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I Love My Gf But She's Older, What Shld I Do Now?

Hello people, i need ur comments and advice on this. I'm a young dude in a relationship that has lasted for about 2yrs now and discovered 4mths ago dat my gf is a yr older than me n i have been dealin with it somehow, lookin for answers. I love her so much and was actually thinkin she cld be my wife next yr. She also jst found out lately about my age cos we both lied to ourselves from the begining(didnt think it was gonna get this far). Now m not too comfortably with the fact that she's older n she now knows cos i found out before her. We have talked about it n i had to admit to her, since then i v bin disturbed n m sure she has been feelin same too.

Plz pple, i nid to know if age is just a number like they say especially in this part of the world or if we should break up cos i dont want to waste her time.

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What has age got 2 do wit love?it doesnt really matter so far there is a genuine love.

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very funny, i had similar case some few months back, men i couldnt deal with it, i had to lay her off, good thing i found a more sweeter darling now much younger, she is 22 and i m 3 yrs older, and my ex also has a new older guy, so to me it depends if you could deal with it!

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if u love her truly it doesn't matter even if she is older than u

just go a head and continue ur life with ur grf if u r sure of her love

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na age u wan chop? foolish man.

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Age, I think is just a number. Love is all that matters. If it's not an issue 4 both of u, then, just move on and live happily eva afta.

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@ poster you are the only one that an answer that question

weigh both options and take it from there

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@Poster,

The answer you seek is right there inside of you,

Do you Believe Age Doesn't Count? If so take your Belief a step further by getting married to her But If You Don't then End your Misery.

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hop off a bridge

so wat?

she's a yr older n she didnt tell u

well, u also lied to her think about it

dude if u love her as much as u claim to,

u'll let it go n continue with ur relationship

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Yes age is just a number as far as you are every year young and she is every year, two years older.

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In Naija,u hardly see wives that are older than their husbands cos it is a general belief that such husbands are being enslaved by their wives.and most parents are against it.though it is not always like that and it doesnt realy matter.it is love that matters.bt na naija we dey o.pple wld always talk.one year is not too much though but my advice i take ur time and do not rush.

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I disagree with Lovechoco, if your girlfreind is yoruba it might not work out.

I will use myself as a living example, i am presently married with 2 kids and my wife is 2years older than me.

I got to know of her true age when i visited her home and i was cross-checking some document for her and i saw her birth certificate. Though, she did not know my true age, but today we are living happily ever since and she's from Ibeju-Lekki.

What matters most is if you truly loves her then hang on tight to that rope, from experience they demonstrate high level of maturity in treating issues.

One luv house.

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@ poster

your GF is a year older!!!! What's wrong with that?? I really don't understand this why some people see it as a problem.

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have you forgotten the saying "love is blind" i beg don't work yourself up because of one year age gap between you. my own wife is 15 years older than me and i ma loving it

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No tell her the truth cos no matter how you hide it, she will eventually know about it and that can bring in hatred.

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Sin (lies) wen grown brings forth death (of d relatnshp). I just break up wit mine recently. She actualy knew all d 3yrs we went out witout telin me. I even ad problems wit her coz she refuses 2greet in d mornin. I first found out on facebk & she said it ws a mistake she typed. I ltr den trickd her sister & got d fact. She ws older! I left her becos i realised people wit dis ability 2hide relatnshp endin issues like dis do av oda secrets u'l get 2kw along d way dat can kill ur heart. & sure, she did! She confessd oda times dat she ws osù(ibo outcast), had abortns & so on. All dis afta 3yrs! Imagine we were married. Wel, my heart was brutalised coz i lùvd her bt i'm making it eachday nw by d grace of God. So b sure & pray 2God 2expose bth ur secret & hers 2eachoda@poster. Ltr.

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I was almost 1daring, if i was d 1 that posted this story unknowingly, because my case is just as similar. Just that, i alone lied abt my age to her when i discovered, that she is a year older, our rlshp is now over 2yrs, and i am yet to tel her. . U nid to see d way i do shout on her atimes when she does smthng wrong. inside of me, i keep saying to myself 'this is an older felow u re shouting at, you no get respect?' u knw d african mentality na, we both rock each others world very well.

Should i just continue like dat wit the skeleton in my closet or tel her! I am realy serious with this chick o!

I remenbre when we once had an indoor li2 debate, about age nd rlships, she was of the opioin that it is wrong to date a younger guy, and that she would never do such a thing. . Not knowing dat her's is also younger. What do i do?

@original poster, sory i had to use ur thread as an avenue to also seek remedy to my ailment, just dat, we seem to suffer 4rm similar problem. Greetings!

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Sorry just pray she is not a yoruba girl and if she is ahh sorry again

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~ Break up with her. ~ The earlier the better. ~

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Love doesn't see that . And besides age is just a matter of numbers.

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n she respects me so much but i jst feel that human nature will always come up someday,

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Hi, let me say i undstnd ur pain. My cas is similar wit urs my girl frnd is two years older than my self but in my case i knew.The fact is if u truly luv this girl then u will see is as inconsequential n u will leave hapi ever after. To b candid wit u our african culture is not in support of that, that is wer d problem come in but anyway luv super sees all tin ok. If she repect u as d man den i rest my cas.

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if there are mutual love and understanding between both of you, then, age is not a restriction. it all about respect, although she might be but makes you feel or she believe you  are the man, then just go on, older girl are sometimes the best

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Well,guy,relax.Thats one of the reasons you shouldn't start any relationship on lies cause you never might tell how far it will go.I'll just tell you to talk things with her,and hey,you know her better than i do,so if she's the type that commands respect alot,then i dnt think it can ever work.but if otherwise,then try to get that off your mind.its true age are numbrs,but only to civilized people.

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thanks guys, u r all makin sense

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