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I Denied The Affair, Now She Says Her Baby Is Mine- -how Can I Handle This?

My fiancé is 7 months pregnant. We are already engaged and will be officially married soon. In the early days of the relationship when we weren’t yet very serious, I had a fling with a girl in my neighborhood – we had sex twice but parted ways when I told her about my girlfriend- she later met someone else and they started dating. About a month or two later we met and she told me she was pregnant but wasn’t sure who owned it, but was determined to keep it. Her new guy however had accepted responsibility and they were going to get married. Some1 (I don’t know who) told my fiancé when she visited the next time that I had brought that girl home. I flatly denied it. She later called and told the girl off. 

Things have been normal ever since (my fiancé mentions it sometimes though but I still deny it). Yesterday however she called to tell me the baby was mine: she said the baby looks nothing like the other guy (although the guy is taking care of the baby)- she says her conscience tells her am the father anytime she sees the baby. She claimed she wasn’t asking me to accept the baby but just to know that I had a baby. I’m deeply troubled-I have a feeling this might resurface sometime.

How do I handle this situation?

1.I might tell my fiancé- I believe she loves me enough to forgive me but she definitely would be devastated- and am scared of the effect it might have on her pregnancy

2.I might just let it be hoping it never resurfaces again

3.I might tell her sometime later…after our baby is born.

Please advice- I’m really confused.

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still thinking of an idea.

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Really sad, but the earlier the better it will really hurt. I suggest you involve your parents let them do the talking for you.

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If it's your baby, I think you should take a lot of interest in it.

First thing, straighten the whole thing out with the fiancee.

Secondly, go for paternity test.

Lastly, if it's yours, be a responsible father. You do not want to have a child who does not know you.

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Wait till your baby has been delivered ok. You will not to find a perfect mood to tell her

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Show your fiance all the love you can now, Support her all thru her pregnancy state and tell her when she's put to bed and dont make it too hard on her when telling her, and as for the other lady be wise enough to know the baby is yours first, before putting yourself thru unnecessary responsibilities.

All d best.

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Get a paternity test. That is the only way you can put this to bed.

You don't want to be paying child maintenance for a baby that isn't yours - especially in the UK (if that is where you are baesed.)

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No what you need to say is YOU WERE NOT VERY SERIOUS!

See your life now.

Tell her after the baby is born she does not deserve this stress now.

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