Got hurt after a break up? How do you start all over again and fall in love? Get some practical tips.
Love is fine and strong feeling, which can cause both desires to create and pain with suffering. For certain you heard from divorced friends "I don't want to fall in love again". People very often speak and write about the first love, about how it appears and what feelings causes. But they say "I want to start loving again" very seldom.
It is very important to know: at a rupture of the relations, treason and even divorce, it is possible to keep family and fine relations, having just fallen in love again. If you don't want the end of relations, you understood that you began to love your husband or wife less, but you don't want to destroy a family, you need to add some romance. Of course, the feeling of love isn't subject to person, but sometimes it is enough to look at the man with other eyes to love fire, which warmed you all these years, has flashed again. So, how to fall in love?
Think about how realistic to fall in love with the ex-husband or boyfriend is. Try to estimate why feelings have died, what became a reason, what acts of darling have caused your disappointment. If at heart, you regret that love has passed, and your other half continues to feel love, than there are chances that you may fall in love again.
If you have left, but after some time it became clear that it was a mistake, try to learn through mutual friends what feelings the former beloved has. If he regrets about incident and is still alone, then don't waste time in vain and invite him or her to meet. The love becomes stronger when people are in separation. Having left, you have an opportunity to estimate all offenses, claims and happened quarrels in different way; to understand that you shouldn't pay attention to some moments. If you realized it, maybe it's time to say to your lover: Let’s fall in love?
But you shouldn't try to fall in love again if the last relations have ended by agreement, and former beloved and you don't wish its renewal. To do it again, it is necessary that the love remained at heart. If there is nothing to remember, except quarrels, treason and offenses, then there is no need to pass this unsuccessful stage in life again. It is better to release everything and to wait for emergence of new big and pure love that will allow you to immerse into this beautiful feeling.
So, these are some advices, which will help you to remember your love sensations:
- Remember the first acquaintance and appointment with former darling. Feel forgotten sentiments and look at beloved with eyes of girl or guy which you once were.
- Begin to say about love more often, about how he/she is dear to you. Tell that you are happy person because he/she is nearby. Having changed the attitude towards the personality, you feel a love stream from him or her at once.
- Constantly remember all good that your beloved has made for you. Eventually, begin to compare him or her to others, noting only merits, attitude towards you, care and attention.
- Praise your sweetheart and tell tender words which are pleasant to your half not less than 3 times a day.
- Present your valentine with other woman/man.
- If you leave home for work before your beloved does, leave on pillow a note with words of love and wish of good day. Having returned from work, spend a little time with your darling, listen to him/her, arrange some unexpected surprise (even a sexual one, why not?).
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If any of offered councils and ways doesn't help, and you really can't fall in love again then it is worth thinking: If I ever fall in love? Perhaps, the love has finally deceased and you shouldn't torment yourself and your half with unsuccessful attempts to return it. But if you trust, you surely will be able to fall in love again, you only need to find suitable object for that.