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If You Meet And Fall Inlove With An Hiv Positive Victim What Will You Do?

Truely you met and fell inlove with this person who has all the attributes you desire so much in a mate; but is HIV positive what will you do expecially when you are due to be married.

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My head rules me in matters like this and not my heart.

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My God!!!!!!!!!!u are sooo full of sh, t, i was just being honest and realistic, and whoever called u a carrier,if that is what u want to think then go ooonnnnnn cos i don't care, maybe u should learn to keep ur mouth and ur temper in check, puulleeasse,,,get off ma case,

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yes i would goahead and marry him,since its not a full blown AIDS. HIV victims can still live normal happy lives.

so what exactly do u mean by u never told me that u are in love with one, puuleese am not interested if u want to marry one or not,u ask for opinions and that's what i gave, i think u need to be disappointed at urself not me, RUBBISH,

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@ hazel-eyed

am really dissapointed at you. you don't talk to people the way you just did.for crying out loud you are not glued to this topic if you think your time is being wasted here then i'll advice you stop posting. my God,Hazel-eyed, i don't remember telling you i am a carrier or that i am inlove with one so why talk to me like that? we all have our opinons and i don't think here that am in anyway being so defensive of this topic. neither am i abusive as you mentioned. to be really honest with you i  suggest as a lady to think befor saying things out to people.

@ Rocco

i seriousely respect you. you know what love is all about;Love can never be afraid.

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@hazel_eyed: ur right about that moment we all ask ourselves silently whether we can go thru such a journey but the fact is some people are courageous than others and can live & love beyond that fear.

for me i can if the lady is truly worth it.

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u don't have to be soooo defensive.u asked for opinions and that's what we are giving u.don't come here and insult nobody.if u soo much knew that u loved this guy or he loves u if u are the carrier why come here and look for advice,

then go on and marry him, my friend, don't come here and waste our time.

it sounds like this  relationship is based more on pity than love, truth be told u cannot come here and swear that never in ur quiet moments shivered at the thot of sleeping with a hiv plus, anyway,like siena rightly said it's a matter of choice but let's try to be honest,

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Thank you siena, my sentiments exactly. Sounds like she is blackmailing you by saying if you leave her, she will die. Maybe she should have thought of that before she cheated on you with the driver or whatever. Dont date her out of pity and dont let her blackmail you emotionally.

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ladies, cut the fight. funny thing is ur both ur 66th posts, how coincidental?

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Love can never be afraid.

u wish, hissssssssssssssssssssssss, love is not afraid in ur dreams, wake up.

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Soundmind, you are a gem. Bravo to you. However, your girlfriend needs to start taking ARVs as soon as possible, otherwise she will suddenly fall ill and die. Please, take this seriously. She needs the drugs.

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I will go on with her. I have a girl friend that is hiv+. Though she was -ve when we stated but along the line, she slept with a carrier and got it. Though she denied it initially but when she could not hide it again, she told me the truth.

She then said again "my life now depend on how you will treat me, if you break my heart, i will die" i have been going with her since then but i am -ve till now. I have had sex with her severally but protected but am -ve up till now. She atimes wished herself death but with good counsel and support, she has picked up. She is living a normal life and living well. Up till now, she is not on drug but is healthy.

Pls, what kills most is the stigma not the virus. With good understanding, the carrier lives a normal life.

With love, you will overcome the stigma and give hope to the carrier.

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@ osereka

yes i would goahead and marry him,since its not a full blown AIDS. HIV victims can still live normal happy lives.

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veracious,

if na u , u fit continue d relationship? abi wetin I de hear so?

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@ crazykid

is it only HIV victims that die young? olodo

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I will fall out love with her. WHICH KIN silly QUESTION BE THIS?

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seina you are right. we all have our different opinions.

cracydemo,demonstration of crac, crazy demonstration, that was how fela (baba70) puts it.

but we can and should still show some love and consideration.

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hazel eyes u dnt sound a bit like 1 dat believes in love atall.

love could make u crazy and i mean very mad.dats y they said its blind.

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I thought this thread was more about, "would you"?

Not about whether there's a right or wrong, whatever one decides! I've answered the question honestly, and my answer was, and still is no.

Of course, one can contract HIV, even if both are negative. It's the same with using a condom - for protection from the inknown. It would be different if you actually knew the other party had more than HIV, let's say, full-blown AIDS. Suddenly, the condom to protect against what the other person MIGHT have becomes more to protect against what the person DOES have!

It's a free country, so, this thread isn't about bringing others round to your way of thinking. Opinions will always differ, it's democracy.

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The true definition of love is staying and marrying an HIV infected person.

Who says after marrying an HIV negative person, the person will not become positive in future. Lets just pray for the best to come our way and accept with joy whatever comes to us

cheers

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@ hazel eyed and seina

agreed,its difficult for us. but this person needs you,your love and care.and you know he or she could do the same for you. why leave?

come to think of it even when you both get married as HIV negatives,YOU still need to be carefull not to contact the virus, you don't have to be cheating on your spouse befor youcontact it.

Think about it we all live carefull lives,aint we?

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My dear,we are only being realistic.it's not an issue of stigmatization like siena said.if u search urself deep down and tell ur self the truth am sure u know the answer to your question.

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Personally, me?

I couldn't marry a HIV carrier. There's no stigma attached, and both HIV and non-HIV can live relatively healthy lives, as long as certain precautions are taken by both parties.

I however, can't live my daily life, being "careful" all the time. Some may think I'm selfish, but it's honesty we're talking here.

I couldn't go through with it.

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@ HAZEL-EYED where is the true love you profess to have for that someone then? remember it could happen to anybody.

@ DEB i second SANRIMA'S question to you. what if you were the victim?

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First of all, people living with HIv are not Victims. A Victim is one who is in a helpless situation but people living with HIV can take control of their lives by living positively.

To answer your question, as long as you take precautionary measures, yes. I know and work with lots of people , couples where one is positive and the other is negative.

Infact my first contact with a Person living with HIV was when at wedding. I attended the wedding of an aquaintance in 1999, i was one of her bridesmaid because i knew her in secondary school and she was a very good Born again girl, a virgin am sure. A day to the wedding they had a test and she was found to be positive, most of the other bridesmaids and even the chief bridesmaid ran away, but maybe because i was curious i stayed.( Then i did not have as much information about HIV as i do now) The guy insisted on getting married to her because He loved her and he knew she was a good person, She had an accident in 1996 when we were in secondary school and was given a blood tranfusion which blood later discovered to be infected.

They have been happily married since 1999 and have two negative kids, Husband is still negative and our friendship is tighter than ever, my friend is healthy and still has a high CD4 count, that means she is not yet on Anti retroviral drugs.

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Am sorry you did not get the question very well. what i mean here is the person you are getting married to (male or female) was diagnosed to be HIV positive not FULL BLOWN AIDS and you're really inlove and looking forward to your wedding day. what will you do expecially when you are old enough to be married,both famillies know about your relationship together, and this person is asking you to keep it a secret and go ahead with the wedding?

I hope you get it now. mind you am not the one involved.

I just need your opinion cos it could happen to anyone or family member.

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Hmm, I think the HIV guy is the hypothetical person here, the only one there is.

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i don't understand u, the person u fell in love with is it the same person u are due to marry?or u are due to marry a healthy normal person but now u are in love with the hiv guy?pls answer,

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