly potbelly Nigerian men running after young innocent girls, pursuing them with money.

Yet, they already have their woman at home.

One day one day, they'll learn.

Who said babalawo(herbalist) will go out of business one day?

Na lie, if married men continue to commit adultery, then magun and love potions will continue to exist. Simple.

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when you're 45 she'll be 26, then she will love to go and do it with someone much younger dan u, I hope you wont mind then

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@sweetpain

I wont ask U 2 put a stop 2 ur illicit affair or 4 U 2 admit its not right.

My question 2 U is: HOW WILL U FEEL, IF UR WIFE IS ALSO HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH AN HANDSOME AND ATHLETIC BUILD 20-something yr old GUY?

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why is this thread being locked and unlocked several times?

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Plus, I notice how you've been logging in and out. Concentrate on one ID will ya?

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Its not a moral debate, what is it then? Unfortunately, the issues you've raised and the attitude you put forth cannot but bring about a moral debate. I hope you get that.

However, after this, I cease to believe you. You are just looking to cause an uproar. I'm sure you'll get it, just be patient.

*pats sweetpain's head*

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If u werent married, i would hv said no big deal since no guy can say he wants to marry a gal on their first date. But u r married and single guys like myself feel cheated when u deprive us the company of single chics. You see, we cant go after married ladies and the single ones are being gradually coerced by the married guys. Life harsh ooo.

AMEN![b][/b]

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We had our first outing yesterday and it was all I wished for and maybe a little bit more.No first date bullshit from this real life angel, ever wanting to please. I have decided she is for keeps. Had a complimentary present delivered anonymously to her this morning.

Now to NL upstart critics, save for a few contributions that make sense virtually all the others come across as confused and irrelevant by persons who feel they too have to say something even when they have nothing.

Now hear this particular one who never has a mind of his own but with a pathological craving to 'always belong'

Debosky and Seun I hope you keep this line of communication open because I know there is a lot people would like to know about my friend tpia. Officially this thread is now about tpia the wannabe husband and father who likes to claim he is single.

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Doesn't the 20 yr old ashewo know that he is married. He obviously has no respect for himself and neither does she. This is not even a case of him leaving her alone. She is also coming on to him. @ poster you are too old for this poo. Grow up

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Pls Kindly Leave Her Alone

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too bad, u c this thing they keep saying about NIGERIAN MEN. he just cant be faithful. (i know its not all of them sha)

someone will later tell the wife when she finds out ''leave him alone, abi is he not providing for you and the family?''

And the circle goes on and on

make God nor let person see bad thing oh.

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Playing to the gallery are we? Anyway I have a date to keep. All you haters keep hating.

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pls before you post, read well. the guy is married let's not encourage him to shag a 20 years old when he has a family of his own.

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There is sth uniquely different about this relationship. I did not initiate it but when it started, I liked it.

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Dont insult anyone pls.

If you are serious wit her as i.e you want to marry her,nothing bad o! But if you just want to flirt wit her for sex,then it would be shameful becos she is far too young. If not for d nigeria factor you are old enough to be her father.

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If you like her and she likes you then it is fine.Good luck.

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halt the insult first. @poster answer me first

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She is the one rocking my world now since I started paying attention and stopped thinking of her as a confused presumptive teenager.I once dated her aunt's best friend who is now happily married and in her early 30's.Somehow I have been able to keep down that little voice that kept saying 'here you go again-making a fool of yourself'.

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when you're 45 she'll be 26.

carry on and rock her world while you can.

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