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I Am Always Heart Broken,what Should I Do?

humnm! why do girls always break my heart?ever since my higher school days,till now that i'm now a first class graduate, i loved them,cared 4 them and always tried to make them happy, or i am i too caring? i know i have a bright career future but i also want a happy home.i discovered that girls dont reciprocate my love, i am now so disturbed that i avoid them these days, but i know this will not solve my problem, fellow users,i need your help.

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start giving your heart out for incorruptible prize instead of one kobo

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@enitan2002

see "beef." Got any problem with the fact that he made first class? wake up bro,that was only for emphasis.

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Men jilt women,women jilt men, com'mon guys,how fast you forget your mathematics.Its called Ballanced Equation !!!

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@topic: don't worry. heartbreaks are a part of relationships. with time, you'll develop the kind of shock absorber that i have when it comes to dealing with heart breaks. right now, i'm shock resistant.

Well, i think he hasn't really dated much.

@ topic: Com'mon man, you'll get over it. Its even good its happening to u now,its only paving way for the right woman.And; when that right person comes, you'd forget all your heart breaks.keep ur head up.Peace man!

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@topic: don't worry. heartbreaks are a part of relationships. with time, you'll develop the kind of shock absorber that i have when it comes to dealing with heart breaks. right now, i'm shock resistant.

Well, i think he hasn't really dated much.

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@Efani,

Your statement is saddistic, man!come to think of it,you seem to know so much about the gay thingy? only a gay can identify his type.

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@superman

I bet your fingers are rotten and oozing of a death stench as a result of putting them inside all the whores in ur area's yansh.

For you to even know the smell of yansh, you must be keeping a whole lot of whoreful girlfrinds with such smell. yuk man!!! you need deliverance.

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Indeciveness is another factor, that leaves a sour taste in the mouth.

Some men date a woman for ages, and don't step up to the mark, or declare what they feel for the lady, or say what plans they have made for the future. They do not come out openly to 'define' that relationship or where it is heading. They are content to let things ride, or just wobble along.

So when another more straight-forward guy comes along to tell the babe, that he is ready, willing & able to make a commitment, the lady might weigh her options and decide to take a long walk, into the new guy's arms.

So who do we blame? The babe who left, or the guy who never gave her a reason to stay, by defining the direction he wanted the relationship to go?

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You are so right. But the guy needs to know one thing, it is not so much what you have that counts, but who you are. Even if a guy has all the degrees in the world, including a first-class education, if he lacks honour, integrity, empathy, love, compassion & respect, women will keep dumping him for a guy who has those things. There are too many men who say one thing, while they mean another. It merely shows that they lack integrity. Its' a trait that puts people off.

I know someone who dated a guy with a first-class degree from a British university. The guy was an arrogant, self-centred character, who believed that he knew it all. He was always showing off, too full of himself and was hardly ever interested in trying to find out if his babe had any problems, or helping out with any personal issues she had.

When this same guy was a squatter in his friend's cousin's house, this girl was always by his side. Later, when he got a room & parlour, & was sleeping on the floor, she was also there. After he made some money, he realised she was no longer good enough for him. After dating her on and off for a couple of years, he used & dumped her, giving one pathetic, flimsy excuse.

What am I saying? A first-class education don't mean much in a relationship, if you are not ready to show you care for a babe, by staying with her through thick & thin. It takes effort to make a relationship work. So many men put too little effort into this area, that's why things hardly ever turn out well.

If a guy feels too big to work at a relationship now, is it when he gets married later, that he will automatically develop the skills to make that marriage work?

Some men have learnt the art of how to treat a woman well, and such men often have babes flocking round them, ready to do their bidding. Believe me, it doesn't take a first class degree to learn how to do that.

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Try tough love. A woman will not love a man she can't respect. Be kind, gentle, and tough. No hitting or beating, but say it, mean it, and follow trough with it.

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@enitan2002, do you have a problem,coz its so obvious you dont have a qualification coz if you do, you will know what it takes to be a first class graduate. yes with a first class certificate, he's worth dieing for , if that is the only thing he had, he has achieved something. the question is what can he do to be able to keep ladies. if u wan answer, stay! and if you cannot, bounce out with your high school uniform.

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@topic,

maybe u need to take ur time when it comes to relationships and not rush into it.

hopefully u learn from ur past mistakes and they don't repeat itsef

u can neva be too careful with relationships but don't give in too easily

anotha mistake is when u let someone know that u're crazy bout them . . they'll use that against u

take ur time!

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Well, maybe your perspective towards relationships is not right. You will need to do a reassessment of your self. On the other hand, maybe if you tell us how many times ur heart has been broken, we might be able to assess if ur heart has been broken enough (some amount of heartbreak is necessary for you to understand life). Also, you will also need to "man" your relationships without making it seem overtly so. This will let the ladies know that you are in charge.

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one's character is like a flame,

see what we're talking about, bragging that you have a 1st class degree.Who the hell give a "hoot" of what you have.

Dear fellow nairalanders, these are some of the bookworms in school then,thinking because they've got the brain babes will be killing theirselves for him.

Yes they do, but once they've gotten what the hell they want from you, they all disappear into thin air.Instead of them to start working on theirselves they go on about researching on things whey their grandpa no lost.

Thinking the world is all about being successful in academics alone, there're so many "sectors" in this life for one to be successful, e.g in relationship.Once you are not successful in this area, just know you are doomed for life.Though you can get married, just know in your heart that it is the MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN u are getting married to not your WIFE.

So you better start working on yourself now and forget the 1st class of an issue for now.Its never too late at least Men can get married at 80yrs who wan sue them to court?

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@topic: don't worry. heartbreaks are a part of relationships. with time, you'll develop the kind of shock absorber that i have when it comes to dealing with heart breaks. right now, i'm shock resistant.

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radiant, you look good in your picture with the glasses

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your heart is always broken because you give it cheaply or you gave to someone who cannot handle it.

for example, if you buy a car worth a 100 thousand dollar, you wont joke with it the way you will joke with a 10 thousand dollar car. and if you give gold plate to a baby, he cannot appreciate it bcoz he doesn't know is worth, neither does he know what it is

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well u have said it all. if u learnt to manage women while your mates were doing so u would not have made a first class. but i think you got your priorities right.

my advice for you is associate with as many girls as possible with an innocent mind of not wanting to date them, and don't do too much to have them. Sit back and watch somehow you will come across one who you will be convinced deserves your love.

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You got everything to be sad but I must confess that some girls are very bad they pretend to love some one and later hurts the person heart that realy hurts I have passed through such unpleasant experience all you have to do is keep trying you would surely find the right Lady that fits you cheers goodluck,

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@ ollyruff

i strongly suggest u kill yourself dude

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maybe u shld stop lovin and just focus on ursef or face ur career.

stop chasing them and let them come chasing you.

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so nasty that even prayer cant stop the ozzin a$$

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I have no time for a toddler like you that goes around smelling people's yansh. I am sorry for the small girls that would be left in your care. Nasty boy.

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me nasty na lie! na that smelly yansh de nasty abeg! na bacteria u carry there jore

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You are nasty superman.

Not personal at all but you were a lil harsh on him or maybe it's just me. I hate harsh advices. I don't listen to them.

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that yansh wey de smell like that!

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That's why I will never bring my problem here on NL. People are always there to talk to you harshly as if they know everything.

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kill himself?

men take it easy on him, why don't you give him a right suggestion and feel his pain.

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Toughen up; Girls will take advantage of u if u r submissive to all their whims, try taking some tough decisions about your relationships, take charge and be the man that u should be but also be firm when things become a bit shaky

Good Luck

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pls do not kill the poor guy.plsssssssssss

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sweetlove,coco29,honey_pot,loverbwoy,whitelexi,walelead, u guys are great! your contributions are highly constructive.Those words are the binoculars i'm now using to examine myself.

@alarinka,honey_pot,walelead and about my academic feat,i think coco29 and Thoniaslim have spoken my mind, 1LOVE.

More Contribution From The House Pls.

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tiger does not proclaim its tigritude, why the issue of first class in matters of relationship, humble urself brother and ladies will flock to you,

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stop looking for marriage get girlfriends so you can learn about yourself and the kind of person you want

dont got into a relationship thinking it will lead to marriage, take everyday as it comes and stop being a Dam Bottom dummy

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who cares if u are a first class graduate? Why do pretty educated wives of some rich men fall for their drivers or gardeners who never had a high school education let alone making a third class? There are certain enroutes to the hearts of ladies and boy, u have to find them out.

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Something is still Missing,check urself.

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yes when a man deceives u once shame on him when twice shame on you.can it work vice versa?

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ewww

thats gay

u should kill yourself too for that statement

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