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I Cheat On Her,should I Confess To Her?

Hello house,Pls advise me.My Wife is doing her NYSC in far Northern part of Nigeria,while i stay in PH.(South South Nigeria).We are both faithful to each other and love each other.Distance has made it for us not to see for more than seven months,as such,just recently one young lady came to my lonely house,b4 you know it,the story is that we have made love."No thanks to staying alone in a room with a man and a woman",or "inviting a lady to your house when you are alone",the urge can atimes be very tempting that one can hardly resist it.However,it was after the game that i started feeling guilty conscience.Now my wife just visited me this easter holiday and anytime,i remember that another woman has tested her personal property,i will be feeling somehow inside me.My conscience is blaming me.My question is:should i voluntarily tell her that i slept with another woman?.,because i dont know what it can lead to if i tell her or should i keep it within me and not tell her anything?.Pls advise me

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DUDE YOU DON CHOP FOOD FINISH CLEAN MOUTH LONG TYM AGO. WHY NA NOW BELLE COME DEY TURN U. FOOD WEY PERSON DON CHOP DIGEST AND POO HIM NOFIT VORMIT AM NOW! It's better you kept ur mouth shut and save ur mariage if u aint ready for a divorce. burst the bubble and kiss ur married Bottom gudbye!

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very dicey situation as some people said, she might have also done the same thing to you as well without you knowing, so in as much as its a bad thing you have done, jst keep it to yourself and try to erase the thought out of your mind. women can be funny at times, u might be thinking she is the forgiving type but when she hear ksala go burst na im u go know say she no dey 4give for dat kain tin. so jst quiet and move on wth life. and try as much to avoid the lady u slept wth.

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seriously do you need the drama?

Try and confess then spend the next couple of months begging your life out!

Trust me people never really get over a cheating partner.

If you like listen to your pastor whos' never walked the road and bases his talk on what he believes.

Trust me this will affect both of you in more ways than you could imagine.

case in point?

Lets imagine shes the one who comes back to tell you this sort of thing, would you ever be able to trust her again?

no gawk yourself o!

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Some secrets are better not told. That's what we call constructive lying. Sometimes lies can save a house from crumbling down. That feeling of guilt is enuff to keep you from commiting the same mistake again. If you repeat it again, men is an endangered species. . .

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To be a man you have to stomach so many things to yourself. Take that secret to your grave, they are many secrets men take to their graves, Ask God for forgiveness and don't try it again, That's what called a man!!!

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Man, you have done the wrong thing, and telling this to your wife won't change it. It will only hurt her. Tell her only if you feel you have no choice.

Just discipline yourself so it won't happen again. Try to make up with your wife if you stay wants to be in this marriage. Make effort to see her often even if she is not in the same city.

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Matter of fact just go ahead and tell her. She deserves to be with a man that has the self control you have failed to show.

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This is your bullshit so you better deal with it. If it's starting to Bleep with your conscience, then too bad. You deserve it. If you tell her, she will never be able to see you as the same person again. If it truly was a mistake do not tell her. Confess your sin to GOD and ask him for forgiveness. The day you open that big mouth of yours to tell her is the day your stupidity begins to weigh heavily on her mind. She will begin trying to imagine the whole thing playing out from Hay to Zed, and that is never a good thing. She does not need to pay the price for your madness. Next time learn to think with the head above your shoulders.

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confess if u think she and the relationship can handle the news

if not take it to ur grave

its ur cross to bear

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WELL, I DONT THINK U SHOULD TELL HER. WHAT GOOD WILL COME OF IT

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Hey dude! D thing is you have to be a man to fight d guilt and live with it but if you make d mistake of telling her, I am sorry that might be the begginning of your end cos she will always taunt you with it and she already has an excuse 2 do that herself, So keep it yourself and 2 d wolf that devoured you stay away from here cos basically it will happen ova and ova again if you keep seeing eachoda so long your woman is not around,

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~ The truth shall set u free (of ur girlfriend as well) ~

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@cherichenzo, i strongly agreed wit u, u av said wat a normal human being wud av advised his fellow human.

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telling her the truth is definately goin 2 hurt her, but she is ur wife and deserves to knw d truth and if she loves u she is goin 2 forgive u. she deserves 2 knw d truth. trust me u dont want such a tin on ur mind.

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Hello,

Anyone that told you to confess to your wife is showing you a shortcut to an unhappy home. You did a very silly act. You don't deserve to be called a husband. But a problem is no more a problem if we realize our mistake and say not to the mistake again.

There are some things we don't have to tell the victims; that is where reparation of sins comes in. Although if you confess, it will make you to look more a honest husband, but believe it or not, your wife will never trust you again.

Put yourself in that position, assuming that she woke you up one early morning and say to you" Darling, I have sex with someone at my zone", how would you feel after her confession? That is the same way she will feel.

Instead of confessing to her, why not do something you have never done before for her. Go an extra mile.

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Dont do it again and dont tell her - believe me , she will never trust you.

But why cheat tho - oh well na medicine after death be this one.

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abeg leave matter you know wetin she dey do for your back?

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Please dont confess to you wife.

she will forever be playing over and over and over in her head that another woman slept with her husband.

The anger she will feel for keeping herself for only you and you not doing the same will consume her.

The questions that follow will seem never ending to you.

The distrust that it throws in your marriage may never fully grow back.

The thoughts everytime she leaves the house or sees you being friendly with another woman will drive her mad.

The thoughts that you did this in yall's house will also drive her mad.

Please if you love your wife you will bear this burden on your shoulders and yours alone and you will never tell her this.

Dont give your wife these movies and feelings that cant be taken away. There are not enough sorries, please forgive me, i will never do this again, transparency that will take that away.

Some women live with the anger for years, and all never forget the day their husband cheated on them.

You will feel guilty forever and that is your punishment for disrespecting your wife. Dont put this on her mind.

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why u dey dull you self?did u know what that girl was doing in north while serving?afterall if she needed u she could have invited u to her PPA or better still come to P/H,it shows she was alright and u, sitting there, blaming ur self over a thing in existence from adams!trying to confess to her can bring more trouble,Aye nse rue joooooooooooooooooooo!

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@poster

tell her d truth and leave d relationship. cos u crossed d line!

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NEW COMER I GUESS AM RITE YUR FIRST POST ON NAIRALAND, ANYWAYS I DONT REALLY WHAT TO ADVISE YU BUT I WILL ASK TO DO WHAT YUR HEART TELLS YU.GUD LUK

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You did not see your wife for seven months and the two of you are in Nigeria,you are not serious.

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Guy! no try am at all. because if u do ur yf will not i mean it WILL NOT trust u again. Its good to confess, but the thing is that when there is slight problem, btw u and ur yf,

as in u did not drop money for food, ur wife will start suspecting that "WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS MAN" maybe he has gone back to his old ways of life. she will remind u of that ruins u did, just becos u did not drop money for food so its better u bury the hatchet in ur mind but remember, GO AND SIN NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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please confess and let it out of your mind

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The Moment you confess, you will introduce distrust in her mind. better buttle it and confess to God if you believe in God!

Better shut it and never try it again.

And how sure are you you will not try again? This daughters of eve emm na wow! God save man.

Anyway, avoid ocassions that will lead to that if you are really guilty.

If you happen to do it 2 more times, the guilt will go and it is not good for you.

Runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!

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there are two sides of a coin, and same is asuch of dis case.

if u choose to take this secret of urs to the grave, u wud die an unhappy man,and u wud be living everyday of ur life with the pain,and until u confess u wud always be a pretending hubby to her.

secondly, if u choose to confess, be ready to bear the consequences, as she might take it too far, and see u as an infidel for the rest days of ur married lives, but at least u confessed,and that makes u stand out differently.at least,she'll never 4get that fact.

a reoccurence is not likely to happen if u confide in her, otherwise if u dont u might start seeing nowt wrong in the sin, and doing it again wont hurt u.

contrary to all this, i witnessed a case where d hubby confessed to the wife,and she ended up confessing that she was sleeping with one of his colleagues while he was abroad.he too did some stuffs while abroad, and that made them even,but they had to live with the bitter truth about their infidelity.

if ur wife is truly in love with u, she'll forgive u.

confess to her and get it off ur chest.

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erm to be hosnest yeah

some thing are better unknown than to be known

just let your past be past and make sure it does not happen again

i dont know sha

but me ooo i wont confess

only confession for God and never do it again

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chop and clean mouth, dont try it next time ok

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guy no confess, if you do you'll lose your wife.

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Poster, never ever confess or your life wont be the same again. . . Unless if you planned on dumpin her than its alright

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Some has said it up there, it depends on the kinda wife u have.If she is the 4giving type, then ask her for forgiveness, but if she aint, better bury the thought of confessing. However if she is the 4giving type and u confess, she'll even love u more than ever.

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This is a hard one, you realy messed up, i hope she can take it. Please next time run from all this so called young ladies, am sure she came in as a friend. That is what they all claim to be before they show you their real intentions. Man try and visis your wife more often or vice versa, body no be wood o, stop tempting each other after all she is in nigeria not australia.

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If you so like, poster.

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@Poster,

Your Case/Question is Very Dicey and I would Advise you Seek Due Caution in Tackling It.

What kind of person is your wife?,I mean is she the type that forgives and forgets easily?

If your answer is yes then I suggest you tell her and seek her forgiveness.

But If reverse is the case,then I suggest you don't ever tell her. You just have to continue carrying the guilt as punishment for your sin.

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its better you take it to the grave.

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You better keep your mouth shut before you sleep with another women after asking asking for forgiveness

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U cheat or cheated on her?

If u cheat or cheated, confess and ask for forgiveness. Don't ever let temptation overcome your sanity again.

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