I met this 37 year old guy three years ago when i was 18 (i didnt look 18 at all ). I had just finished my 1st year in University and was so lonely during the summer - my long distance boyfriend was in Nigeria and i, in London.
Well, to cut the story short: the 37 yr old was my family friend. He comes from a very popular and wealthy family in my state and the girls all throw themselves at him when he's in public. His mother and sisters are all trying to force him into getting married but according to him, 'he is not lucky with women'. Well he was, at first, worried about the age difference between us and the all the family connection, but i guess he forgot about that. The guy was all over me and kept calling me up all the time but i didn't fancy him at all, however, i grew to like him. We became close over a very short period and i had the best mind-blowing sex with him (like 3- 5 rounds every time), he introduced me to his friends (who all kept on giving me the eye) and took me out a times. But i found out that he had a problem. Up till today i do not know if he was just so insecure or too possessive. He gets upset when i get calls from other guys. These 'other guys' are close friends who i've known so long before i met him. He kept referring to them as 'my boyfriends'. The first time i cooked for he and his friends he was so excited and even tried to cook for me once to say thanks but it all changes anytime that i mention my other male friends to him. He say he's sure that i cook for them as well.
After a few months he asked me to marry him on telephone from Nigeria. I was so shocked because it has never really been my intention to get married at such a young age, apart from this, i thought he was joking because we had not even known each other long enough. I refused. Since then, its been one accusation or another from him. He thinks that i don't take him seriously and when i spend my hard money on telephone to call him from the UK he only tells me thta i don't call him often because of my 'other boyfriends'. Can you imagine this kind old man self. Anyway, he invited me to his house in Naija to stay with him for 1 week in the summer but i could not travel because i was so bloody broke. We waited for about a month and did not hear from me until i was sure that i had saved enough to travel, so i called him up and made plans to travel down to Naija. We agreed that he's pick me at the airport. I wanted to surprise him and arrived a few days than the planned time and made my way to his house myself. As usual, he was happy to see me but started saying that i someone else had picked me up at the airport instead. I also noticed that he was a little distant from me when i was there at his place and so i kept to myself and started making plans to leave. He tried to get me to cook for him again but i pretended that i was too tired to do it. After all, he had a live-in cook in his house. The very next day, this guy brought in one ugly girl and started flirting with her in front of me so i packed my bags and left his house immediately.
The annoying thing is that i was faithful to this guy and took so many silly risks just to make him happy with me, but he did not trust me at all. It took me about 2 years to get over him. I have a loving boyfriend now but i still remember him most times. i wish there was something i could do to hurt him back for what he did to me.
So tell me, whats your opinion