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I'm 30, She's 18 Can I Marry Her?

Hi Guys, Intelligence & Smartness is what takes me off my feet in ladies.

Recently i met a girl that has all these stuffs,

we started dating, but the problem is that she is still young, she's 18yrs old. I actually wanted a relationship that will lead to marriage. But i found myself dating her, we are in luv wit each other.

The issue is , do u think this will work out ? do you think this can lead to marriage? or should i wait for while b4 talking of that? Should i continue to encourage her or Quit?

I'm confused.

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Why would a sane person resurrect a two years old thread*person must be bored from watching Indecency*

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Women age faster than men.

Women my age now look like my aunties.

They even say so.

So it would be better, safer and wiser to marry a younger woman who will still look attractive to you in bed when she is 50 and you are 60 or 70, otherwise you will look elsewhere when both of you are 60.

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my brother the most important thing is LOVE age are number if she truely she love u there is no problem but be carefull most of them are pretender.

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Guy Please dont allow all these guys distract you o !12 years is too much for who?na dem go run the marriage for you.They want you to marry your mate so that when you are older you will start carrying your wife to hospital cos ladies age faster than men.Guy you are right on track jare i wish you well, carry go

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at 18,she is still trying to know herself,her taste is likely to change.common there are younger guys who will so capture her attention,even if she loves you now.12 years is way to much.

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anywayz am off 2 bed lil gurl drop me a line if you want szeen bayoofi@hotmail.com

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aiight

anyways am in north york in toronto

so where in ontario u at gurl?

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isn't that your pic in your profile?

anyways am in toronto and don't be ashamed to say that your in Nigeria aiight

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i livein ontario too

where in ontario?

that pic resemble those ketu alapere pics lol

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you sure say you pass waec?

i mean which village you dey live lol?

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@poster you must be crazy

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12 yrs gap is not much, marry her if she will agree.

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@poster, is cool men,, dont mind them, , wat age diff abt they talk'g abt?

Olu Jacobs, gave his wife 20 gud years n they'r ok wit it.

do u gurls want to marry ur age mate?

oh no dt is d reasons y men luk at their wife as old when they get 50yrs,

at 50yrs n she is 38yrs men is cool, dt is d time d age will match

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you lucky i'm not her broda, u will be dead by now

not here asking if u shld marry some1 young enuf to be your daugther.

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Age is notin but a number. So pray and watch.

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I actually wanted a relationship that will lead to marriage. But i found myself dating her

it wont work.

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age is not always number. 18 is too young people.

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Age ain't nothing but a number. It's all about Maturity of the Body and Mind. Besides at 18 I don't think she's a minor anymore.

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It's possible, if u plan very well. Age doesn't mean anything but in one condition don't try to Bleep that girl up

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only u can say if u will marry her, at 18, if she is ready and u feel she will make a good wife, u can marry her,but give her some space when married cos she is a bit young.

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be careful with this one bros. dont end up paying the school fees and be told later you are too old. seen too much of this in the last 10yrs

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I think this should be fine.  There's a 12 year age difference indeed, but she won't be 18 forever.  I think the fact that she is only 18 confuses you a bit.  I just feel that you shouldn't marry her with blinders on, be realistic.  She is going into her 20's and while she may complete her degree program, that doesn't make her an experienced woman.  In our 20's, we learn so much about our wants and desires.  So if you marry her, you should allow her time and space to grow as an individual.  Maybe you can hold off on creating a family immediately after marriage and give her time to adjust and learn what women in their early 20's need to learn about themselves.

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Go ahead and marry her if she is your choice and she wants you too. At 18 i am sure she is in the University and hopefully she will graduate having 21 or 22, damn it peeps she is a full fledged woman at 18.

Some people want her to gain some experience! She can still do that with her hubby. Or must she fok around with little boys to be called an "experienced" girl?

Even a 30 year old lady finds it difficult with first pregnancy, birth and child training.

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Please don't steal this girls youth, if she is only 18 what's the hurry to marry?

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If she love you and accept to marry you so go ahead.

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hey,

Personally i wont advise it. As far as am concerned she's still a teenager and still does not totally have a mind of her own. Believe me by the time she is your age she might change because she was not given a chance to explore and grow up. She will want to try out new things which may seem strange to you because i have noticed that who most people were at 18 is entirely different from who they turn out to become at 30. Let her grow and decide who she wants to be. She may seem passive now with you but there is a likelihood that she will change later. This is not a black and white rule but i tell you i have seen a lot of it believe me many of those women now seem rebelious to their men which is not true , they are only just discovering themselves. If you can date for a bit longer and you will see what i mean. Whatever happens i wish you the best with her.

Cheerio.

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hello , there is nothing wrong with marrying the girl, 18years is mactured enough, 12 years different is no big deal. you just take good care of her.

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I find all suggestions given thus far,very fascinating and somewhat articulate in their individual perspectives.However,i want to base my suggestion on the popular saying which goes thus `AGE IS JUST BUT A NUMBER`.Agreed,but that has its limitations as well. I am of the opinion that the girl in question,is still inexperienced in comparism to the ``Experienced`` 30 year old man.Did you say that the 19 year old girl,meets your standand of IQ you look out for in a girl/woman? And you sure she measures up to  about 70% of what u need in a woman? If these are in the affirmative,then be the judge.

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Believe it or not, a visible age gap between couples had dealt an unforeseen havoc in a marriage especially when the younger woman found herself in a more opulent societal stratum than the older man.

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I don't think "we" can answer that question correctly, , i believe u re a grown man.

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Yeah, and you will be the high priest. Brap! Brap! Brap!

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@4her

Itz alrite! Gotta go nw, nid a crash! gt a ril busy day ahead! Good Morn

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@4her

Av u got any gud reason?

anyway i chked most of the topics and saw much of ur posts so i decided since ur still online we cud chat!

I only figured out that u wud b gud chattin wiv cuz i saw ur yabs n all dat!!

No probs, wz only findin a way 2 kip buzy!

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@4 her

ur really postin ril stuffs here n dere,

do u mind if we chat?

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She's 18, and no more a baby and very much capable of making her own decisions. If it's marriage she wants fine, let her go ahead. But if she's not ready, let her be.

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SO in another word to make it easier for you, it might work negatively or positively

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Which means age has a very little dent in the incessant inclining of divorce rate in the world today.

The major factor which causes divorce nowadays is not age.

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Age might work for others, it might not for the other. . . .

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Wetin be love again? Bros, it's not all abt Love. If you ppl still believe in that concepts no wonder we now have increasing divorce cases worldwide. Loff ko loaf ni

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come

ON

Mennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

is ALL ABOUT

LOVE

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i quite agree wiv u dat itz good 2 marry early!!

If she cud handle it @ 18, nufin stops her, !!! that's his package n he shud knw wassup!!!

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well u have a point there but anything that's bizzare in this century is considered as something of the old u get? i'm expecting people 2 take it as somthing normal and not the archaic thing the old school thing. he shldn't listen 2 people who think a 12 yr gap is old school

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henry007 i actually think that marrying young is 18th century and women choosing to marry later is more of a 21st centruy phenomenon. Because they go to school, have careers and what not.

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