I have this nagging concern and I truly need some second, third or a million opinions on this. Trust me. I am a single gentleman and am in my 40s. I met and fell in love with this pretty lady during one of my trips to Nigeria. Then she was an undergraduate student. She has long graduated. For many years we would call and have short chatting and email thing going on. Recently I have become more and more serious with her as I came to know her more. With this knowledge comes a great concern especially if she is to relocate and live with me in the Western English speaking country. She can hardly complete five grammatically correct English sentences on a role.
I started observing this when our level of chatting both on-line and on the phone increased. My first step to help was to ask her not to use the abbreviated texting formulas in our communication. This was to help me see her level of understanding and ability to correctly express herself. Was I not surprised? May I say here that when I started noticing her lack of understanding of the arrangement of tenses, grammar, word meanings and sentence constructions, the kind of things we learn in primary school and build up on in high school/secondary school and all that, it rang a big bell. To say the least, I could not believe what I was reading.
Ladies and gentlemen, I am really in a big bind. I love this lady but it is becoming very difficult to see how I would bring a wife who is unable to complete a simple application into an English speaking country. How about advancing education to add to the family support? To show that I mean it when I say I love her, I started asking her to write me stories on how her day went (she is working in Nigeria). The first write up, barely 10 lines long, had grammatical errors in each line. I am talking about mistakes you will not expect from a high school graduate not to mention a university graduate (trust me I am measuring her with Nigerian standard). I really love her and I see she is making every effort to learn but I am really scared about our future. It would be a different thing if I was dealing with challenging college assignments or difficult topics but we are spending hours on elementary English topics (using capital letters, tenses, possessive pronounces, and the use of articles) . Remember she is a Nigerian University graduate. It would have been a different thing if I was dating a high school graduate. It really disturbs me. I need your advice.