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If U Propose To A Lady, Should U Start Paying For Her School Fees?

I just recently proposed to a lady and she is turning on her financial problems to me to cater,, Should i move on settling the problems as i have never paid any kobo for her dowry, I need your suggestions please,

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i tell you, man.dis is like asking whether you should cater for your wife's need.

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Ur gender confuses me!

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Go ahead and marry her first,then pay her fees. That way you won't loose her to some school boy friend.

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well, in nigeria, yes, if your fiance needs help in that area.

as people pointed out, the girl may or may not stick with you regardless. Eyes have opened these days.

haba! because of money?

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U know its hard to do, Anyway, I was angry as the DAD made use of my location, but not good sha.

Thanks ALL for the contributions, Love u All

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I have been helping her, infact the case is gone!

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No, it's not your obligation . . . However, if you have the money, there's no reason why you shouldn't help her financial situation . . .

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Am sure the proposer doesn't want to Dis-propose

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Is it possible to dispropose and tell her its a slip of tongue.

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You have propose that means she has to let go of all other HELPER so you have to do it all now.

Its your duty so DO IT.

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for me, is if u feel like

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Who was paying her school fees before you proposed?

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If you know her love is true and she is struggling to pay them, why wouldnt you? Its for you guys future isnt it?

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do what is comfortable with u, i paid for amy ex house rent N170,000 made me broke and guess what we broke up 1 week later cos i caught her cheating.fukin anoder man dat gav her nothing, if u spend and she fuks u up will u forgive her? will u regret helping her if yes dont but if no help.

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Am about giving up to what I said to her, any more suggestion?

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IMHO no you shouldnt, but if you want to then go ahead!

there are many reasons why this move  would be wrong:

- if you pay, you will believe that she is yours and if she ever cancel wedding plans. wahala will take over.

- the money will be the toughest bound rather than love/care for one another.

- if you already start your "union" by paying then be ready to do that ALL YOUR LIFE.

- what kind of example will that set? what would she have done if you had not proposed? now her parents can just stop providing for her and let YOU pay for everything.

- unless you are wealthy, spending money meant for wedding and the start of your married life on her is a big gamble. hopefully she wont dump you because you have no more money!

- if both of you are not READY to be married then proposing early and putting your self in hardship is wrong.

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I discuss this with my mum, and she said I've to do that for the fact that her parent do not have, it was the reason why many people do not propose early in other to dodge certain things.

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I am genuine girl MAGA because of kitty. I can thrown out my life to get into lady's pant. I hope I have not been cursed. I don't care if I spend my school fees on a beautiful girl . I have in fact miss several test because of morning intimacy during lecture hours and am doing all my best to get to my normal life

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If u trully love her&she does for u as well then go ahead. If shes pretending to love u, u go become maga don pay shout hallelujah

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Depends on the strategy they use, its annoying when u re helpin ur girl and the people want to use brain to sort more money from u

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